Joined: 07 Dec 2005 Posts: 115 Location: cedartown
Posted: 12-17-05 15:38pm
justacanadiangirl
wrote:
how far along are u
now?
i am due any day now, she is due june 10,
i
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justacanadiangirl
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Nov 2004 Posts: 1803
Posted: 12-17-05 15:40pm
Oh wow congrats :) I thought u were just a
few months along...
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perfectdiamond19
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Dec 2005 Posts: 115 Location: cedartown
Posted: 12-17-05 15:41pm
momat19
wrote:
well, it sounds to me like
you've already decided you're going to be
mad at your mom....So anything we say is
just going to be wasted. Why'd you
bother asking for advice if you already
know what you're going to do/feel? You
should have titled this "mother bashing"
because thats about all you seem to do.
Doesn't matter if she has money or
not..She raised you , she gave birth to
you . Show a little respect!
J e l o u s ... Don't bother saying
'shes not steeling my thunder" because
everything you say makes it seem more and
more that thats how you feel.
Or maybe its just
me
yes I get defensive when people start
bashing me and calling me names, I am up
set , I just wanted to know if maybe I was
wrong for feeling this way I did not ask
people to come in here and call me names
and be rude and mean, and I do respect my
mother that does not mean I have to be
happy with what she is doing,
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BareBackJack
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Nov 2005 Posts: 15 Location: Ontario
Posted: 12-17-05 15:44pm
....You wanted to know if you were wrong
for feeling this way...Thats fine. Just
don't get mad when people express why they
think you shouldn't be mad
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perfectdiamond19
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Dec 2005 Posts: 115 Location: cedartown
Posted: 12-17-05 15:51pm
I am not mad for people expressing why I
should not be mad. I am getting sick of
certain people being rude, and calling me
selfish and other things, ok so maybe I
should not be upset with her, maybe she
did not do it on purpose, I will still be
this babies sister and I will still love
it, I wish her and the baby the best, I am
not happy maybe I need time to adjust to
the idea. But now I am not only worrying
about my own child, I am left having to
worry about her and her health and the
babies, and I worry about how she will be
able to take care of this child, when I
was younger, I had alot, my mom was great
to me, since then she has been in an
accident in 98 and left somewhat disable.
So this baby will not have the same life
that I had, how is she going to chace a
baby around, and she has to have a knee
replacement soon , how will she manage
that , I cant do it for her, I will have
my son and husband and career, so yes I
worry and I am upset and I felt like I
should not be, but its hard not to be. It
is something I have to work on, but people
getting on her being rude does not help.
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Tamadrummer
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Oct 2004 Posts: 710 Location: Zephyrhills,Fl
Posted: 12-17-05 15:51pm
[/quote]
hmm its funny how my husband and
mother-in-law feel the same way I do, my
husband thinks my parents are ignorant,
and my husband who loves and respects is a
very educated man, as well as I
am[/quote]
yes, very well educated. You read right
into the fact that I was attacking your
education vs. Answering the quandry
posted. If you don't like answers that do
not agree with selfish not selflessness,
do not ask on a forum with many folks that
are also educated and rational.
Good luck and best wishes to your poor
mom,
-brian
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BareBackJack
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Nov 2005 Posts: 15 Location: Ontario
Posted: 12-17-05 15:55pm
tamadrummer
wrote:
hmm its funny how my husband and
mother-in-law feel the same way I do, my
husband thinks my parents are ignorant,
and my husband who loves and respects is a
very educated man, as well as I
am[/quote]
yes, very well educated. You read right
into the fact that I was attacking your
education vs. Answering the quandry
posted. If you don't like answers that
do not agree with selfish not
selflessness, do not ask on a forum with
many folks that are also educated and
rational.
Good luck and best wishes to your poor
mom,
-brian[/quote]
lol! Agreed
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perfectdiamond19
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Dec 2005 Posts: 115 Location: cedartown
Posted: 12-17-05 15:57pm
You know what, I am getting really
aggravated and I do not need to be getting
upset right now. I am getting annoyed by
the rude people and I am also in tons of
pain with contractions, not to mention I
am very sensitive at the moment and I am
done talking to every one. So if you want
to say anything else there will not be a
reply by me, so say what you want and have
a great day.
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justacanadiangirl
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Nov 2004 Posts: 1803
Posted: 12-17-05 15:59pm
Don't let them bother u. It's just words.
And they don't know u so why should u
care :) just take it easy hun and think of
ur little one :)
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BareBackJack
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Nov 2005 Posts: 15 Location: Ontario
Posted: 12-17-05 16:05pm
....You're having contractions? Doesn't
that mean the babies coming? I don't
think you should be sitting at your
computer while you're in labour
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justacanadiangirl
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Nov 2004 Posts: 1803
Posted: 12-17-05 16:08pm
U can have some contractions and not be in
full labor yet.
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fatfamily02
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 3050 Location: Georgia, USA
I Really Didnt Mean to Offend You Perfectdiamond Posted: 12-17-05 16:19pm
perfectdiamond19
wrote:
you know what, I am getting
really aggravated and I do not need to be
getting upset right now. I am getting
annoyed by the rude people and I am also
in tons of pain with contractions, not to
mention I am very sensitive at the moment
and I am done talking to every one. So
if you want to say anything else there
will not be a reply by me, so say what you
want and have a great
day.
i sent you email already--
i really didnt mean to offend you, that is
just my opinion on the issue. You are
right I do not know you but I also dont
know your mother. She could be one of
those 40 yr olds that have never grown up,
still having childish thought and
feelings. But I myself even if I felt
that way---i would not let my mom know of
it, and I would not disrespect her or blow
her off when she is trying to tell me
about her baby. I would not look down
on her for a baby is a miracle no matter
how old we are or if we planned them or
not.
Now, I have never had a problem with you
and I greatly respect you--but this is as
I see it, that is my opinion, that is all.
I am sorry...... Okay?
Always
joanna
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perfectdiamond19
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Dec 2005 Posts: 115 Location: cedartown
Posted: 12-17-05 16:27pm
justacanadiangirl
wrote:
u can have some contractions
and not be in full labor
yet.
thank you and she is right, you can have
strong contractions and not be in full
labor, but dont worry when they are closer
I will go to the hospital, but so far I
have been having them for 2 days now. So
I am not sure when they will be stong
enough to go to the hospital.
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perfectdiamond19
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Dec 2005 Posts: 115 Location: cedartown
Re: I Really Didnt Mean to Offend You Perfectdiamond Posted: 12-17-05 16:28pm
fatfamily02
wrote:
perfectdiamond19
wrote:
you know what, I am getting
really aggravated and I do not need to be
getting upset right now. I am getting
annoyed by the rude people and I am also
in tons of pain with contractions, not to
mention I am very sensitive at the moment
and I am done talking to every one. So
if you want to say anything else there
will not be a reply by me, so say what you
want and have a great
day.
i sent you email already--
i really didnt mean to offend you, that is
just my opinion on the issue. You are
right I do not know you but I also dont
know your mother. She could be one of
those 40 yr olds that have never grown up,
still having childish thought and
feelings. But I myself even if I felt
that way---i would not let my mom know of
it, and I would not disrespect her or blow
her off when she is trying to tell me
about her baby. I would not look down
on her for a baby is a miracle no matter
how old we are or if we planned them or
not.
Now, I have never had a problem with you
and I greatly respect you--but this is as
I see it, that is my opinion, that is all.
I am sorry...... Okay?
Always
joanna
thank you and I sent this to you .....
Its all good, I am jsut really not having
a good day and theni feel like I was
getting slamed , I do love and respect my
mother and I will never tell her how I
feel, when she tells me the stuff I
listin, I do not blow her off, I am jsut
simply, saying those things to myself, but
I do not let her here it. I jsut feel
like she is one of those woman who did it
for the wrong reasons. But I will love my
brother or sister. I know she is excited
like any woman would be, I think it means
even more to her , becaseu she lost a baby
5 yrs ago, she had a miscarriage. And the
doctors told her then it was not safe for
her and now here she is again, I just
really worry about all the bad thing that
could happen and I worry about her baby
and I am a litttle upset that she cant be
a grandmother to my son, she has already
said that, she told me she was sorry but
she could not handle having to babies
around so she was not going to be able to
spend time with cameron the way she had
explained, that hurt because I always knew
she would be a great grandmother, ya know
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BareBackJack
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Nov 2005 Posts: 15 Location: Ontario
Posted: 12-17-05 16:41pm
I stand corrected
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fatfamily02
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 3050 Location: Georgia, USA
Posted: 12-17-05 16:43pm
Yes, I do--i would feel like my kids were
missing something. But its okay
maybe ya'all can have something even
better. Some times older women get all
snotty and impatient when the grandkids
come around, with her expecting and soon
to give birth herself--maybe she will be
more of the grandmother your kids need.
Ya know??
I mean .B.B.Q with all the kids together
and baby's together in the den watchin
cartoons, it feels good to me!!! I am
weird I know.
I do understand though--
my baby's are due on april 1--by then my
first grandson will be 3 months from 3 yrs
old and my little grandaughter 3 months
from 2 years old. I really think it will
be good for us though.
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19mommy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Oct 2005 Posts: 179
Posted: 12-17-05 17:47pm
dalicialynn
wrote:
i'd be mad aswell.
I wouldn't want my 40 year old mom having
a baby, that would embaress me like crazy,
especially if she acted the way you
described your mom
has.
isnt that funny you find a 40 years old
.M.A.R.R.I.E.D pregnant mom embarrassing,
yet not a 17 years old unwed pregnant
teen. I agree with fatfamily02 only a
selfish person would be mad. Theres no
reason to be mad at all, for all you know
your mom really needs the help and support
and your here talking about her. You dont
sound mad, you sound .J.E.A.Lo.U.S. Focus
on your own pregnany and keep out of your
moms business. If your that "mad" at her
quit talking to her, seperate yourself
from her, see how much that works out for
u :x
A 40 year old pregnant woman who obviously
cant support a baby, and a 17 year old who
is in school, about to graduate, has a
job, car and who can support herself &
a baby?
Getting married isn't anything to me, a
signed piece of paper doesnt prove sh*t.
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perfectdiamond19
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Dec 2005 Posts: 115 Location: cedartown
Posted: 12-17-05 20:38pm
19mommy
wrote:
dalicialynn
wrote:
i'd be mad aswell.
I wouldn't want my 40 year old mom having
a baby, that would embaress me like crazy,
especially if she acted the way you
described your mom
has.
isnt that funny you find a 40 years old
.M.A.R.R.I.E.D pregnant mom embarrassing,
yet not a 17 years old unwed pregnant
teen. I agree with fatfamily02 only a
selfish person would be mad. Theres no
reason to be mad at all, for all you know
your mom really needs the help and support
and your here talking about her. You
dont sound mad, you sound .J.E.A.Lo.U.S.
Focus on your own pregnany and keep out of
your moms business. If your that "mad"
at her quit talking to her, seperate
yourself from her, see how much that works
out for u :x
who are you calling a 17 years old unwed
pregnant teen, because I have not heard
anyone in this particular chat say they
were,and I am 20 years old and married.
And I have been with my husband for 2
years. So I am assuming its not me, just
making sure you did not get the impression
that I was a teen., and as for staying in
my mothers business, she brings me in to
it. And I am focusing just fine on my
child thank you
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perfectdiamond19
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Dec 2005 Posts: 115 Location: cedartown
Posted: 12-17-05 20:43pm
dalicialynn
wrote:
a 40 year old pregnant woman
who obviously cant support a baby, and a
17 year old who is in school, about to
graduate, has a job, car and who can
support herself & a baby?
Getting married isn't anything to me, a
signed piece of paper doesnt prove
sh*t.
I am married but you are right, there is
notthing to being married, a woman does
not have to have a man to raise a child,
if you are 17 and not married thats all
good just give your baby all that you can.
I got married becasue my husband is the
love of my life, my soulmate,. And we
share this child together, but you may
feel you do not want that or need that,
keep your head up and stay stronge. If
you ever wanna chat email me and per
fectdiamond19@aol.Com
