Yikes! Well, to tell you the truth, you really do not have any rights as a father until the baby is born and you order a blood test to prove paternity.

Being that she just got married, is there any way that the baby could be her husband's? If there is a possibility it could be his she may very well just play it off as such, and try to leave you out of the picture. If you should then decide that you want to be involved in the child's life if it is indeed your's, then you would have to get a court-ordered blood test. You would then most likely have visitation rights, and will have to pay child support.

On the other hand, if there is not a possibility it is the husband's when he finds out about the pregnancy he may opt to annull the marriage and leave her. In this case she will most likely turn back to you for support. The only thing you can really do now is to wait and see how things play out.

First of all, thankyou so much for the advice...It is a sticky situation for sure. Her husband is quite religious, and thus, wants to work it out and is leaning towards raising the baby. However, he is asian, and she is white, and I am white, so it is going to be a little obvious. I am about 90 percent sure that it is mine, they slept together before he left for iraq on nov the 9th, and then she had a period the day after, and then I slept with her on the 25. She has not had a period since, and the tests prove positive. If they do keep the baby, then the husband does not want me to have anything to do with it as it is already a constant reminder when he looks at the kid to know that it is from me and not him. I can understand this, but however, it is my kid, and I have to be able to at least hold it and see it once in a while. This again furthers my need for advice...

As I mentioned before, you really do not have any parental rights until after the baby is born. After the baby is born, if you are sure you want to be a part of your child's life, then the next step would be to get a court-ordered blood test. The baby's mother has to comply, otherwise she will be in contempt of court. Then go from there.