Joined: 29 Sep 2005 Posts: 59 Location: vic australia
Falling For a Friends Girl.... Help. Posted: 12-20-05 03:31am
I have a big problem. I am falling for a
friends girlfriend, that part of it the
big problem is that she likes me aswel.
See we been talking for the last 4 months
just as friends and we get along so well.
And then she was fighting with her
boyfriend (my friend) and I was tyring to
be a good friend to her and tell her
things would work out. But then she told
me that she talks about me to her mum.
And the she would love to end up with a
guy like me.That when I started to see how
much I liked her and then the other night
we started this game where we would try to
guess what we say to other about each
other. And I found out that she likes me.
When I tryed to get her to guess she
started a new game. We woulg say what we
mean, no holding back, no regrets. So I
told her and since she told me that
everytime she sees me she just wants to
hold me down and kiss me. I have not
problems with that but I don't want my
friend to get hurt. Me and her are mental
for each other.
What do I do?????
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~baby~g~
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jul 2005 Posts: 221 Location: Ohio
Posted: 12-23-05 14:47pm
Wow, sounds similar to what happened to
me. The guy I was with a few months ago
was well I dunno but anyways my best
friend started talking to him as
'friends'. She started liking him but of
course she wouldn't tell me that because I
loved him. Well, she started telling him
lies about me and me lies about him &
finally I just got so sick & tired of
it that I told my best friend to f*c* off
& stayed with my bf, that lasted a few
days & we talked again. The guy and I
broke up, he only talked to me a few times
a month & bam him & her are
talking. Ya know i'm not dumb lol I
figured out she was talking to him a few
days ago at my house & the next
evening and I heard her say she loved him.
I was pissed so I threw our whole
friendship away and decided to talk to
this guy myself so I did. He promised me
he wasn't with her & he wouldn't talk
to her anymore because he still loved me.
Do I believe that? I dunno but I know he
hasn't talked to her for a week or so
now.
Anyways, back to you. I would seriously
think about what you're doing before you
loose a friend and a girl you have a lot
of feelings for. Think what is more worth
it. Your friend or a girl that is your
friends girlfriend. I know you have to be
in a tough situation. Talk to the girl
and if you 2 decide you really want to be
together then go to the guy & explain
the situation to him. Just remember, he's
going to get his heart broken.
Hope I helped <3
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hellburn
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Sep 2005 Posts: 59 Location: vic australia
Posted: 12-25-05 15:17pm
Yeah already talked about it to the girl
and she feels the same towards me, but I
haven't to my friend yet it really hard.
I going to wait a day or to because there
breaking up they been having trouble for
about a month (not because of me) just not
working between them. I think I will wait
a few weeks after that before I tell him
wats going on. Then if he cool with it I
see if I can get the girl. If he not cool
with it I don't no wat to do. Realy like
the girl, but don't want to lose my
friend.
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~baby~g~
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jul 2005 Posts: 221 Location: Ohio
Posted: 12-27-05 14:55pm
Yeah, that sounds like a plan!!
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hellburn
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Sep 2005 Posts: 59 Location: vic australia
Posted: 01-07-06 23:39pm
Yeah she dumped him about a week ago. And
we desided to get together on the 31st
(her birthday) that gives him a month to
work his caca out. He can't be that heart
broken cause he had a girl on the side
that we just found out about.
Yeah he not very popular with meny poeple
at the moment.
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czarg
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jan 2006 Posts: 68 Location: Lagos-Nigeria
Doesn't Last. Posted: 01-13-06 19:45pm
I have observed that such affairs don't
last long. I was there too. A friend of
mine was in a relationship back then when
we were in the university. His gf came
into town and found out he was dating
someone else so she was pissed. In the
course of me trying to mend fences,she
fell for me and call it a crush, we
kissed.
Dat was d farthest we ever went. Years
later now, we both knew that came up cuz
there was tension.
Few of such flings may pass the test but
most don't basically bcuz of your
reputation at stake before yr friend and
the viewing crowd from the distance. I'd
say it might not be worth the stress
afterall.
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hellburn
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Sep 2005 Posts: 59 Location: vic australia
Posted: 01-14-06 23:34pm
Well I would rather try and find out if
there is something or not then just say
sorry it mite not work out before anything
even happens. Wheres the fun in that. We
both no that it not gonna last for ever.
But it is always fun to have someone
special in your life. I now I want be
having kids with her but we can have
funwhile it lasts.
