Hi I am 21 years old and I have a 3 year
old boy and a 14 month old girl I am also
8 weeks pregnant
do u think I am stupid having 3 kids at 21
or am I selfish as I want it and my
partner doesnt
can u please please give me some advice?
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liwikiwi
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Dec 2005 Posts: 235 Location: Canada
No! Posted: 12-21-05 08:29am
I don't really have advice. But no, you
are not stupid for have children so young.
There is nothing wrong with wanting a
child that your partener does not. He can
not feel what you feel and see things
differently. A mother has a special
connection with the child inside her...Men
can't feel that or fully understand what I
wonderful feeling that is. Lots of women
regret not having children at a young age.
As long as you are able to love and care
for your children there is nothing wrong
with you.
Congrats on the new preg 8-)
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pinkrakel
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Dec 2005 Posts: 34 Location: england
Posted: 12-21-05 08:33am
Thanks for the message yeah I love my kids
very much and they get everything that is
needed
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liwikiwi
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Dec 2005 Posts: 235 Location: Canada
Posted: 12-21-05 08:47am
Well then, you are not selfish at all!
You are just ahead of everyone else.
Which is a good thing. This way your
young and can run around with your kids,
and have enough energy to handle three
kids..You'll also (probably) be a young
grandma and be able to play with your
grandkids..Instead of being 70 with bad
hips and no hearing 8-) ...And heck,
you'll probably be able to see your great
grandkids...Maybe even great great
grandkids 8-} but you are definately not
stupid or selfish...Many women would envy
you for being so lucky!!
<3
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pinkrakel
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Dec 2005 Posts: 34 Location: england
Posted: 12-21-05 08:50am
Thanks I starting to feel better about
this pregnancy now I will just have to sit
down to my partner and tell him how I feel
as I usually let him have his say and just
go along with it
i am a new woman
lol
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diamondsz
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Far From Selfish Posted: 12-21-05 08:58am
Just thought id say congrats!!!
I have a 16 mths old and im preggers
with #2, I just turned 22 and well I dont
regret it at all although would have been
nice if I could have waited. My mom had
six kids before 30 and she just turned 41
but all though she said it was hard she
loves it because we learn the values of a
family instead of money...
I wish you luck on ur upcoming baby as
well happy holidays
jess
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pinkrakel
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Dec 2005 Posts: 34 Location: england
Posted: 12-21-05 09:01am
Thanks for the reply
congratulations on your one as well
and happy christmas
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Ta-ra
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Dec 2005 Posts: 97 Location: uk
Posted: 12-23-05 00:00am
Nah you not stupid.Your lucky wish I had
kids at 21 but never found mr right then,
I have now tho :) good luck
i wanted kids at 16 but that was a stupid
age to want them . I didnt have any
neither and had a miscarriage recently so
im gonna wait a few months let body go
back to how it was then maybe try again ;)
:p
merry xmas to you all :)
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Jackeline
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Dec 2005 Posts: 10 Location: victorville
Posted: 12-23-05 22:59pm
I agree witht the other ladies. I just
turned 23. And I am on my third baby
also. I am 2 months preg. And I have two
boys 4yrs old and 3yrs. Old. I had my
first one at 19. Got married at 18. And
belive me a lot of people had a lot to
say. But dont listen to anyone. Because
their not supporting your children or
waking up in the middle of the night with
them or feeding them watching them. So
who cares what they think anyway. You
enjoy your children because it is a gift
from up above to be able to have children.
There are so many women who cant
conceive. You are lucky. Enjoy being a
woman! And a mom. :)
