I have a little issue here. Actually, a
big issue. I tell my wife several times
a day that I love her. But my problem
is, I don’t feel it anymore. I don’t
feel it when I tell her. I’ve always
thought that when you love someone,
you’ll feel it in both your heart and
soul.
We’ve been married 6 months. Actually
christmas day was 6 months. We started
dating back in july 2003, and when I moved
home (6 hours away), in september 2003,
she moved with me. She and I lived
together for 1 year and 2 months before we
got married.
A little background on the two of us.
She grew up being dependent on her family
for everything. Basically everything she
ever wanted, she just asked for and
basically gotten. Whereas myself, was
always very independent and working for
everything i’ve ever gotten. I have a
strong interest in cattle, tractors, and
computers. She has a huge interest in
horses. She wants us to get our own
house, whereas i’m content renting the
apartment that we’re in.
Now i’m confused. I don’t know if I
want this marriage to work out or not.
Another think that keeps going through my
mind, is that I can see myself with
another person or two. I keep wondering
what it would be like if I was with so and
so.
Thanks,
confused in northern il
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gemski
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Nov 2005 Posts: 11
Life Is Hard Posted: 12-29-05 22:34pm
I know where you are comming from.
Honestly life is to short to be unhappy.
I have been with my fiance since I was 17
I am now 23. I honestly thought I didnt
want to be with him. I thought there was
more to life than this. I felt I didnt
love him anymore. I thought I would be
happy with someone else. We split up for
6 weeks. And that was the hardest 6
weeks of my life, but it was the best
thing theat could have happened to us. I
realized I truly loved him, that I wanted
to spend the rest of my life with him.
And he felt the same way. We are now
back together, and are happier than we
have ever been in our relationship I felt
horrible that I had those thoughts but now
I know what I want. If you are not happy
than maybe you need to talk with her about
it. Spliting up could be the best
decision or the worst. Honestly you will
know in your heart. Maybe she feels the
same way. I am not saying just up and
leave her so please dont take it like
that. But, I am saying if you feel this
way you need to tell her. Talk it out
maybe you need time to figure yourself
out. I hope all goes well for you and
your wife!!!
Thats tough.
I think you still do love her.
I often get like this with my boyfriend..
Were both busy and we find it difficult to
talk, even though we spend a lot of time
together. I often feel like we're in a
rut, or that I don't know him anymore. You
can lose a connections quickly. We fix it
by having a huge chat, about everything,
sometimes I cry, but after I think we both
feel better and our love is strong again..
Not that it went anywhere, but you can
'forget.'
Maybe youre just losing the connection
with your wife. Have a chat with her about
you, your goals, her goals and your lives
lately, and whatever else.. That might
help things, or you might realize that you
just don't like the person that she really
is.
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