How old are you 2?? It is true that most girls want to be around their mother or another older lady. How about you go to where she is & stay with her until she is ready to go back? If that's possbile, I dunno. Comfort her and just let her know you'll be there for her through everything & remind her that you are the babies father!! Hopefully everything works out for you!

I am 24 and she is 20. I am giogn to try and go down this weekend. But I have to work during the week.

Hey! Okay, my best suggestion to you would be for you to go to where she is, move to south carolina with her. Pregnancy is a very very confussing time in a womens life. She probably feels safe with her mother so, with her mother is where she is probably going to stay. The stress of making the decision of staying where she is or coming back to you is not good on your un-born child. What are the reasons why you can't move to south carolina, get a job there, and the two of you get a place near her mother? I hope all works out for you!

God bless and good luck,
teresa

I would attempt the going to sc to be with her. If all else fails you could stay in your car, or a shelter until a paycheck comes in.

We actually just moved from there a month ago. We didn't know she was pregnant. She wanted to move, applied to school, helped pick out the place I bought. So now I have a new place, a new job and everything else. I can't just pack up and move back there. She is going where everything is comfortable.

Alternatively does anyone know the odds of me getting custody of the child if she doesn't come back? :(

If your girlfriend and your unborn child mean as much to you as they should then all of the material things that you just mentioned shouldn't matter. Your whole life sometimes must go on hold for a child. Forget the new home and job... Your girlfriend and child should mean much more to you. The chances of you getting custody of the child aren't very great... The mother almost always wins the custody battle (which is very unforunate in some cases). Do you really love your girlfriend??

God bless,
teresa

hey fatfamily!! How is the baby (babies?)? How are you??

God bless,
teresa

Yes I love her but I have started to doubt her love for me. I have told her I would do everything I could to support her. I would pay what needed to be paid, I would get her the food she wanted at 2:00 am, I want nothign mroe than to just take care fo her and my family. It hurts that she is contemplating moving back home. Should I really move back there, take a job that will not pay nearly as well and have no insurance to live in another house from her as she is adament that if s he moves back there she is living with her parents. The deal is her parents have told her "move home we will pay for your car, your school (she's still in college), your expenses and take care fo the baby. You won't haev to worry about anything". I can't compete with that. So the only chances I think I have to get custody (if she indeed does stay home) is to have a good job, provide a nice home, a loving house, and insurance/benefits for the child. I only hope the courts will see that she moved home, lives with her parents, doesn't have a job, and still needs to finish college.

I agree that it is wrong of her parents to try to keep her and your child away from you. The reasons you listed (her parents taking care of everything) is the reason she is staying. I'm not understanding how you can think that having a house and material things are more important than being with your girlfriend and baby. Nothing should be me important. Do you not agree?? Just because your girlfriend is thinking of staying home (where her parents will insure a good future for her and her child... And pay for her schooling) doesn't mean that she doesn't love you. It seems to me to be the opposite. Maybe she thinks that if she stays with her parents that she can stay in school and once she is finished be able to provide for you and your child better then only you working can. Understand? You have to look at it from her point of view as well. If she doesn't stay with her parents will she be able to continue school? If not, maybe she is not ready to give that up... School is very very important. The courts will not see it they way you think that they will. The child being with the mother is in most cases the best intrest of the child. The couts will see that the mother is making a good effort in school and the child has a good support system through her parents (yor girlfriends parents). Look, the bottom line is... Your girlfriend is the one carrying the child so ultimatly it is up to her... You have no chose but to do what she feels is best for the child. Your son/daughter needs you... Please do not send him/her back and foward from home to home and through court over and over again just because you didn't want to give up your home and job and move back to south carolina. Just move back... Gret your teeth and bare it for a while... Your child will thank you for it some day.

God bless,
teresa

she understands all of this too---so give her a while with her comfort--and if she truly loves you she will come back. If she doesnt then it has all been excuses and you need to try and get atleast partial custody. Just dont try and take the kid from her. Without darn good money and top of the line lawyer it wont happen. I wish you lots of luck.

My son is married to a woman like that, she just has to take up and leave every once in awhile, but she always comes home. And all the reasons she has for leaving are just excuses for her to get her own way.

hi,

how was christmas?? Ours was good. The baby's are fine. I go to dr appt tomorrow at 11:15 am. I am so happy. Cant wait, I am going stir crazy.

Our christmas was great! It was my sons first (he is 5 months)... He really didn't know what was going on but had a ball tearing up the wrapping paper! Lol! I bet you are going stir crazy!!! How far along are you now?? Pretty close to time right? What is your doc app. For tomorrow?? I'll be praying for you and your babies!! Are you hoping for boys or girls or both??

God bless and good luck,
teresa

26.3 weeks today--and once the .Dr confirms it(tomorrow)they decide how long to let me go. Around 32 weeks with abdominal usually. One boy one girl would be good.

My name is kisha llwellen im 17 years old and I am 20 weeks pregnant. I moved out of home when I was 1m pergnant and almost everyday I come back home. I never really liked my mom up and tell now. For some reason I just wont her near me. My bf is just lucky that my mom is only around the corner.

So I think it is a natral thing for a girl to be around her mom.

Have you told her how you feel and that you want to be a part of this childs life? Is there anyone like around her, family or friends telling her to do otherwise because I know as a women I would want my BF/husband or whatever to be there with me every step of the way, I mean it is comforting to have your mother there with you, but nothing is more comfortable than having the father of your child wanting to be there.