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Q: He Promised If I Was..he Would Take Care of Us

asked by: Mississippi on December 28th, 2005

Experienced User

Now that I found out that he was cheating on me all along..And I was just a woman on the side..I am so frustrated.No matter how many times I call and leave messages telling him that i'm almost sure that i'm pregnant..Or please buy me a digital test..Or please take me to the clinic..Or please hold me..I get no answer.He wants nothing to do with me or our child(if there's one).I found out the hard way..Early christmas morning when I sent him a text message.A woman called me back and explained that the man I love..And would do anything for..And my first..And the man that could've possibly gotten me pregnant...Is also her man.My heart stopped.If you've ever been heart broken before..You know what I mean.I'm in this alone..But he always promised me..That he would take care of us..But its been 3 days..And nothing..What am I supposed to do?God won't let me break down and cry...That's what I want to do..But I just can't.I want to be able to let it go..But I believe god is opening my eyes up to some things because I never sent him a text message at 2 in the morning before.He's no good and he promised that he wouldn't play with my heart because he knows how it feels to have someone step on your heart and you mean nothing.Its a shame that he meant everything to me..And I meant absolutely nothing to him.All I want is a shoulder to cry on..I'm trying to stay strong..He runined my first semester of school..So i'm going back in january.I feel like I don't need a man for anything now.I feel like my son/daughter will be in the nba and he's going to come back and he'll be a crack head and he'll be all strung out on drugs..And he'll want to be a part of their life..But i'm gonna say..No..I just..Its been 3 weeks and I still think i'm pregnant.Now I know he's another dead beat.

Replies(11)

Angel_Who_Crys

replied on December 28th, 2005

Experienced User

Re: He Promised If I Was..he Would Take Care of Us

mississippi wrote:

now that I found out that he was cheating on me all along..And I was just a woman on the side..I am so frustrated.No matter how many times I call and leave messages telling him that i'm almost sure that i'm pregnant..Or please buy me a digital test..Or please take me to the clinic..Or please hold me..I get no answer.He wants nothing to do with me or our child(if there's one).I found out the hard way..Early christmas morning when I sent him a text message.A woman called me back and explained that the man I love..And would do anything for..And my first..And the man that could've possibly gotten me pregnant...Is also her man.My heart stopped.If you've ever been heart broken before..You know what I mean.I'm in this alone..But he always promised me..That he would take care of us..But its been 3 days..And nothing..What am I supposed to do?God won't let me break down and cry...That's what I want to do..But I just can't.I want to be able to let it go..But I believe god is opening my eyes up to some things because I never sent him a text message at 2 in the morning before.He's no good and he promised that he wouldn't play with my heart because he knows how it feels to have someone step on your heart and you mean nothing.Its a shame that he meant everything to me..And I meant absolutely nothing to him.All I want is a shoulder to cry on..I'm trying to stay strong..He runined my first semester of school..So i'm going back in january.I feel like I don't need a man for anything now.I feel like my son/daughter will be in the nba and he's going to come back and he'll be a crack head and he'll be all strung out on drugs..And he'll want to be a part of their life..But i'm gonna say..No..I just..Its been 3 weeks and I still think i'm pregnant.Now I know he's another dead beat.

go out and get a test yourself...Then you will know for sure

Mississippi

replied on December 28th, 2005

Experienced User

At first I wanted it..But now since I know i'm alone.I think twice.When I find out..I will forget about him because I already moved on.

Angel_Who_Crys

replied on December 28th, 2005

Experienced User

mississippi wrote:

at first I wanted it..But now since I know i'm alone.I think twice.When I find out..I will forget about him because I already moved on.

like I say take a test and then you will know

Jackie27

replied on December 28th, 2005

Experienced User

Ever hear of first comes love then comes marriage then comes(you) with a baby carriage???

Angel_Who_Crys

replied on December 28th, 2005

Experienced User

jackie27 wrote:

ever hear of first comes love then comes marriage then comes(you) with a baby carriage???

thats a new way at puting it

beachgirl1

replied on December 28th, 2005

Experienced User

Promises are made to be broken, leave that ass in the dust and move on, millions of woman do it on there own. Stay strong and good luck!!!

sandyallen

replied on December 28th, 2005

Extremely eHealthy

If you are pregnant with his child, take him to the cleaners! If you are not, then dump him!
The best to you!
Keep us posted!
We are here for you!

DaliciaLynn

replied on December 28th, 2005

Extremely eHealthy

It's sad you feel the need to get an abortion or giving the baby up because you need a man to support you.

angel face

replied on January 3rd, 2006

New User

He Is a Man

First get a test done, no need to be so stressed if ur not preg. Second of all he's a man and they think with their penis. Not all of them do, there are some great men in this world. Anyways never feel like u need a man to do anything I mad that mistake and I look back at it and ask myself what did he do for me, nothing. Don't listen to what anyone says love is not suppose to hurt, not one pinch!!! He is taking away from ur strength and keepen it for himself don't let him do that to u. If u are preg and feel u don't want the baby thats up to u. I'm not in ur head nor will I ever understand ur situation to its fullest but don't do it because he is not there. Do u want a man in ur life or ur childs life who does nothing but lie and is of no help. He is just an emotional drain don't let him be the reason for anything. I made that mistake and I don't regret it but i've learned from it. This may be hard to say but men are a dime in a dozen and u'll come in contact with a-lot more, some good some bad r they going to be able to run ur life like this a** whole is doing. He is not even there. So please don't do it because some man isn't there because he is just that some man!!!!

Mississippi

replied on January 5th, 2006

Experienced User

Ok..You're all right.I really don't think he would be much help to a child but I at least want my child to know who their father is.I'm going to school and working and saving up money.I'm going to buy another test soon because I took 2.Both were like faint positives.I don't know..I hear evaporation lines are gray...But I also hear they are the same color as the lines.So I don't know.Mine was the color of the line in the test I took.He was a big mistake..But i'll handle mine on my own.

DaliciaLynn

replied on January 5th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

It doesn't affect kids as much as you think without a father, especially if their worthless anyways.

My brother grew up without a father & he came out just fine, not to mention there are some good guys out there who play daddy in other babies lives, not being their own.

Its not that big of a deal really, its just the way you look at it.

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