Is is common for someone that is bipolar
to make stuff up all of the time? My ex
keeps e-mailing me and he doesn't make any
sense and his stories are not adding up at
all! For example; first he told me that
he is quitting his job for now and that
his girlfriend that he has been with for 4
months is going to support him by her
still working during that time. He also
said that he is also going to marry her
next month and get on her health
insurance. (he has told me over and over
that he never wants to get married) he
said he was going to a doctor for his
bipolar disorder at the mayo clinic. He
said since he would be out of town and not
working and that he couldn't pay me child
support.
Ok, then he e-mails me a few hours later
and said that they talked it over and he
is not going to the mayo clinic at all and
is staying in town here and will still be
working and just go to a doctor here.
Then the next day he e-mails me again and
tells me that he sorry for saying some of
the things he has been saying to me (we
were arguing about stuff) and that he has
a lot going on right now with his
girlfriend. He said that she has serious
health issues and they are waiting to hear
from her doctors. He made it sound like
it wasn't good, and he did ask me a couple
of weeks ago the name of the surgeon that
operated on my dad when he had colon
cancer. He wouldn't tell me why at the
time.
Now, does this make any sense?? First she
is going to be working to support him and
then the next day he says her health isn't
good?Also, I happen to know that he is
still looking for women to date (i have
proof), yet he told me he was getting
married next month! He does stuff like
this all of the time and did the whole 5
years we dated too. Things never add up.
Is this common with bipolar or is it maybe
something he has along with it? I have
thought that he may possibly have
borderline personality disorder, but he
has never been diagnosed with it. It is
just so strange.
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firefly09
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Oct 2005 Posts: 45 Location: UK
Posted: 12-30-05 03:25am
Your boyfriend seems to not know what he
wants and keeps swaping and changing his
mind. As a sufferer myself from this
illness I often do what hes doing, but I
dont know whether or not its just a
personality thing, or if its the illness
itself. One minute I want one thing but
the next day I want something completly
different, or I dont know wht I want and
regret saying things I said I wanted which
I dont (hope that makes sense). Sounds
like from reading your post hes sort of
similar.
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Liz26
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Oct 2005 Posts: 51
Posted: 01-01-06 18:10pm
Yeah, he goes back and forth on things
too. I am not talking about that though.
I am talking about making stuff up and not
making sense. Nothing he says adds up.
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Sweet1234
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Dec 2005 Posts: 2 Location: Indiana
Re: Making Up Stories? Posted: 01-01-06 18:28pm
liz26
wrote:
is is common for someone
that is bipolar to make stuff up all of
the time? My ex keeps e-mailing me and
he doesn't make any sense and his stories
are not adding up at all! For example;
first he told me that he is quitting his
job for now and that his girlfriend that
he has been with for 4 months is going to
support him by her still working during
that time. He also said that he is also
going to marry her next month and get on
her health insurance. (he has told me
over and over that he never wants to get
married) he said he was going to a doctor
for his bipolar disorder at the mayo
clinic. He said since he would be out of
town and not working and that he couldn't
pay me child support.
Ok, then he e-mails me a few hours later
and said that they talked it over and he
is not going to the mayo clinic at all and
is staying in town here and will still be
working and just go to a doctor here.
Then the next day he e-mails me again and
tells me that he sorry for saying some of
the things he has been saying to me (we
were arguing about stuff) and that he has
a lot going on right now with his
girlfriend. He said that she has serious
health issues and they are waiting to hear
from her doctors. He made it sound like
it wasn't good, and he did ask me a couple
of weeks ago the name of the surgeon that
operated on my dad when he had colon
cancer. He wouldn't tell me why at the
time.
Now, does this make any sense?? First
she is going to be working to support him
and then the next day he says her health
isn't good?Also, I happen to know that he
is still looking for women to date (i have
proof), yet he told me he was getting
married next month! He does stuff like
this all of the time and did the whole 5
years we dated too. Things never add up.
Is this common with bipolar or is it
maybe something he has along with it? I
have thought that he may possibly have
borderline personality disorder, but he
has never been diagnosed with it. It is
just so strange.
i am not one that has been diagonsed with
being bipolar, but know a good many who
are. From what I have seen from those
who have bipolar, they all swing back and
forth - kind of like in a confused state
all the time. It is like yes, and then
no, and then well they don't know. It
can really be confusing to just talk with
them on a day to day basis.
As for your ex, I wouldn't take much of
what he says to heart. It is obvious
that he is in that change of mind mode and
in all reality has no idea what is what.
I will say that some people that I know
that are bipolar, do a lot better once
they are getting help for it. Getting
medications to help with the change of
thought process and going to therapy and
all does seem to take some of that
confusion away from some.
If I were you, I would try and get him in
to see a therapist and put on some
medications to try and help with him being
in this confusion period. Anymore, even
if one does not have insurance something
can be arranged so that people can still
get help for such disorders.
I am not a doctor or anything of the sort,
but that is what I would do if I were you
I do believe.
Take care.
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