Telling Your Parents Your Pregnant? Anyone Advice Posted: 12-30-05 19:03pm
I know I wrote earlier about this topic.
But I was wondering what some people have
done in the past about telling there
parents that you are pregnant. I just
found out im pregnant 5 days about. Im 5
weeks pregnant I just found out. So my
boyfriend and I are talking and pretty
sure we are keeping it. But first we have
to tell our parents!!!!! And I have no
idea how to confront them about it or what
I should say. My boyfriend doesnt no
either. If I was older this would be
easier. But im 16 ( im 16 in a month ).
Please anyone who has advice leave some!
Thankyou
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diamondsz
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Posted: 12-30-05 20:39pm
Honestly they may not be too thrilled or
maybe they will depends on the sitiuation,
I used to break bad news to my mom all the
time but about other stuff but here are
some ideas.....
Sit your mom & dad down and have ur bf
there with you and instead of saying im
prego try "mom im expecting and was
wondering if you could help me but I dont
believe in abortion" just mold this to ur
personality. I know its going to be hard
to confront them but its better done
earlier than later and if ur bf is there
with you they may not be so harsh while he
is there. Drop some hints or just be
straight forward and tell your parents
that you need to talk about your future
and boyfriend!
Your parents deserve to know since they
have been your mentors since the day you
were born, if they are upset dont flip out
make sure you also explain to them that
too much stress would be bad for you and
the baby but things will get better...
Wish you luck and let me know how it
goes!!
Jess
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Isabel23
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Joined: 27 Mar 2005 Posts: 191
Posted: 12-30-05 20:59pm
Thank you. I needed some good advice for
this!!!!
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~*~Jillian~*~
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Joined: 01 Feb 2005 Posts: 1759 Location: Tennessee, USA
Posted: 01-01-06 23:06pm
I think the best way to tell your parents
...Is in person...And as soon as you
can...The longer you wait the more they
will be mad...And telling them in person
will show them that you are mature about
the whole deal...I learned both when I was
pregnant....
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neeko177
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Joined: 16 Feb 2005 Posts: 427
Posted: 01-02-06 05:16am
Everyone is different. It took me a while
to tell my parents. I knew they would be
supportive and want me to keep the baby
even if they were upset with me.. I knew
I was pregnant for maybe a month and a
half before I told my mom.. I am 17 years
old. My bf kept casually telling his
parents.. "hey mom guess what? Nicoles
pregnant" and walking outta the room..
They thought he was joking for the longest
time, and they straight out asked me one
day.. And I was just like yep! And
walked outta the room too.. Its better
with his parents to let it sink in.. Lol
nd then he talked to them serioulsy when
he was ready...
Anyways.. With my mom.. I waited till I
knew what I was going to do, if I was
going to keep it or not since my bf wanted
me to get an abortion.. I went over there
to do laundry one day.. And asked her to
come and help me fold it.. Started
talking about my the baby my aunt had
recently had.. And just said..
Sooo.."speaking of babys" and my mom was
like oh! For real! And ran out to ask my
bf if it was true.. She ran around like a
chicken with her head cut off, she was
happy! Lol so they could surprise you, ya
never know! Thats my story..
I basicly suggest you sorta have things
figured out with what you are going to do
so you can tell your parents your plans,
show responsibility etc.. It really
depends on what they are like
I can't give you a good answer
honestly...I'm so close with both my
parents. I remember I told my mom I
thought I was late with my period, she
said "okay" and the next morning woke me
up with a pregnancy test in her hand. We
literally took it together.
My dad on the other hand....Were close but
he's more strict, we waited a couple
months and then told him. He was
dissapointed, which I mean duh...They're
gonna be dissapointed, thats just
something you have to expect.
If I was in a situation where i'd have to
tell my parents, but not being as close to
them as I am. I think I would write a
letter. A letter is always good for
serious things because you dont have to
say it to their face, you dont have to
worry about crying & chickening out.
Just write the letter and give it to them.
Personally, I wouldnt bring my boyfriend
when you first tell them because sh*t
could hit the fan lol...
If you need anymore advice just message
me.
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Isabel23
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Joined: 27 Mar 2005 Posts: 191
Posted: 01-02-06 17:23pm
Thankyou guys so much... I know this is
so hard..... But I really appreciate all
your advice its bringing so many thoughts
to my mind and my boyfriends on how to
tell them. Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!
Isabel*
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fuzzybuttedmonky
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Joined: 08 Feb 2004 Posts: 132 Location: Lansing, Ks
Posted: 01-02-06 18:05pm
I didnt have the option of telling my mom
in person and it was really sad bc I would
have loved to have a hug or at least have
her been here when I told her but she was
in iraq at the time. But I just told her
I had to tell her something and that was
it and she knew what I was going to say
but I just came out and told her anyway
and she just took it in she was a lil
upset but very happy she was having a
grandbaby. My dad was another story
though. We never really got along in the
first place and I was staying at his house
for 2 weeks over xmas break when I found
out. I asked my mom to tell him because
I knew how he was going to react and I
wasnt prepared to deal with it just then.
So she told him for me one night and then
he called me crying and yelling at me bc
it was a silly thing to do and I couldnt
even tell him to his face. But since I
havent lived with my dad since I was 2 it
isnt a huge deal to me ... Plus I never
see him now as it is ... And he refuses
to claim his grandson. But the whole
point of that long thing ... Just come
out and tell them and let them deal with
it. Tell them what u plan on doing and
what not and if they want to be supportive
then accept it and if they dont want to
help out and be there for u just say oh
well ur loss and move on bc u can do it
with or without anyone. But we are here
for u no matter what too!!!
Let me ... Or us ... Know how it goes
~kit~
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Jako188
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Joined: 30 Dec 2005 Posts: 15
Posted: 01-02-06 18:18pm
Thank you for that.... Im so sorry to
here that!!! Im here for you and I bet
many people are as well. Hope your mom is
doing well in irac!! Hope she will come
back safetly. And I will tell eveyone the
results.... Good luck.
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fuzzybuttedmonky
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Feb 2004 Posts: 132 Location: Lansing, Ks
Posted: 01-02-06 18:33pm
I forgot to mention when I posted earlier
but ... My mom is home safe and sound and
is loving every second with her grandson.
She got back in the middle of oct. We
have a whole yr before we have to worry
bout her going back but according to my
mom the new troops that got send over
there then wait in kuwait for a month then
get sent to the other countries are
getting sent back already so hopefully she
wont have to go again.
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Isabel23
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Mar 2005 Posts: 191
Posted: 01-02-06 18:34pm
Hey ( jako188 ) is my boyfriend.... He is
with me and we were on his.... And I was
resproding on his ( accidently ). Sorry
lol
