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bita

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Plastic Surgery Posted: 09-08-06 18:12pm


If you are ugly , consider plastic surgery. Like maybe one or two, not more than that cuz it would look fake. I think looks are important, its the first thing you see. But its ok if ur ugly, cuz u can alwaysssss change ur looks with plastic surgery, just thank god that ur alive and healthy. - :p

dead little me

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Posted: 09-12-06 08:35am


Hey, im sixteen and feel that I am ugly and will never find someone. But dont give up because everyone is beautiful in there own way. No one is perfect. Everyone has thing 'wrong' with them that they would like to change. And to be honest it seems to me that you have been going after shallow women. Try find people that you have some thing in common with or just start off as friends. But please dot give up on your dreams ad love because there is someone for everyone and loads of people think that they are ugly but really there is no such thihg as ugly because inside we are all the same and we all want to be loved. My email is deadgirlwalkin@hotmail.Co.Uk if you want to chat some time xxxxxxxxxxx

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Self Esteem Posted: 09-14-06 20:35pm


Steve...Hi...Personality, personality,personality. Can't be stressed enough. One of the ugliest guys I knew was the most popular of all and he had a beautiful wife and gorgeous kids. We were all 'in love' with him because he was so kind and gentle to everyone without exception. Where his looks were concerned he made the most of his good features. For instance the right hair style for your shaped face will make the shape look a whole lot better and will enhance other good features that you may have. Eg I didn't know that a particular girl had eyes until she changed her hairdo, and her eyes were beautiful. It also changed the entire shape of her face from plain and long to a fuller shape. Sadly she didn't keep it up and went back to her low self esteem. Now the man I truly fell in love with was very plain, had a big nose, was skinny and only 5'6, sticky out ears. It was the person I fell for, not the looks. The trouble with posting your pic on the net is that they don't know the person. Let people see who you really are before you try to get involved with anyone. I know you are quiet, and this may mean you are also shy, perhaps even introverted, but this does not mean there is no one there for you. How about getting involved in something as a group to help others out in some way. Such as helping people less fortunate as yourself, or even people who are on the same level as yourself. This sort of thing takes you outside of yourself, making the helping of others one of the priorities in life. Good things come in strange ways to those who are genuinely interested in the welfare of others. Just a thought..

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Re: Plastic Surgery
Posted: 09-14-06 21:44pm

bita wrote:

if you are ugly , consider plastic surgery. Like maybe one or two, not more than that cuz it would look fake. I think looks are important, its the first thing you see. But its ok if ur ugly, cuz u can alwaysssss change ur looks with plastic surgery, just thank god that ur alive and healthy.

- :p

i dont think that helps him. And that was somewhat uncalled for. Its not about looks. Even if someone is ugly they can be really nice

bita

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Re: Plastic Surgery Posted: 09-15-06 22:01pm


I dont think that helps him. And that was somewhat uncalled for. Its not about looks. Even if someone is ugly they can be really nice[/quote] well, I think it'd help him more than anything else! And it seems that he is concered about how he looks, so yeah... :) and yes ur right, they might be nice, but what we first see is ones appearance. :) :wink:

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Keep That Chin Up Posted: 09-16-06 02:32am


Like everyone says to me. With that attitude you wont find a girlfriend. So I know how you feel to be the outsider of love cause I am too. But being a loner has its advantages bud ok. You might look more better then what I look like but I dont care about my looks its what the personality that counts hang in there

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No Such Thing Posted: 09-17-06 08:30am


What is ugly? You are you ok,just get on with life,and sod the ignorant idiots ok

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Re: You Are Not Ugly! Posted: 12-14-06 19:06pm


I think its terrible the amount of people who feel ugly but I know where your coming from ive been bullied about my looks since I can rememeber sometimes I have panic attacks about goin outside just incase someone says something I dont think people realise how hurtful the things tehy say really are. Ive been on tablets since I was 15 and to be honest I think ill always feel ugly. Ive had a bf for over 2 years now but that still doesnt make a difference ill always feel the same.

basimdcs

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Posted: 12-16-06 05:03am


Luckily women are created different than us men, they look at our inner beauty ..Unlike we do :d ...But I want you to do something from me, try like yourself...Appericaite the good things in you first , learn to love yourself and accept they way you look and remember looks/beautity dies but never a loving heart!.... My prayers with you! Happy holidays

Caseyj715

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Re: I'm Ugly And Will Always Be Alone
Posted: 01-06-07 23:28pm

Hey I can relate I am a 44 female and have no friends or boyfriend they all judge how you look just cause I look different people don't want to be around me and that hurts so I can relate

steve3337773 wrote:

i truly believe I am a failure with finding a gf because I am ugly.
About me: i'm 6',36,swm never had a serious gf, receding hairline but not bald, quiet but sociable, intelligent and slender. However, my face is ugly. I have no cheeks and ugly features in general. I look slavik, as i've been told.
I have emailed hundreds of women online with the ability to engage their interest. However, as soon as I email them a pic of myself, they never respond back. This proves my appearance is a turnoff! The picture is also the best and most accurate I can send. I've tried various pics and the one I send is in the best lighting, best appearance I could get of myself. I can email it to you for honest feedback if you'd like. Anyway, i've posted a picture personals online with match.Com and emailed literally 100s of women with no response or a negative one. Apart from online, in day to day living, women have no interest in me. My failure with women has gotten me very depressed and wishing to kill myself. However, I can't even do that because my mom is still alive and very attached to me, so I don't have the heart to do that to her - I have to continue living this lonely life. I was just wondering if anyone could give me honest advice on how to accept the fact that I am ugly and will never marry. I know this sounds sad, but I also know as I approach age 36 that it is going to be a reality. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

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Posted: 01-07-07 00:31am


Post a pic of u on here so we can see it

CollegeStudent

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Re: I'm Ugly And Will Always Be Alone
Posted: 01-07-07 02:50am

steve3337773 wrote:

well first 36 isn't that old for a man. Men can marry without a problem much older than that.

Feelings of worthlessness can come from depression, which is a very real and treatable medical condition. It has nothing to do with how you look and it happens to almost everyone at some point in their lives.

Start by getting an appointment with a psychiatrist and asking about depression. You would be amazed at the difference mentally that medication can make. It's like waking up from a dream.

Once you take care of the depression you can start working on how you look. Depression makes people tired and unmotivated, which makes it impossible to get in shape. When the depression is gone you will have a ton of energy to use in making yourself more appealing to women.

You still have time. It is not the end of the world. Get medicated, get fit, and I guarantee you will find someone you love that will love you back.

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Posted: 01-08-07 16:08pm


Stevie so u aren't brad pitt.. I bet you have a bigger more honest heart than he does. I bet if the right girl cracks you open she will see passed what u think is an ugly face and look deeper. I personally, have been told I am very good looking by many people including a 60 year odl woman yikes.. Listen. It's not all its cracked up to be. Personally I wish I was ugly.. I wish I had major acne and I was really fat. Cuz now I have to live up to my looks.. If you know what I mean. I constantly have people judging me, cuz you I have to be cool cuz im good looking all im tryin to say is.. I would trade my body for yours anytime.

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Posted: 01-08-07 16:51pm


Steve3337773 only posted here 2 times back in the end of 12-31-05 I totally do hope that he has met someone or has gotten help. Nosoul I agree with you I am not to fond of brad pitt either except for them adopting the child and if I had their money I would do the same. You don't have to be anyone but yourself. Noone has a right to judge you. If people don't want to be around you to me that is their loss. I feel that their is good in practically everyone!

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Posted: 01-11-07 15:04pm

sandyallen wrote:

i feel that their is good in practically everyone!

i agree completely with this and would add that we often fall for beauty initially but if there is no heart or substance behind the beauty it fades rapidly. To me the only advatage beauty has is superficial; it tends to lead to more one night stands, but is probably a disadvantage when it comes to forming deep lasting and meaningful relationships.

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Posted: 01-12-07 10:37am


What is the "slavik" part all about?

happyfoosball

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Posted: 02-13-07 22:40pm


Hey steve, i'm going to post my own thread but I understand how you feel. In fact, I am you, just 10 years younger. I worry that i'll never find anyone. I try so hard. I'm very social. I can make lots and lots of male friends... It's really easy in fact.. But when I talk to girls, they are different. See, a lot of guys who can't get dates lack the confidence to walk up to a girl and try to talk to her, I in fact do not. I have been turned down face to face by hundreds of women in my life. I used to drink a lot, and all the sex i've had in my life I owe to alcohol. I'd get wasted, she'd get wasted, we'd wake up the next day and then she'd never talk to me again. Since I quit drinking, I haven't even been kissed by a girl, and I have no close girl friends anymore. The only female friend I had left, I fell in love with and asked her out and she never hung out with me again. I stayed persistant, tried to get her to come around for the last six months. And last weekend she said she'd consider finally seeing me again. That she was horrible to me and she knew it, and I deserved a second chance. I was so happy, but then the next day she basically changed her mind. She told me she'd be too guilty to know what to say too me. I told her not to be, I said all the right things, I did all the right things but it didn't matter. The simple fact is I cannot make a girl talk to me in person, let alone love me. I can't even get this girl to call me on the phone. It would mean so much to me if she would. I'm all broken up about it, and I want to give up. But everyday I go on because I have too. Because my family people commited suicide and it hurt them so much. I don't want to cause pain to people who actually do care about me, just because women treat me like crap. Thats all you can do steve, is fight on, and it is a fight. And i'll tell you something else, all these people who say that if its meant to be it will happen, if you will change your attitude it will happen, this and that. They are full of caca. There is nothing wrong with you. Just like there is nothing wrong with me. People who don't look good, especially tall, skinny ugly people don't get chances for relationships. We ask girls out and they say no. Girls want muscles, they don't want super tall guys. If the girl is 5'4 she'll tell you that you are too tall for her, if she is 5'10 she'll say you are too skinny, if you ask her out after a month she'll say you moved too fast, if you ask her out after 3 months she'll say you waited too long. It will always be your fault in their eyes, it's a no win situation. According to research people know very quickly if they will want to mate with someone they meet, it's almost all based on physical atraction. As much as I wish that were not true, thats just the way it is. And it doing it sucks for people like us who try so hard, and would worship any girl that would date us, let alone marry us. Have you ever been on a date? I haven't. I've been stood up before. Dude your like my kindred doing it spirit. I'm telling you, don't let these doing it health forum knock you out. Keep fighting bro. I'm pumped full of anti-depresents, I quit drinking, I quit smoking pot, I am doing everything I can to stay alive. I expect you to do the same, because like you said, your mom loves you. My mom loves me too. Even after our moms die, do you think they want to lookd own from heaven to their sons commiting suicide? Hell no. You gotta fight, and hope, just hope that one day you'll meet a women who isn't a complete superficial health forum, and she'll give you a chance and get to know the real you. Thats the only hope guys like us have. The one thing you have to do is keep your self e-steem high, people say it atracts girls, honestly it really doesn't. It helps to not scare them away, but its not going to attract them, but what it will do is keep you sane in moments like this. It will keep you from pulling the trigger.

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Posted: 02-14-07 05:42am

happyfoosball wrote:

hey steve, i'm going to post my own thread but I understand how you feel. In fact, I am you, just 10 years younger. I worry that i'll never find anyone. I try so hard. I'm very social. I can make lots and lots of male friends... It's really easy in fact.. But when I talk to girls, they are different.

hi. Some years ago, I also thought i'd never find anyone. And I was kinda social, both with girls and boys. But it was it.
But some time later, when I just believed i'd be alone forever after, it happened. I met who would become my boyfriend. And our relationship lasts for more than 2 and a half years!
I happens sooner or later. And you all are good guys, either alone or with a partner. And I know how hard it is to be alone for a long time, but sometimes it takes a lot, almost a lifetime, for things to happen.
And sometimes we want it so desperately that we happen to get involved with someone we don't really want to, having bad experiences. Not lasting ones as well. And that makes things seem even worse.
Another common thing is sticking to a person. I know what it is as well, to stick to someone but that person doesn't even care if we life or die.
We must move on; I learned that.

happyfoosball wrote:

they are full of health question. There is nothing wrong with you. Just like there is nothing wrong with me. People who don't look good, especially tall, skinny ugly people don't get chances for relationships. We ask girls out and they say no. Girls want muscles, they don't want super tall guys. If the girl is 5'4 she'll tell you that you are too tall for her, if she is 5'10 she'll say you are too skinny, if you ask her out after a month she'll say you moved too fast, if you ask her out after 3 months she'll say you waited too long. It will always be your fault in their eyes, it's a no win situation.

so, when that happens... Try to move on. Cry everything you want to cry, argue, yell at the walls and doors. Then carry on with your life.

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Posted: 02-14-07 12:45pm

v00d00cita wrote:

happyfoosball wrote:

hi. Some years ago, I also thought i'd never find anyone. And I was kinda social, both with girls and boys. But it was it.

But some time later, when I just believed i'd be alone forever after, it happened. I met who would become my boyfriend. And our relationship lasts for more than 2 and a half years!

I happens sooner or later. And you all are good guys, either alone or with a partner. And I know how hard it is to be alone for a long time, but sometimes it takes a lot, almost a lifetime, for things to happen.
And sometimes we want it so desperately that we happen to get involved with someone we don't really want to, having bad experiences. Not lasting ones as well. And that makes things seem even worse.

Another common thing is sticking to a person. I know what it is as well, to stick to someone but that person doesn't even care if we life or die.

We must move on; I learned that.

happyfoosball wrote:

so, when that happens... Try to move on. Cry everything you want to cry, argue, yell at the walls and doors. Then carry on with your life.

yeah.. I think thts where i'm at. I think I hit my "breaking" point with ashley last night. I took a lot of crap for being too social and liking girls too easily, but that was just excuses. I was trying really hard, instead of panning my hopes in to one girl. Yes, if I meet someone who will date me right now I will probably like ashley more then her at the start, but so what. I want to live my life. I don't see anything wrong with settling. People think that everyone gets to pick and choose. Especially girls, girls never have trouble finding guys. Guys are by nature much more aggressive then girls when it comes to finding a mate. My friend/ex friend amy thought that she could explain to me how I was wrong about everything by giving me details of her various dates and how she picked and choose the man she wanted, I told her listen, I don't get to pick and choose. If somebody says yes, i'm at a point where i'm going for it because I don't know when another chance will come up. I'm 26 years old.. I'm not getting any younger. I want to get my first date out of the way.

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Posted: 03-08-07 07:35am


Dear depressed Steve The problem is not your looks my friend, but your confidence level. You believe yourself to be ugly on the outside and that is the vibe women are picking up on. The more they reject you, the more you are certain it is your looks. Women look for confidence in a life partner. They want to be assured. Your personal feelings about yourself doom you to failure because what is inside will show on the outside. When you email these ladies, don't jump into the subject of looks immediately. Concentrate on the positive things about you and don't tell me there is nothing positive to tell these ladies, I will not believe it! You sound like a warm, intelligent guy. Do not mistake your lack of success with your outer appearance, which I bet is not as bad as you believe it to be. Women will respond to your inner qualities if you will just have some confidence to let these things show through. Stop beating yourself up is the best advice I can give. Trust me on this one....there is someone out there for you. Marvin. Self Help Zone