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puzzld

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Posted: 12-13-07 10:55am


i just wanted to add that i met my husband a couple of years ago and he is 36, never married or even lived with a girl. he is a classic nurd! and i am not and i love my nurd husband for who he is and how he treats me. i've dated model types and found some, not all, to be consumed with themselves. and some seem to feel like they don't have to work at getting women... i guess because of all the women out there looking for a serious relationship based on looks, not good. women are attracted to strength, not muscle, but character. at least i am

kellyj25

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Re: I'm Ugly And Will Always Be Alone Posted: 12-15-07 21:22pm


first off noone is too ugly to find a companion. You just might have not found someone yet. I am turning 29 next week I have two kids and I have never been married. My friends look at me and say I am beautiful. And I am. Everyone loves my eyes and my smile my laughter, my hair. I am a beautiful person. I dont have the best figure but im Normal. And yet I am still alone. Its your confidence its your love for life that will find you someone. I just got with a man 6 months ago that i thought was not even in my reach. He is 33 years older than me and has more money then I can dream of. But he has the same dark secrets that we all have. He has all the money in the world but he is more screwed up than I can even tell you. But he loves me and I love him. Dont let your looks stand in the way of anything what will bring you forth is confidence in yourself. Someone will love you because you are a good person. If you are because I dont know that I have never spoken to you. And never take your life. Do not ever give in. Noone deserves to burn in hell for eternity and that is what will happen if you kill yourself. God put you here so just try your best.

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Or... Posted: 12-27-07 03:19am


maybe you have body dismorphic disorder and so little flaws are driving you crazy...sometimes I think that that is my problem because one day I feel fine and that I am attractive and other days I want to kill myself. If you feel this way all the time then I would do what is best for you. If you really don't like something about how you look, it is possible to change it. However you should realize that if looks were important, everyone would be beautiful. The reason our society is so obssessed with looks is because it is the easiest thing to market, because you see it first, it's the outer layer, it involved little or no thought. How often do you see commercials for intelligence or intellectual ability. Also, personality goes along way. My brother just recently got a girlfriend who I at first thought was...somewhat plain looking, but she was so nice and funny and easy going that it made her so much cuter, and even when I look at her now, she just seems pretty to me because I like how she smiles or laughs and her eyes light up when she talks about work. It is definitely easier said than done, but in the end do you want to spend the rest of your life with someone who's gorgeous and only spends time thinking about that and can't carry on a conversation? (not saying that all pretty people are dumb, but how often do extremely attractive people really have to think in a world so focused on looks) in the end, brains will rule all. The scientist who comes up with the cure for cancer? Who cares what he looks like, he will save lives. But yes, if you are not happy with how you look it does hurt a lot and you feel unable to do anything. I sometimes feel like I don't matter. Sometimes in class I sit and think about plastic surgery instead of what we are learning about and then I think "jeez if I could just be perfect looking I could get on with my life!" But that's because it's so easy for someone to insult appearance....it's the easiest thing to make you feel like caca, because you you can hide ignorance, stupidity, anger, fear, etc but you can't hide yourself, unless you don't ever leave....and then you will miss your whole life. And when you are 80 years old, and you definitely not (and not necesarily supposed to be) attractive, you will think...I missed it all! I'm sure you are not ugly. and perhaps hard on yourself. And by the way....men can get away with being unattractive more than women, because (at least in my opinion) a guy can still be sexy with his personality, even if he isn't as pretty as brad pitt, an in fact, I prefer a guy a little more dirty and rough looking, it's much more masculine.....flaws on a guy look great. And a sense of humor is always what gets me into bed....or at least on a few dates

Thetruth101

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Im going to tell the truth that no one of u wants to here Posted: 02-09-08 14:03pm


When it comes to apperance it is not about what people think about you, its what you think about yourself. When people look at you a certain way i know it matters and all, but its really what u think about how u look. When someone says ur ugly it makes u feel bad right. What hurts even more is knowing that u are(apperance wise). When u look in the mirror u see an apperance that was given to u without asking for it, but its there. If u find ur self unattractive do what u have to do to change it, but dont become obsesed with changing ur self. I see people talking about relationships and how personality matters yes its important and all that but apperance is to. If u are with someone they have to find your apperance attractive in some way if they dont then they think your apperance is unattractive so what did u really gain. something superficial something fake. If im with someone they have to find me attractive some way apperance wise if they dont then, they dont find me attractive, which means that they dont like the way i look, in that persons eyes im supposed to be adorable. That would really hurt right. When u look outside and see a blue sky and sun and its nice and bright u see something bueatiful u are happy. When u see a cloudy day and its raining u mostly are going to have a gloomy day ur sad. Ex blue sky and bueatiful people make u feel good when u look at them. Ex cloudy sky and ugly people makes u feel uncomfortable and hard to look at. Some people make cloudy day's good days and dont care if its gloomy they get past that and see that it is a day and it shouldnt go to waste because its apperance doesnt make them feel good. TRANSLATION PLEASE: some people look past someones apperance and they see something that someone doesnt see whether they are seen as bueatiful or not. It in the end is how u feel about yourself. If u are with someone and they find u unnatractive its bad, but if u find ur self attractive then its better. I want who ever wants to to do this to do this. look at urself in the mirror. REALLY LOOK AT UR SELF. Then right down what makes u ugly apperance wise. then get a friend or someone (i know this is really hard to do but do it) to do the look at u list and tell u if its true. Then tell them to make a list. Ask someone who has good taste in apperance and will tell the truth. Some people will tell u theres nothing wrong and there lying. If something bothers u then their is something wrong.

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My friend is utterly gorgeous Posted: 02-27-08 10:35am


she's drop dead gorgeous. Here are her (daily!!!) complaints: "I have not had a boyfriend for four years" "I'd love to go out to dinner but no-one asks me" "I was in the bar all evening and not one person spoke to me" "The 'hot' guys that have spoken to me in the past rely on their looks they don't have much to say, are obsessed with themselves and are rubbish in bed." I'm no looker by a long shot - but i hear her woes - and in some parts (where i can relate) she's damn right! I kid you not. She's awesomely pretty - and incredibly alone. Next time you're in a bar and you see someone you like the look of (because if you're 'tuned in' it's amazing what vibes your higher concious picks up on), mention something lightly, if she replies - keep the conversation going. Another friend - just as beautiful - is going through a hard time. People pick up on it and steer well clear of her. Intuition is a very strong thing.

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My friend is utterly gorgeous Posted: 02-27-08 10:36am


she's drop dead gorgeous. Here are her (daily!!!) complaints: "I have not had a boyfriend for four years" "I'd love to go out to dinner but no-one asks me" "I was in the bar all evening and not one person spoke to me" "The 'hot' guys that have spoken to me in the past rely on their looks they don't have much to say, are obsessed with themselves and are rubbish in bed." I'm no looker by a long shot - but i hear her woes - and in some parts (where i can relate) she's damn right! I kid you not. She's awesomely pretty - and incredibly alone. Next time you're in a bar and you see someone you like the look of (because if you're 'tuned in' it's amazing what vibes your higher concious picks up on), mention something lightly, if she replies - keep the conversation going. Another friend - just as beautiful - is going through a hard time. People pick up on it and steer well clear of her. Intuition is a very strong thing.

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I know I'm ugly but it's a good thing. Posted: 04-08-08 20:57pm


I know I'm ugly. Everyday I look into the mirror, I cringe. Women like to tease me knowing I can't get to them at all. So, I've accepted the fact that I must concentrate on my intellectual abilities and achieve high success. I focus intently on my work and make sure it's done correctly and proficiently. So, just take one bad thing, whether be looks, communication, etc. and turn it into a good thing. I hoped this helped. Have a nice day.

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Re: My friend is utterly gorgeous Posted: 07-15-08 20:21pm


I am also an ugly guy. But on top of this I have a low IQ and am poorly endowed. So be thankful that your only inferiority is your looks.

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Re: My friend is utterly gorgeous
Posted: 07-15-08 20:23pm

georgina23 wrote:

she's drop dead gorgeous.

Here are her (daily!!!) complaints:

"I have not had a boyfriend for four years"
"I'd love to go out to dinner but no-one asks me"
"I was in the bar all evening and not one person spoke to me"
"The 'hot' guys that have spoken to me in the past rely on their looks they don't have much to say, are obsessed with themselves and are rubbish in bed."

Eventhough she finds the "hot" guys boring, I'm sure she still has her standards and won't go near an ugly guy. Plus a person like this is one in a million.