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What Should Be Expected to Do When Having Sex ? Posted: 01-05-06 13:52pm


Ok, im a vigin and I have just turned 15. I am very worried about having sex with a girl so do any people who have had sex for there first time tell me what is what like and what I should be expected to do ? How long should I last, it takes me 3 mins to masterbate is this how long it will take me to cum when in her ?

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Posted: 01-07-06 17:24pm


Dude, the main thing is to not be worried about it. If you ask me, 15 seems a little young to be having sex, but it's totally up to you. But if the two of you rush into it, it might just make it worse. My first time was brutal...I couldn't keep my dick hard, which made the sex last forever. Is this your g/f's first time too? How old is she? Have you talked to her about it? If she is a virgin you're going to have to be pretty gentle with her, as she may find it a bit painful. Take it slow, and if she is uncomfortable make sure you slow down and talk to her. It might take you 3 minutes or it might take you 20. Or if you can't keep it up it will take longer, but then your g/f will probably start getting sore. Make sure you use a condom! It kinda sucks to use em, but you definately don't want to be a 15 yr old daddy!

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Posted: 01-07-06 19:16pm


You're expected to enjoy yourself. As the other poster stated, its possible that you will not enjoy yourself the first time. I did not really either, as I was all sorts of nervous. I've heard very few stories of greatness on a first go. If you do hear that from your 15 yo peers, you have to keep in mind that most of them would never tell you if they had a bad time. Since you're 15 you don't really yet understand this, but if you ask these same people when they're 30, you'll get a whole different story. So, in summary, you're expected to be really nervous your first time, and it'll probably be over quickly. But whatever. Its not the first time so much as enjoying all the other times. I'd also put out the idea that 15 might be too young. However, I remember being 15. I was trying to get laid. Then for some reason the catholic guilt took over, and I passed up the chances I had at 17 and 18. I don't regret it so much. Well, that's not true. Just be very careful. Have kids later, and don't get sick. You don't want to miss dating the women in their early 30's. Trust me.

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Posted: 01-08-06 10:14am


Thanks for them posts I realy appreciate it, I dont have a g/f but but ive started going to hosue partys ect and im starting to wonder if I acctualy will have sex sometime soon. The thing that is worring me the most is how long I will last, for example if me and a girl went upstairs to have sex at a party how long should I be expected to last if she was / wasnt a virgin. Also im worried about blow jobs and hand jobs and how long I should last during one. If I girl gives me a hand job which is like me wanking will I last about the same time that I would normally myself, which is 3 mins thats what im worried about, what if I pre cum :cry:

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Posted: 01-08-06 18:04pm


Ok. Just to get this out there. This conversation is odd for me because you're 15, but then again i've been there and I want to help you feel a little less nervous. First off, i'd advise the girlfriend over the "upstairs girl" at a house party. Regardless of what you see in movies. However, in general, if she's going upstairs with you, she likes you, so relax and hang out. As for all the details, how long you'll last, etc., don't worry about it so much. My advise is as follows. She's as confused and nervous as you are. Probably more so. So, whatever happens, just act like that's what's supposed to happen. She'll like 1 minute of fun more than 10 minutes of being nervous and awkward. And you'll probably be ok for a second round shortly after anyway. I'm 29 and had sex with a new girl for the first time last night. I only hung in there for a couple minutes, and that's with my practiced self control. You just have to expect the first time to be short and go with it. As for precum. Just some fyi. Precum and premature ejaculation are not the same thing. I'll spare the details on precum. Just look it up. As for premature ej, it might happen. Its happened to me. It probably happens to most guys at some point. As dave chapelle says, "i don't even believe in that. If I cum, it was right on time!". So, again, whatever happens, act like that's what's supposed to happen. Oh yes, and don't say "i'm sorry", etc. There's nothing wrong with what's going on. Just tell her it was great, she's really hot, etc. Then, if you can after a few minutes, go for round #2.

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Posted: 01-09-06 16:42pm


If your worried about it, then it's obvious your not ready to be doing it anyways. It'll happen, dont plan it.

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Oh Buddy Posted: 01-09-06 22:30pm


Hey man first of all your such a young kid and you need to get that filth out of your mind son. I cant believe these guys are actually helping you with something that should be spared until your married. Keep your virginity until marriage buddy, you and your future wife will be happy you did. Your worth a lot more than that to waste it on some girl you dont even love is not good man. Let god show you the way bro http://www.Mormon.Org peace

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Posted: 01-10-06 16:43pm

danthadon wrote:

hey man first of all your such a young kid and you need to get that filth out of your mind son. I cant believe these guys are actually helping you with something that should be spared until your married. Keep your virginity until marriage buddy, you and your future wife will be happy you did. Your worth a lot more than that to waste it on some girl you dont even love is not good man. Let god show you the way bro http://www.Mormon.Org
peace

oh no, another mormon trying to convert somone..... :roll:

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Posted: 01-10-06 16:51pm


Ok im not guna lecture u on age becasue I lost "it" wen I was 15, and 2b honest it was a bit of a mess I was in pain and my bf was constatnly checkin I was ok in the end he stopped becasuehe didnt like seein me get hurt (dont think he realised then I had a low pain threshold) newasy just be reali gentle with her I mean me and my bf have been together for over 2yrs. Are u goin out with the person u wana have sex with? How long etc just make sure u2 are both doing it for the right reasons and not simply becasue u wana lose ur virginity. You tend to last longer than 3mins in sex becasue its a diff simulation I guess, but be careful cuz shecanget sore! Good luck!

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Posted: 01-11-06 13:28pm


Hey, i'm 17 years old and am still a virgin (girl) and am waiting until marriage. It shouldn't be a contest of when you lose your virginity. Having sex with a girl at a party is extremely low, hey...Just stating the facts. You should have more respect for women...Or girls, rather..In your case. As for if the girl is a virgin, actually it doesn't hurt a girl that much the first time she has sex as everyone says. I advise you to maybe take a look at http://www.The-clitoris.Com that site will tell you about everything there is to know about women...I learned so much there myself. Remember that the more sexual partners you have before marriage, the more you're going to compare them with your future wife, sexually.

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Posted: 01-14-06 22:43pm


If you're, 15, and nervous about having sex, you shouldn't be having sex.