Last Name Issues

I would say yours. Me and my boyfriend just recently broke up, but even when we were together because we were not married I said I was putting the baby down under my last name. I don't really feel it's right to have a different name then your child, and if youguys get married then you can just legally change the name of the baby later, but for now incase anything happens give the baby your name (my opinion). If something was to happen between you, it makes it difficult legally later in life (my mom has a different name thenme, and when I was 14 we went to go on vacation to disneyland, and they thought that she was trying to steal me or something from my dad, because she left when I was 2 and he never tried to get excess and so she left it and never tried to contact him- in the long run she ended up having to sign a whole bunch of papers and stuff swearing that she hadn't talked to my dad in 12 years and didn't know where he was) not that I am saying that is going to happen to you, it's just things can happen that will be hard to reverse later if they go badly, and if they go well it's easy to change.

So basically my opinion is that you should put the baby in your name

If I was not married I would put the babys name under mine.What if you don't stay together? If you get married you can always change it

I agree your last name. It would depend on the seriousness of the relationship---but since you already said on and off--i would say stick with yours. I think it is so cute for my grand daughter(by my daughter) to have her grandfathers name--we would have named her after her father but right after he got my daughter pregnant--then he started actin an a$$, and she left him.

If you all decide later on to make the relationship serious---you can always put his name on then--if you choose to. It would not be as easy to change it back to your maiden name--if you all "split sheets" later on.

Good luck

I would use both, putting a slash in between both names and making sure that you find out the medical situations of his side of the family as it is always good to know and when the child asks quesetion later, you tell him or her the reason why(the truth) and at least try to get some support off of him of course it is your choice.
Good luck!

Give the baby your last name. I was 16 when I had my son and gave him my last name and his dads last name was part of his middle name, I know weird. So my sons name was matthieu hunter-dyess husley. Long I know but if we get married which now will be in the next year, cause know I am legal to get married as I am 18 with a two year old. Oh and by the way congratulations.

Yours. Before my sperm donor left, him and I argued about this, because I said I refused to have a different last name from my child. Now he's out of the picture, so I don't have to worry about it.

If your bf is the baby's father and he is planning on signing the birth certificate, I don't see how you can not give him the baby's daddy's name.
At some point you are going to have to file for child support if you and he don't stay together and its going to be alot easier to prove paternity if your bf signs the birth certificate.

I think you should definately give your baby your name if that's what you want. There should not be any issue with him signing the birth cert - he's the baby's father and that doesn't change no matter what name you give your baby! This shouldn't even be an issue - women have as much right, if not more, to pass on their family names to their children.

Since you are self-proclaimed on again off again in this relationship, I would go with your name. I'm not a firm believer in having to have the same last name as your child - I fully plan on not changing my name when I get married, but will give my kids my husband's last name. But that's just me. If you don't have any feelings on that situation, it's probably easier all around if you give the child your last name.

If you were in a serious, stable relationship I would say it would be fair to give the baby your bf's last name, but since the relationship seems unstable, it's probably better not to. My brother and his gf were living together for nearly 3 years when their baby was born, he has my brother's last name - they are planning on getting married and have been together for 10 years now, so it was never an issue. A friend of mine was in unstable relationships with two men and gave the babies from both the fathers' last names and has nothing but problems. It all depends on how you actually feel about the relationship and the father in question.

Or go for a hyphenated last name. And, yes, if things work out, you can always apply for a name change for the child.

And depending where you are in the world, you can still put his name on the birth certificate and not use his last name. It's your choice. Good luck.

The baby should have your lastname. Having his will create a huge paperwork issue later on. The biggest one of all being say down the road you marry to someone else, and he wants to adopt the baby and give it his lastname. If you had previously given it the fathers last name, changing it will require his signature ok'ing the name-change. If he isn't ok with it, as the biological/legal father, he would have every legal right, while not moral, to refuse to allow the name change.

I would say yours. I have two children with my ex and both of them have his last name. He and I are still legally married but have been split up almost 5 years. He has two other children since then who also have his last name. I got involved with someone and we ended the relationship and are not on speaking terms. I find out two weeks later that I am pregnant. My other two are 8 and 9 years old. My daughter tells me that we have to give the baby their daddies last name or the baby won't feel like it is part of the family. So not only do I have two kids who will eventually have a diffrent name than I but I am having another who my daughter thinks will have self esteem issues if she doesn't have the family name. Funny thing is that my childrens father who I am still married to agrees with my daughter. So now I am stuck trying to decide do I give this baby my maiden name or my husbands last name. I surely will not give this child his or her fathers last name because it is pusey and it is just way too close to something else and that will lead to self esteem issues for sure lol.

Your name!!!! If you aren't married he has no say, and if you are on and off quite a bit then I definitely wouldn't do his name. If you two decide to stay together for good then you could change it.

My cousin had the same problem with all of her kids. She just gave the baby both lastnames. The father's lastname came first and then the actual lastname was the mother's. My bf's little sister also is having this problem and though about giving the baby the fathers lastname as the baby's middle name. Either way your name should definitely be the lastname.

My cousin had the same problem with all of her kids. She just gave the baby both lastnames. The father's lastname came first and then the actual lastname was the mother's. My bf's little sister also is having this problem and though about giving the baby the fathers lastname as the baby's middle name. Either way your name should definitely be the lastname.