Im new here and i'de really appreciate
some advice so thanks in advance..
Ok so I have this 17 yr old friend and she
had sex the night before new years for the
first time (she was a virgin). She has
had alot of headaches since that night
which is odd because I read that most
headaches start after week 6? Also she
never gets headaches.. Anyways she wont
take an ept and she is scared to tell me
*all* her symptoms.. I do know that she
has had headaches and swore breasts but im
not sure if the breast sworeness was
before the sexual episode or not.. She
didnt use protection and she claims he
pulled out really fast and she hopes he
didnt ejaculate inside her. I know
nothing about her menstral cycle or
whatever im sorry.. He didnt "pop her
cherry" if that means anything.. Im sorry
I dont know the medical or technical term.
What do I do? Shes in denial.. Im also
17 and I love this girl like a sister..
So I dunno what to do. Therefore I turn
to you for help.. I dont know if early
symptoms vary for age.. As she is a
teenager (17)
im also 17 and I haven't had sex with her
so it wouldnt be mine for the record.
Thanks for the help and much love
-concerned
friend
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rainy1279
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Jan 2006 Posts: 71 Location: Texas
Posted: 01-05-06 23:10pm
First of all, I think you need to talk to
her some more & see what else you can
get out of her...... She needs someone
with her. I don't know if she will see
signs this early. Couple of week maybe,
but as far as 5 days, but everyone is
different. Headaches may be from stress,
if she wasn't really ready... As far as
the "popping of the cherry" I never had my
"popped" to where I bled. I would sit
down & talk to her & let her know
you are concerned about her & that you
can help her through anything. :)
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help please
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Jan 2006 Posts: 4
Posted: 01-06-06 00:19am
Yea I keep trying to get more out of her
but she absolutely wont tell me her
symptoms and wont take an ept. And I have
told her already about stress and
headaches being connected.. She is really
depressed.. Shes really confident that
she is pregnant. "you dont understand, I
wont take a test".. And she says I also
dont understand y she wont tell me her
symptoms.. I also already told her its
too early. I dont understand what sge
could be hiding.. Maybe she knows he
didnt pull out in time
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Lilypad
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 1043 Location: Ohio, USA
Posted: 01-06-06 07:30am
Maybe she is pregnant but more than likely
she is feeling stressed and guilty about
losing her virginity, is my guess. I
decieded to lose mine on prom night and I
was devastated afterwward for weeks....
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Tazzy D
Advanced Support Team
Joined: 30 Oct 2004 Posts: 3717 Location: , va
Posted: 01-06-06 08:25am
Give her some time.. She will talk to you
when she is ready.. Or she will talk to
someone that she can trust..
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ieshia harris
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Jan 2006 Posts: 4 Location: north carolina
Posted: 01-06-06 10:50am
Well just wait for her to come to you and
she will talk to you when she is ready
trust me ok 8)
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help please
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Jan 2006 Posts: 4
Posted: 01-06-06 17:28pm
Yea the situation is ridiculous because
she did it in attempt to keep the guy shes
like in love with.. So she says she hated
it and didnt enjoy it at all and it was
against her will I guess.. And the next
day he left her after he took her
virginity.. But hes a great guy just ask
him.. And im the only one who knows she
did it and im also the only one who knows
she could be pregnant.. Im trying to make
her comfortable with taking a test..
Thats my goal.. She claims she is going
to wait and see if she shows.. And im not
going to watch her be depressed for 3
months when all she has to do is take a
test and prove shes not pregnant.. Owell
I dont know what to do.. Im going to make
her take a test haha I dunno.. Thanks for
everything so far
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sunshine424
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Nov 2005 Posts: 397 Location: New York
Posted: 01-06-06 23:16pm
It is wayyyy too soon to tell. No
symptoms would be present yet. The
headaches could be from the stress of
worrying about it. Stress will affect you
physically. Or it could be a pre-period
headache. Tell her not to focus so much
on a simple headache, that can be due to
many things.
As for not wanting to take a test.....Tell
her she has to grow up for a second. Not
facing the truth is childish and will only
increase her chances of harming the baby.
If she is pregnant, pre-natal care if a
definite, so there is no excuse to hold
off on testing. Tell her whether she
likes it or not, she needs to get over her
fear.
Also, make sure you nicely suggest using
protection next time. She obviously does
not want to be pregnant. Tell her to stop
acting like an adult if she cannot accept
adult consequences. She is too young for
sex and too young to have babies.
Just continue to be her friend, it's all
you can do. You can offer advice but her
decisions are entirely up to her.
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help please
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Jan 2006 Posts: 4
Posted: 01-07-06 04:20am
Yep shes being ridiculous and
immature..Owell its getting old.. Shes
not pregnant.. But theres no way she
would show this early?
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