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Q: Teen Help :(

asked by: help please on January 5th, 2006

New User

Im new here and i'de really appreciate some advice so thanks in advance..

Ok so I have this 17 yr old friend and she had sex the night before new years for the first time (she was a virgin). She has had alot of headaches since that night which is odd because I read that most headaches start after week 6? Also she never gets headaches.. Anyways she wont take an ept and she is scared to tell me *all* her symptoms.. I do know that she has had headaches and swore breasts but im not sure if the breast sworeness was before the sexual episode or not.. She didnt use protection and she claims he pulled out really fast and she hopes he didnt ejaculate inside her. I know nothing about her menstral cycle or whatever im sorry.. He didnt "pop her cherry" if that means anything.. Im sorry I dont know the medical or technical term. What do I do? Shes in denial.. Im also 17 and I love this girl like a sister.. So I dunno what to do. Therefore I turn to you for help.. I dont know if early symptoms vary for age.. As she is a teenager (17)

im also 17 and I haven't had sex with her so it wouldnt be mine for the record.

Thanks for the help and much love
-concerned friend

Replies(8)

rainy1279

replied on January 5th, 2006

Experienced User

First of all, I think you need to talk to her some more & see what else you can get out of her...... She needs someone with her. I don't know if she will see signs this early. Couple of week maybe, but as far as 5 days, but everyone is different. Headaches may be from stress, if she wasn't really ready... As far as the "popping of the cherry" I never had my "popped" to where I bled. I would sit down & talk to her & let her know you are concerned about her & that you can help her through anything. :)

help please

replied on January 6th, 2006

New User

Yea I keep trying to get more out of her but she absolutely wont tell me her symptoms and wont take an ept. And I have told her already about stress and headaches being connected.. She is really depressed.. Shes really confident that she is pregnant. "you dont understand, I wont take a test".. And she says I also dont understand y she wont tell me her symptoms.. I also already told her its too early. I dont understand what sge could be hiding.. Maybe she knows he didnt pull out in time

Lilypad

replied on January 6th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

Maybe she is pregnant but more than likely she is feeling stressed and guilty about losing her virginity, is my guess. I decieded to lose mine on prom night and I was devastated afterwward for weeks....

Tazzy D

replied on January 6th, 2006

Advanced Support Team

Give her some time.. She will talk to you when she is ready.. Or she will talk to someone that she can trust..

ieshia harris

replied on January 6th, 2006

New User

Well just wait for her to come to you and she will talk to you when she is ready trust me ok 8)

help please

replied on January 6th, 2006

New User

Yea the situation is ridiculous because she did it in attempt to keep the guy shes like in love with.. So she says she hated it and didnt enjoy it at all and it was against her will I guess.. And the next day he left her after he took her virginity.. But hes a great guy just ask him.. And im the only one who knows she did it and im also the only one who knows she could be pregnant.. Im trying to make her comfortable with taking a test.. Thats my goal.. She claims she is going to wait and see if she shows.. And im not going to watch her be depressed for 3 months when all she has to do is take a test and prove shes not pregnant.. Owell I dont know what to do.. Im going to make her take a test haha I dunno.. Thanks for everything so far

sunshine424

replied on January 6th, 2006

Experienced User

It is wayyyy too soon to tell. No symptoms would be present yet. The headaches could be from the stress of worrying about it. Stress will affect you physically. Or it could be a pre-period headache. Tell her not to focus so much on a simple headache, that can be due to many things.

As for not wanting to take a test.....Tell her she has to grow up for a second. Not facing the truth is childish and will only increase her chances of harming the baby. If she is pregnant, pre-natal care if a definite, so there is no excuse to hold off on testing. Tell her whether she likes it or not, she needs to get over her fear.

Also, make sure you nicely suggest using protection next time. She obviously does not want to be pregnant. Tell her to stop acting like an adult if she cannot accept adult consequences. She is too young for sex and too young to have babies.

Just continue to be her friend, it's all you can do. You can offer advice but her decisions are entirely up to her.

help please

replied on January 7th, 2006

New User

Yep shes being ridiculous and immature..Owell its getting old.. Shes not pregnant.. But theres no way she would show this early?

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