I am just curious if you all know any men
who cannot seem to be alone? Like my ex
everytime he and his girlfriend break up
he calls me....We do have a 9 year old son
together but come on I have been in a new
relationship for 2 years and have a
newborn daughter and have moved on. Why
does he act like he cannot be alone not
even for a min. One time she left, had
only been gone an hour and he asked me to
move back in. Well one day later they are
back together and it makes me feel like he
always has to have a "back up" plan? I
mean we had been together ten years ...But
he left me for her anyway so why keep
trying to come back?
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stefanie
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 33
Posted: 03-14-06 19:12pm
That seems to be his problem not yours,
even though you have a nine year old son
together and it's important that he feels
mom and dad get along ok, it's important
for you having moved on and having a new
baby i'm assuming with someone else, it's
important that you set some rules!
Like he should not call you unless it's
life or death or pertaining to your son,
you have to make it really clear that you
don't want to know anything about his
personal life because you have your own
life to live and you are happy where you
are. You need to tell him to leave you
alone with those things, you will not
leave and move in with him under any
curcumstances so it's no point in even
asking.
And make it cyrstal clear that his and
your relationship is over! My ex has done
this he hasn't found anyone since we've
broken up two years ago and he seems to
want me back at times, i've moved on with
someone else and after repeted calls and
abuse that I look at it as I had to tell
him that I would not ever go back to him
and was very very happy where I was and
with who I was.
You will need to keep him part of your
life unfourtnatly since you have a child
together but thats it!!!! You two are no
longer together and that's not going to
change and he needs to accept that and any
problems or fights he has with his current
women are not your problem nor do you need
to know about it,
if he has problems being alone then make
it clear that it's his problem and not
yours!
I hope everything works out for you, after
all you have two beautiful children now to
to take care of you can't baby him too,
remembe you have two kids not three.
Take care
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MizzPurty28
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Feb 2006 Posts: 25
Posted: 03-15-06 17:19pm
He must somehow feel that although you
aren't together he can continue (or
attempt to continue) to use you as his
crutch or back up plan. What happens to
make him think this? Your answer to that
is the solution as to how to handle
this.
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