Socialanxiety Is Taking Over My Life! Posted: 01-06-06 08:39am
I don't really know where to begin. I'm
posting on this forum becasue I beleive
that strangers can help each other and
give advise/support and that maybe your
friends and family can't give you. In
other words, talk to other people in the
same situation. I don't just want to
sound pathetic andsay that my life is
horrible, because I have a lot of good
days and don'tfeel miserable all the time.
Butright now I feel i'm dealing with a
lot of problems related to social anxiety,
and i'm actually wondering if maybe I have
a socialanxiety disorder because i'm often
afraid of public places...I don't like
shopping malls/large crowds. Sometimes I
get anxiety when i'm on a bus or a train.
I'm constantly worrying what other people
will think about me and sometimes I think
that other people have negative thoughts
about me. Like yesterday I wanted to go
to the library but sudenly felt really
nervous about it. It's ridiculous. Ther
are no one in the library who is evengoing
to notice me. So why am I scared? I keep
asking myself questions. Likewhat do I
have to do to make the anxiety go away.
I'm trying to get enough food and sleep
and to relax more. But it's not enough.
I want to be more self confident. I know
I don't diserve to feel like this. I
diserve to be happy and confident. I
diserve to get respect and I want people
to like me. :( :( :( :( :(
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jane30
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Jan 2006 Posts: 20 Location: west mids
Panic Posted: 01-06-06 09:21am
Hi megan,i know how you feel.Im finding it
so hard to get to the shops and ejoy life
to the full. Im happy in the house and
with family.But none of them understand
how im feeling. Why me I ask myself...
Does your head go funny,does your heart
beat really fast,does it feel like
something bad is going to happen to you.
All these feelings are panic attacks
hope this has helped you in some way to
understand you not alone ok xx
im the same
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Megan63
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Dec 2005 Posts: 10 Location: Norway
Posted: 01-09-06 08:17am
I'm trying to take one day at a time, the
problem is that my anxieties and feelings
of depression/sadness/hopelessness seem t
ogo away for long periods of time,
suddenly to return when i'm in a
vulnerable situation or when my life seems
a bit more difficult than ususal. And I
can't deal with it. You would think a
person that has had anxieties for years
would eventually learn that it doesn't
help to lock yourself up in your house
with no one to comfort you...The more you
isolate the worse it gets, so I have to
force my self to go out and just say to
myself, "whatever happens, it won't kill
you"...But I think maybe I need some help
to figure out how to deal with it now.
Can't go on like this forever. :)
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jane30
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Jan 2006 Posts: 20 Location: west mids
Posted: 01-09-06 09:34am
Hello again. I know what you are saying.
The more you stay in the more you dont
feel like going out. Its just 1big nasty
circle and I hat it. I havent been out
for three weeks cant walk anywhrer because
of feeling scared im going to pass out.
Ive got to change my attitude I know,but
its sooooooooooo hard,,,isnt it :( :(
:( :(
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Megan63
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Dec 2005 Posts: 10 Location: Norway
Posted: 01-16-06 07:26am
Yes it is. And i'm afraid that people are
going to see how shy I feel and that too
feels embarrassing. But just take one
step of the time. Talk to someone.
Reward yourself for having positive
thoughts. Try not to focus on the
negative thoughts. If people are staring
at you or not acting asd if they respect
you in a public place, they probably don't
have very good manners or they have
problms with their attitude..It's not you
who is funny. I used to get bullied a
lot. Maybe that's where some of my
anxiety comes from. I don't know. Go to
the park, have fun,. Invite a friend to
go and see a movie with you.. Everything
helps. :)
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Megan63
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Dec 2005 Posts: 10 Location: Norway
Posted: 01-16-06 07:32am
It sounds really awful not to have been
outside for three weeks...Just think that
if you do get a panic attack it will feel
horrible but it won't kill you. Good
luck!!!! I had the same problem last
week....Lst week was awful. I stayed at
home from monday to wednesday and only
went out to buy food. Eventually someone
in my family who knows I have anxiety
called me and said I could come and stay
with her for a few days... And now I have
to cope with all the things I didn't get
done last week.
