I am living with a man who used to hit me
a lot and he stopped since few months
because he was about to get into trouble
for doing that. But he never stopped
calling me names. I am from india, I
have been married to this man since 3 and
half years. He is very polite with
others in public. Some of my friends
cannot believe that he could be like this
to me. I have a child and he started to
witness what dad does to me. I am
confused, should I stay in this
relationship? My husband says, he knows
what he is doing to me and says that he
will chnge but it will take time.
Please, help.
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RubyLei
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Dec 2005 Posts: 33 Location: UK
Independence Posted: 01-07-06 14:56pm
I do not know your whole situation...But
make sure this man knows that you are
prepared to leave him if nothing changes
not just for you...But for the sake of
your child. Do not let him take advantage
of the fact you are not a native to the
country. Men can be very
manipulative...If things got really bad is
there anywhere you could go or are you
dependent on him ??
Rue
xxx
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RubyLei
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Dec 2005 Posts: 33 Location: UK
Posted: 01-07-06 14:58pm
Some men do not change....Others need
space and time...If that means you have to
separate for a while so he can do that
then thing how that could improve things
in the long term
xx
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tawnie_j
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Jan 2006 Posts: 19 Location: Texas
Wow... Posted: 01-09-06 16:55pm
...You sound just like me. Take advice
that others gave to me on this website,
leave!!! He won't change, and you can't
change him.
Read "bipolar is tearin' us apart" in the
bipolar forum...You'll find my story
there.
He(your husband) too may be bipolar.
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cut-alone92
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2006 Posts: 17 Location: Kansas
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Posted: 01-22-06 00:56am
My mom went through something
similar...Her ex-husband beat her and then
said he was sorry and they had 4 kids
together so it was really hard for her but
no matter what violence is not okay.If hes
hurting you then you need to get out of
the situation.I mean unless he has a
mental disorder and you need to get him
some help for that then you need to leave
because what happens when he gets mad at
your child and raises his hand to your
kid.Are you going to say it was okay
because daddy was mad or because you know
daddy is sorry?If you do that then your
child won't be close to you because you
are making excuses for your husband.
