I suffer from anxiety really bad and I
have been in a relationship with my
boyfriend for 9 years. We have a 5 eyar
old daughter and I love him, but he has
recently become addicted to drugs. His
addcition makes my anxiety flare up and I
am constantly worrying about him! I
realize getting out is my best bet, but I
am afraid! I have become co-dependent on
this man and I also feel like when he
isn't using drugs I feel safer with him
because he knows all my issues with
anxiety and fears and panic attacks!
I am afraid that if I can't get these
panic attacks under control and my anxiety
and fear issues that noone else will want
to be with me. They will think I have too
many problems and won't enjoy my company!
If anyone has any advice, please let me
know!!!
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Stevesy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Jan 2006 Posts: 16
Posted: 01-06-06 23:23pm
Wow that sounds like a really tough
situation. I'm sorry that you and your
daughter are both being subjected to his
drug addiction, no one should ever have to
deal with that.
I cannot offer much advice because I don't
know the full situation here, but I do
feel for you and I will be praying for
you. One piece of advice that I have
heard many times and would like to share
with you is to never be ashamed of your
anxiety. You are not alone, millions of
people suffer from anxiety day in and day
out just as you do, so do not think of
yourself as some sort of outcast that
could not find anyone else to love them.
You're obviously a very caring person.
If you're in a destructive relationship,
and it sounds like you are, and you think
that getting out would help your anxiety,
you should do it. If there is anyone you
can turn to that would make you feel safe,
parents, friends, anyone, I would suggest
doing that. It seems logical to me that
if you can find a cause of your anxiety,
you need to shut it off or control it, and
this seems to be one way. Maybe try
talking to him about it or finding some
sort of counseling. If he loves you, he
won't like the fact that something that he
is doing is causing you so much pain, and
if he doesn't care, then he is not worth
it.
Good luck! I hope things get better for
you soon.
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Munoz1226
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 130 Location: Tucson
Thank You Posted: 01-06-06 23:55pm
Thank you very much for your supportive
reply!
I have a lot of positive people to stand
firmly behind me when I decide to take the
leap of faith and leave. It is just so
scary for me. I have grown so close to
god in the last few months and I feel he
is asking me to end this. I want god to
be my main priority next to my child and I
can't give him all of me without ending
this first!
Thank you so much for your prayers! I
truly appreciate you taking the time to
read my post and reply!!!
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