When I had my miscarriage 2 years ago(spring 2004 sorry still cant believe taht its 2006 now time flies) and I found out that I was prego again this year I was so stressed out and scared. Im fearful that it would happen again coz I was spotting for 2 days then was heavily bleeding for a few hours on my 5th week.
My husband took me to er and my hcg levels was tested. It was still high at that it was just one doctor around and he did an internal examination on me after noting down my med history including my miscarriage. He told us that he was 90% sure that i'm having miscarriage again and that he could just see bits of the fetus.
I was hysterical as this was my 3rd prego and my 2nd mc, he suggested that I stay in the hospital coz theyll book me for an u/s then prob dnc I asked if it would prevent the miscarriage he said "no," he even said the bleeding might have stopped but mc already took place. I decided id rather stay indoors with my husband as we were both "devastated" he just scheduled me an u/s 2 after to check if I really needed dnc.
Those 2 days that followed where the most horrible thing ive ever experienced in my life I nearly refused going to that u/s its just that hubby convinced me that I needed to be seen just to make sure that im ok.
When we went to see the senior sonologist/ nurse, she performed u/s and said that our baby was still there? We just have to w8 for another to weeks to check that the heartbeat was ok.
We told her bout what the doctor said she turned around and said that it was just a junior doctor? Imagine that? Anyway I said I am so worried coz I had a miscarriage on the previous year.
She said each pregnancy is treated as unique and different that miscarriage is not based on the medical history. It doesnt mean that if you miscarried youll gonna have a miscarriage again.
Oh and let me add thats why most countries and hospitals now, do booking tests (blood tests, nuchal scans etc.) to detect a problem as early as 7-8 weeks.
Im on my 25th week now and very confident with my pregnancy. What assures me is when everytime I feel thos strong kicks and hiccups.
Sorry bout the long post was just sharing my experience.
Just dont loose hope isabel, I know its hard but be tough ok. Tc