Joined: 07 Jan 2006 Posts: 1 Location: Richmond, IN
Scared And Alone Posted: 01-07-06 19:00pm
Hi,
i've never done anything like this before
but I need help. I am a mother of 2
beautiful boys. I began dating after a
horrible seperation from their father. I
was with this new man for only 2 months
before I broke it off with him. And now
I am pregnant. I know that as a single
mother that has just gotten laid off, I
cannot afford another child. My best
friend has made his opinions of abortion
quite clear long ago. He is completely
against it. He is the only person I can
confide in. But he will not support the
decision to abort. I feel so alone. I
am terrifed to tell anyone else because
the city I now live in is pretty much
pro-life. I don't want to be branded a
child killer but I cannot have this baby.
I cannot get a new job if I am pregnant.
I can't hide this from the father who has
been harassing me since we broke up. How
can I find someone to talk to in my home
town?
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Tylanas
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Re: Scared And Alone Posted: 01-07-06 19:47pm
thingshappen
wrote:
hi,
i've never done anything like this before
but I need help. I am a mother of 2
beautiful boys. I began dating after a
horrible seperation from their father.
I was with this new man for only 2 months
before I broke it off with him. And now
I am pregnant. I know that as a single
mother that has just gotten laid off, I
cannot afford another child. My best
friend has made his opinions of abortion
quite clear long ago. He is completely
against it. He is the only person I can
confide in. But he will not support the
decision to abort. I feel so alone.
I am terrifed to tell anyone else because
the city I now live in is pretty much
pro-life. I don't want to be branded a
child killer but I cannot have this baby.
I cannot get a new job if I am pregnant.
I can't hide this from the father who
has been harassing me since we broke up.
How can I find someone to talk to in my
home town?
i don't know how to find someone to talk
to in your home town, but perhaps run a
search online for a pro-choice group in
your general area (within 2 hours driving
distance?) it sounds like you have good
reasons to abort, so just remain true to
yourself and your desicions. If that guy
is harassing you, you can always get a
restraining order put up against him. He
has no right to bug you.
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Carifairy
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Posted: 01-07-06 23:11pm
I am sorry that noone in your area
supportive of you, but like eiri said,
there may be groups you can speak with.
The main thing is to stay true to what you
want and not let anyone bully you around.
I realize that living in a prolife town
can be difficult, and it is a shame that
these people cannot be more understanding.
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jenn_smithson
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Nov 2004 Posts: 808 Location: Texas
Re: Scared And Alone Posted: 01-08-06 17:48pm
thingshappen
wrote:
hi,
i've never done anything like this before
but I need help. I am a mother of 2
beautiful boys. I began dating after a
horrible seperation from their father.
I was with this new man for only 2 months
before I broke it off with him. And now
I am pregnant. I know that as a single
mother that has just gotten laid off, I
cannot afford another child. My best
friend has made his opinions of abortion
quite clear long ago. He is completely
against it. He is the only person I can
confide in. But he will not support the
decision to abort. I feel so alone.
I am terrifed to tell anyone else because
the city I now live in is pretty much
pro-life. I don't want to be branded a
child killer but I cannot have this baby.
I cannot get a new job if I am pregnant.
I can't hide this from the father who
has been harassing me since we broke up.
How can I find someone to talk to in my
home town?
the first thing that I
would suggest that you do is contact an
attorney and the police for a restraining
order against the father who is harassing
you. In the midst of all of the stress
you have on you right now, taking care of
this harassment before it escalates into
something much worst should be your first
priority.
I am so sorry about your friend. You're
not alone. Many .Women all around the
globe are in your situation as we speak.
I do have the number to one organization
called .Backline. They are unbiased
support and options counseling. They are
based, I believe, in san francisco. If
you need someone to talk to, they have
trained volunteers manning their hotline.
They will be kind and supportive and help
you through whichever decision you make.
Their numbers are (503) 493-0092 or (888)
493-0092. You can call monday through
thursday between 5-10 pm (pacific standard
time) and friday through sunday between
10-3pm (again, pacific standard time). I
will try to look for an organization
that's closer to you but you can give them
a call in the meantime.
Your local planned parenthood also has
counselors on staff who can help you with
whatever you decide. Most of them can
counsel you on all of your options and if
you should decide on adoption, many of
them can also help you set up open and
closed adoptions in your area.
If you do decide to obtain an abortion,
there are organizations available who can
help you (if you qualify) pay for the
procedure. I thought I would mention
them since you are currently out of work
with two children. To look up an
organization near you, you can start by
going to the .National .Network of
.Abortion .Funds' website here: h
ttp://www.Nnaf.Org/
keep us posted and remember that you're
not alone. I'm so sorry that you are
feeling that you are at this time but
you're not. Most of us here support you
in whatever you decide to do.
Peace,
jenn
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Tazzy D
Advanced Support Team
Joined: 30 Oct 2004 Posts: 3717 Location: , va
Posted: 01-08-06 19:19pm
I agree with jenn.. And remember we are
here if you need to talk
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chevygurl25
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jan 2006 Posts: 6 Location: Edmonton
You Are Not Alone Posted: 01-12-06 12:19pm
Hello
i may not be in your hometown but I am
here for you. I know what its like to
have people not understand. I was called
a murderer straight to my face by my best
friend since grade 4!!!! Hard stuff.
I use to be against them until I was in
the shoes. No one can judge you unless
they are you.
If you feel this is the right thing to do,
then follow what you believe. If I could
I would fly out there and be with you
through it, I know how hard it is to go
through that before and after. Its been
6 months and I still have a hard time
looking at babies.
I would maybe even call the womens centre
in your town and talk to them. Sometimes
they do have group talks and you might be
able to find someone there.
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