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Q: Who Buys the Baby Stuff In Your House??

asked by: Sammy001 on January 10th, 2006

Active User, very eHealthy

Hi guys... I just have a quick question. For those of you who have a significant other. Who buys the babys stuff? I mean like the diapers, butt cream,formula, pay the sitter? I have been married for 2 years, and this baby is obvisously both of ours. I have been buying everything since he was born. I think hubby has bought maybe one pack of diapers.

I have to go back to work soon, and I will be the one who pays the babysitter. I don't know what the going rate is, but she charges $ 140 a week.
We both made this baby together, and I feel that I am the one who is always broke. Since going on maternity leave, I have continued to contribute just as much to our daily lifestyle ( bills, etc. ) plus paid and bought all baby nathans things, with my income cut totally in half!!! His income is not hurt at all, he still has his money to himself, it is like he doesn't have a child. He doesn't have to sacrifice much!!

We have separate accounts. His money is his, and mine is mine. We do discuss big purchases together though, our s.U.V, caddy, camping trailer etc.

I think he should atleast give me half of the babysitters pay. What do you think?? I feel like I am a single mother, becasue financially...He's not much help with him. We don't get much of a family allowance cheque...Only $25 a month. It was revised for 2006. Sucks bad!!

Replies(11)

lil_blaze2004

replied on January 10th, 2006

Moderator

I buy everything too. He figures because I get the family allowance that I should buy the stuff. Here in quebec we get 2 cheques (provincial and federal) I get about 400$ a month between the 2. Ours are higher here for some reason. Hubby does what I tell him to with his money. Bills, food, give it to me. Lol. I am the family accountant and banker.

I think your hubby should either pay the sitter or buy the baby supplies. Tell him it is up to him which he wants. Either way it'll be about the same cost.

michelle1981

replied on January 10th, 2006

Supporter

Isn't money joint?

I don't have an income so all the money comes from my husband. I manage the monthly bills. If brian held the money..... We would be broke :lol:

diamondsz

replied on January 10th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

I get baby bonus most of it is sufficient for diaper/wipes a new outfit or shoes, i'm the one who pays for daycare 700/month plus food and then hubby pays rent bills and groceries. So although we have two different account everything is kinda equal if I need money I get his card and vice versa..

I think if you bf isnt helping that he should pay half the cost of daycare cause its not fair to you and it does take two ppl to make a child.

Wish you luck!
Jess

Sarah1978

replied on January 10th, 2006

Experienced User

Before my hubby and I completely joined our accounts we used to have one account in both our names and we both put a set amount ($300 I think) in there each pay day to pay for the bills, food etc etc. It was a really good way to do it as you still had your own money but no one was paying for more than the other. Now both pays go in to the same account and I try and keep it out of his hands or we would be broke lol!!

mayhi

replied on January 10th, 2006

Experienced User

Hi there,

wow, I cannot imagine doing it that way.. Having separate bank accounts. My husband and I have a joint account that the money goes into from both of our jobs. We both also have additional accounts that we through money in fromtime to time in case something comes up and we need it. Anyways. I just cannot imagine ever having to do it that way. Good luck, but I think once you are married.. Its both of your money.

rainy1279

replied on January 10th, 2006

Experienced User

I think the set amount it a great idea. Or if he won't go for that... Get him to pay 1/2 of everything.. Sitter, food, diapers, wipes. Etc... Maybe then he will realize how much you are actually paying.. :)

Tamadrummer

replied on January 11th, 2006

Active User, very eHealthy

michelle1981 wrote:

isn't money joint?

I don't have an income so all the money comes from my husband. I manage the monthly bills. If brian held the money..... We would be broke :lol:

this is how our house is and since I am brian as well it goes the same. If I handeled the money we would be livinv in refrigerator boxes. I buy way too much, I keep inventory sheets on our baby consumables. (i am disabled and so my home/baby/wife is my job) I know we have over 5000 wipes in different brands, from newborn types to scented regular ones, 1000 playtex drop ins (4/8 oz.) 2x 16 oz. A&d ountment tubs and 6 x 4oz tubes a&d, 1 tube 4 oz balmex, 1 tube 4oz desitin, 90 jars of baby food, 128 1bag in use size 1/2 swadlers, 200 size 2 swaddlers, 128 size 3 crusiers, and well over 30 bottles of different smell lotions, shampoo/body wash and creams, 4 boxes of huggies disposeable lavender/chamomielle wash cloths. 6 big cans of isomil advanced, 4 big cans of prosobee lipil, 4 big cans of regular enfamil lipil given to us as samples but we are staying with soy right now.

If it were up to me we would live in a drug store so I could get diapers, formula, drop ins, nursing bra pads, and you can take it from there.

I have a sickness so I gave my debit card to my wife and I get an allowence. Yes, I am a guy and yes I am dangerous in the store.

Good luck to all,
brian

michelle1981

replied on January 11th, 2006

Supporter

tamadrummer wrote:

michelle1981 wrote:

isn't money joint?

I don't have an income so all the money comes from my husband. I manage the monthly bills. If brian held the money..... We would be broke :lol:

lol, you sound just like us, but a mixed us. I know everything that's in my house(brian ain't got a clue lol) and I manage the money lol.

Good man :d

~*~Jillian~*~

replied on January 12th, 2006

Extremely eHealthy

We both buy things...And my family and his are always giving him things....

The only thing I hate is when people buy him toys all the time...And he needs clothes diapers...Formula...Way more than he needs dang toys...Lol

kirztensmummy

replied on January 12th, 2006

Experienced User

We've got separate accounts as it gets really confusing when all bills and earnings goes to one account, however we share on paying bills etc. And I just tell him if I need cash and vice versa.Although when our lil one's born he's gonna be the primary earner and provider as ill prob stay with kids coz its to dear to pay for a child minder and nursery so its not worth me workin, not at least for a year or so tho. Plus ill have maternity allowance and child tax credit though its too little its gonna help with the basics.
If I want or need something and im skint I just tell my hubby and he's alright with it as long as I dont drag him to the mall lol

chrissy721

replied on January 12th, 2006

Active User, very eHealthy

I think it's way better if you just share everything. I think it'd be more confusing when the bills come in to figure who used what and what goes where, etc. I grew up with grandparents that had separate accounts for everything. They even bought separate groceries and all that jazz, heaven forbid if one got into the others ice cream...The crap hit the fan then. Haha. I thought it was disgusting watching them argue over something as stupid as money. When it comes to a baby, it took the two of you to make it, it should take the two of you to raise it, clothe it, feed it, etc. That's just my personal opinion though. I'm not trying to be rude or anything either, but that's just how I think.

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