I am new here, just looking for some
advise. Well here is my story. Recently
my girlfreind has been acting strange,
staying out late, lying about where she is
going. When I confronted her and asked if
she was cheating on me she said no and
continued to explain that the person she
was seeing behind my back was gay and she
enjoyed hanging out with him and talking.
I don't know why she lied about it in the
first place if he is gay I should not
worry right? He is always messeging her
at night saying good night and what not.
Should I be jealous of this, is this
considered cheating, I am confused about
the whole situation and don't know if I
should get mad or what. Is this gay man
trying to take my girlfriend from me? She
says see still loves me, but our
relationship has been on rocky ground for
sometime. Sorry for this but I do not
have any experience with gay people,
should I consider him as a man and
consider this to be cheating?
Any advise will be appreciated.
Thank you,
mnm
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Fairy*Godmother
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Just a Thought..... Posted: 01-10-06 20:26pm
Hi, if this relationship with your
girlfriend were as serious to her, as it
seems to you, why not confront this "other
person". If this "other person" is gay,
why has she not brought him around for you
to meet? I mean, theres not a threat
involved? Gay or not, that is not the
issue. Friends are friends and their
sexual pref. Is their choice. If this
person is indeed a friend, why can she not
ask you to go along with them? Something
in this net is not holding the fish....I
mean there seems to be some holes in it.
The staying out late and the "secretive"
parts would make me suspicious. I'd say
the ball is in your court. You can either
confront and find the truth, or continue
to be curious and allow yourself to get
hurt?????? Hmmmmm, go figure?????Sounds
really funky to me!
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mnm
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jan 2006 Posts: 2 Location: Japan
Should I Worry? Posted: 01-10-06 21:06pm
Thank you for taking the time to respond
so quickly. Would it be better to
confront this guy? I have been
considering it, but I do not know how she
would react. It could make matters worse
for us. She and I have been faithfull to
each other for 10 years during that time
she never went out with friends(i know
that is not healthy)then all of the sudden
she finds this gay friend and she says she
wants to go out and enjoy life with
friends from work. Am I not reading into
this deep enough, could she be wanting a
way out of this relationship or is she
just really wanting to have fun without
me. She married early and has 3 kids from
a previous marriage that I have taken care
of since we met. I love them like my own,
and just can't understand the sudden
change. Is easier to talk to gay men? Do
they understand women better than straight
men? I am really confused, am I even
posting in the right forum, should I be in
the relationsip forum?
Sorry if I am not making sense, I just
have no one to talk to and so many thought
running through my head.
Thank you,
mnm
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fox1lady
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Aug 2006 Posts: 53
Posted: 08-23-06 18:23pm
Be careful with that, that guy doesnt
sound like a gay person...It sounds like a
straight man...Dont get jealous, try the
same thing to her..This will let you know
if she is playing the field..If she gets
upset at what you do, then she will
understand how you feel..If she still
wants to be in this type of relationship
then she needs to let you know..Ask to
meet this so called friend of hers..This
will let you know if he is gay or
straight..If she refuses then you have
your answer..
