Not sure if this is in the right section
but here goes...
A few weeks ago it was a friend’s 18th
birthday party. We were all really drunk.
Anyways, in this state I stupidly pulled
another girl. On the dance floor in a
club my hand went down her knickers, I
touched her but did not insert my fingers
into her, and pulled out straight away due
to realisation of what was happening. I
do remember her being very wet down there
though. Is this a sign that she was
ovulating at the time?
My concern is this - I masturbated at
around 4.30pm on the same day before I
went out, and I estimate that I got with
this girl at around midnight. I am now
paranoid that I may have gotten this girl
pregnant. I did not have a shower after I
masturbated before I went out. I did
however obviously urinate in between the
events. I am worried that I may have gone
to the toilet in the club, and touched my
penis whilst urinating with my fingers and
then got with this girl afterwards. I did
not wash my hands in the toilet.
My first question is how long can sperm
live in this situation after I masturbated
– for example can it live for the time
since masturbation to the time in the club
under my foreskin or on my penis?
Secondly, if I was excited by dancing with
girls etc in the club, and I then touched
my penis, would any pre-cum or remaining
cum still contain live sperm? Also, if I
did get anything on my fingers, how long
would they survive in a club environment?
I also suffer from sweaty hands if this
has anything to do with the lifespan of
sperm?
Also, if I did have sperm on my finger,
and she was wet down in that region, even
though I did not insert my finger, what
are the chances of pregnancy?
If I did have sperm on my fingers, what is
the lifespan of survival in a club
situation – how long would it take for
the sperm to dry and die etc?
I am going mad with worry - and what makes
it worse is that I had a girlfriend when
this happened, although she was not there.
I love my girlfriend and the thought that
I have hurt her makes me feel sick and
seriously bad about myself. I have told
my girlfriend that I pulled this girl and
she has dealt with it, but I am afraid of
telling her this other incident with her.
This is the first time I have ever cheated
on anyone and will be the last.
What are the chances of making this girl
pregnant?
Secondly, I know it is very unlikely I
will ever see this girl again even though
it happened in my own town, but what
happens if she did get pregnant and we
met?
Thirdly, I am so afraid of telling my
girlfriend or losing her if she found out
or if the girl was to become pregnant -
what should I do about this?
I know it seems very ott, but this is how
things work out in my head at the
moment.
I am finding it very hard to forgive
myself for what I have done - will it take
time for this to heal in my current
relationship, or will it always plague our
relationship…?
Hope someone can help - thanks : )
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erogers33
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jan 2006 Posts: 141 Location: Littleton, CO
Posted: 01-11-06 12:45pm
Hun, you did not get the girl pregnant.
Period. Sperm die very quickly in the
environment. They may live for up to 3
days inside a woman, but they die almost
instantly anywhere else. So please stop
worrying.
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AlliE_18
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Dec 2005 Posts: 2129 Location: uk
Posted: 01-11-06 13:58pm
Yeh she wont be pregnant so dont worry.
Good of you to tell your girlfriend what
you did, she has a right to know..More men
should be honest like that and own upto
it. Not saying they should cheat or
anything in the first place, but if they
do then own up...You know what I mean.
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54321
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jan 2006 Posts: 26
Posted: 01-11-06 14:54pm
Ok, thankyou for your replys.
Knowing that I will not have gotten her
pregnant is a great relief, but I still
have the problem of my girlfriend. I love
her to bits and like I said, the thought
of doing what I have done to her makes me
feel sick.
Firstly, should I tell her about the hand
down the pants incident or not?
Secondly, I am finsing it hard at the
moment as everytime I see my girlfriend I
feel great amounts of guilt. Will going
on a break help us? And will this guilt
reduce over time?
Thanks once again
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kb77
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Dec 2005 Posts: 100
Posted: 01-11-06 17:37pm
:lol: not possible!
No worries :oops:
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54321
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jan 2006 Posts: 26
Posted: 01-11-06 17:45pm
kb77
wrote:
:lol: not possible!
No worries
:oops:
what is not possible?!
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AlliE_18
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Dec 2005 Posts: 2129 Location: uk
Posted: 01-11-06 17:45pm
I say tell her about the incident...I
thought you wrote you already had, but yeh
just be honest with her. She deserves to
know the truth, know who she is with.
Maybe she'll forgive you. You'll feel
better once you have been honest with her.
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kb77
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Dec 2005 Posts: 100
Posted: 01-11-06 21:28pm
Pregnancy hun!
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54321
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jan 2006 Posts: 26
Posted: 01-12-06 06:06am
Oh right, ok, thanks!
Errm im just afraid of telling her I
suppose - wont it do more harm than good
telling her though?
