Joined: 11 Aug 2005 Posts: 46 Location: Kingston, ON Canada
Looking Back On a Mistake: Can It Be Fixed By Starting Over? Posted: 01-11-06 22:45pm
Here's the back story: over three years
ago I met this girl... To me she was this
perfect girl; smart, funny, beautiful...
Three years ago we went to the same
school, and I took her to the school's
winter semi-formal (this was in grade 9,
we are both in grade 12)... Thought it
might have been due to the air being
mostly pot smoke, I felt happier than I
have ever been, I felt whole and
complete... I tried to get a second date
for two whole months... Because she was a
model, she was busy every weekend... We
still saw each other at school all the
time, we were still good friends... After
two months I made a decision that i, in
hindsight, think is the worst decision I
have ever made... Back then I thought
just having a girlfriend was important,
and that I would have a better chance
asking out another girl I knew, so I gave
up on the first girl... The relationship
with the second girl did go to well it
lasted one uneventful date... Then the
summer came, and that fall I started going
to a private school 350km away... I went
back to my old school a few times to see
friends, and i'd see her, and I would feel
a pang of loss and after that visit I
would be thinking of her constantly for an
entire week... Then, that christmas, one
year after our semi-formal date, she told
me that she was dating another guy, and I
felt like something went through my heart
(since this is the broken hearted forum I
assume a lot of you know the feeling)...
At this point I knew that I really had no
hope of getting back with her, but it took
me almost a year to get completely over
her...She dated this guy for 18 months
before it ended badly last september...
When she told me that they had broken up I
felt hope again, but unfortunately she
also told me the she didn't want another
relationship for a long time... Before
christmas I want back to my old school to
see friends and I ended having lunch with
her and some of her friends (who were also
my old friends)... When I first saw her
that day I gave her a big hug and felt
happy and complete, like some tightness
had been removed from my chest... I still
maintain that she is still a perfect girl
to me (after over three years I haven't
found anything against her) still smart,
funny, and absolutely beautiful, and I
would do almost anything for her... I
have never told her how I felt, mostly
because I have only really discovered how
far these feelings go, and that after all
this time that it is probably more than
infatuation... I really want to tell her
how I feel, but I don't want to ruin our
friendship, or alienate her to me or
anything like that... My question after
all this is simply:
should I tell her how I feel?
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~baby~g~
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jul 2005 Posts: 221 Location: Ohio
Posted: 01-12-06 19:59pm
Tell her how you feel asap! I know you
are probably scared of what she will say
but i'm tellin you hun you don't want to
end up loosing her to another guy. If you
tell her, you will get it off your chest
and she will know. Trust me, guys have
done this to me & after I found out
how they feel i'm like aww, but they all
wait until I have a bf. Tell her &
good luck to you!
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Kloosty
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2005 Posts: 46 Location: Kingston, ON Canada
Distance Posted: 01-12-06 20:32pm
I'm just worried about how far apart we
live... I get home at most once a month,
and next year i'll be even farther at
university... It would be worse for her
to say "i like you but I don't think it
would work"
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~baby~g~
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jul 2005 Posts: 221 Location: Ohio
Posted: 01-12-06 20:38pm
Yeah I know what your saying but i'm sure
if you 2 got together then you could work
something out to be able to see her. I
only get to see my bf like 4 times a
month, and it'll be like that for about
another 6 months, but I do it cause I love
him & I trust him with all my heart.
Just do what your heart tells you. Would
you rather her know how you feel or not
tell her & then she ends up with
another guy and you have to go through all
that heart ache again?
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Surrender
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Nov 2005 Posts: 128 Location: canada
Posted: 01-12-06 20:44pm
Tell her, what do you have to lose? Yay!
Lakefield! I'm in peterborough!!
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Kloosty
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2005 Posts: 46 Location: Kingston, ON Canada
What to Lose? Posted: 01-12-06 20:48pm
Well the most I have to lose is her...
The annoying thing is back in grade 9 when
I first met her I had the balls to ask her
out, not caring about hwether she said yes
or no
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Surrender
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Nov 2005 Posts: 128 Location: canada
Posted: 01-12-06 21:04pm
What I meant is that the worst that will
happen is she says no, you won't lose her,
she won't stop being part of your
life....And if you dont' ask her, you'll
spend your life wondering 'what if.."
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Kloosty
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2005 Posts: 46 Location: Kingston, ON Canada
Well Then... Posted: 01-12-06 22:32pm
Well how do I spill my heart fo rher in
such a way that doesn't turn her off...
'cause i'm pretty sure that saying what I
did at the beginning of this thread would
be coming on abit too strong
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Kloosty
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2005 Posts: 46 Location: Kingston, ON Canada
