Greetings,
i have read through a lot of the posts
concerning ed found on this board and the
vast majority of them concern treatments
for a possible physical problem down
there. I am about as sure as I can be
however that my problem is entirely in my
head and I don't really know how to fix
it.
It started when I was 17 and has gotten
worse since then (i am 23 now). The
problem started with me getting worried
about losing my erection because it
happened once during sex and has since
snow balled. Now at 23 I am having
incredibly difficulty maintaining it
during sex (even though I can manage to
get a very strong one for a bit). I get
into a mental cycle where I worry about it
and then try to stop myself from worrying,
etc. And that causes it to go down and I
am almost never able to get it back up in
that session.
The problem is worst during sex but is
starting to creep into when I masturbate
too...It gets to the point sometimes where
I feel almost a tightness in my chest from
the stress.
I know people would suggest not thinking
about it but I have tried and that doesn't
work. How do I break this mental cycle?
How do I learn to be able to think during
sex and not lose my erection? This is
driving me and my partner crazy and I
don't know what to do, please help.
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pleonastic
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jan 2006 Posts: 14
Posted: 01-15-06 14:56pm
Its just an idea and im not a professional
or anything, but maybe you can focus on
your partner and just forget about
yourself. Like try and draw all of your
attention away from the strength of your
errection, and just get as much into doing
her as you can. Relaxing can be hard
after that kind of ordeal, I had one when
I was 16 the same thing but I was realy
drunk, and got right back on the horse
days later and they were pretty
understanding I guess. You will fix
whatever problems youre having , so good
luck
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cd998776
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Aug 2005 Posts: 996 Location: Ohio
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Posted: 01-15-06 16:32pm
Good advice, being in arroused mental
state will help alot. Try to reduce
stress at all cost (worrying about it).
Are you on any medication, uynder any
stress, what's your diet like, do you
exercise, do you smoke, do drugs, or
drink?
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hemostatic_electricity
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Feb 2006 Posts: 40
Posted: 02-23-06 15:34pm
I had the same problem for a while. I
don't really know what I did to get over
it, but I did. It really helps if you
have an understand wife/girlfriend. When
it would happen to me my girlfriend would
tell me that it was ok and then she'd go
down on me until I relaxed enough to get
hard again.
Mental blocks can be the worst type of
problems to have to work through because
they're self propogating. I know it
sound cliche, but just don't think about
it.
