Bachelorette Party - Hurt Fiance Posted: 01-15-06 23:31pm
My fiancee had a bachelorette party
weekend with a bunch of girlfriends. They
went to florida to hang out on the beach.
We have always talked about how we both
hate the traditional expectations of these
things - strippers, being decorated with
plastic penises, dares, etc. I never told
her what she should/shouldn't or
could/couldn't do this weekend, but we
both have always agreed that any kind of
intimate contact with the opposite sex is
cheating.
Anyway, I found out that her weekend was
full of the kinds of games and dares we
always said we didn't like. No big deal.
But one of the dares was to make out with
a guy. She did. They kissed, her sitting
on his lap, for about 10 minutes.
I found out because she started telling me
how they did have some of the "ritual
stuff" but she didn't do anything like
kiss someone. I was surprised they did
all of the games and stuff because she had
told her best friend/maid of honor she
didn't want that, but I wasn't upset.
She's not a good liar though, and I could
tell she wasn't telling me everything. I
must stress that she is usually very
honest with me. More than anyone i've
ever known.
Anyway, talking to a friend of hers, the
truth inadvertantly slipped. I confronted
my fiancee who said it did happen and had
just been too afraid and ashamed to tell
me.
I am hurt, angry and I feel betrayed. I
have been cheated on in the past and she
knows how important issues of trust are.
We are supposed to get married in one
month and I am not sure what to do. Part
of me wants to call ti off. I'd like to
say "it was a mistake" and let it go with
the understanding this kind of mistake
can't happen again. But I feel like my
trust has been shattered. Any thoughts on
this?
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w0rldd0minat0r
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Feb 2006 Posts: 238
Posted: 02-26-06 16:39pm
Allow him to have a small affair and he'll
have another again and again
make sure u are 100% sure that he will
never cheat again
take care do what ur heart says
if u do choose to trust him dont let it
play on your mind
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erogers33
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jan 2006 Posts: 141 Location: Littleton, CO
Posted: 03-01-06 18:13pm
W0rld, I think the story is talking about
his fiance - who is a girl.
Delcore, I can understand why you are so
upset. I would be pissed if I were in
your shoes. I don't know if I would be
able to get over the hurt of knowing that
my fiance made out with someone else.
Anyways, your post is over a month and a
half old, so i'm assuming the wedding date
has come and gone. So what happened? Did
you marry her or not? Let us know what
happened either way!
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 03-02-06 11:16am
I would also like to know what happened.
. .
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w0rldd0minat0r
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Feb 2006 Posts: 238
Posted: 03-02-06 18:09pm
Oops just noticed I did that
will improve skim reading for future :p
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 03-03-06 09:06am
I wonder if he is going to say anything?
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hazel82
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Mar 2006 Posts: 39 Location: Ontario
Posted: 03-03-06 11:10am
I personally think you have a right to be
hurt and angry! What she did was wrong!
Game or no game...If you had done the same
to her she wouldnt like it either.
It all depends on wether you can live with
what she had done...But I suspect that it
will always be in the back of your
mind...Especially if you have been cheated
on in the past.
Almost 3 years ago I met my exfiance...The
relationship was great...We got engaged
and set a date to get married...We started
planning the wedding and feeling all loved
up as you do...Until I got a text message
off his exgirlfriend...She claimed he had
been fooling around with her...I
confrunted him and he told me the whole
truth. I decided that he was only
human...We make mistakes and stayed with
him...But not long before the wedding I
realised that I couldnt live with what he
had done...I didnt even see him the same
way I did and that from the point I found
out the relationship had been over...I was
just foolin myself!
I know its not quite the same....But it
all boils down to one thing....Will you
feel the same about her? And be able to
forgive her? Trust is what love and a
relationship is built on.
Only you know what is best for
yourself....I booted my ex out almost a
year ago...Now I am with a guy that really
love and most of all trust I travelled
8,000 miles to be with him.
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 03-03-06 11:32am
Wow,thats crazy.Good for you for finding
something better!
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hazel82
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Mar 2006 Posts: 39 Location: Ontario
Posted: 03-03-06 16:55pm
Thanx I have always found my self with the
wrong kinda guy...But now im happy in a
way I never thought I could be...You never
know what is just round the corner for
you...I didnt even intend on finding a
boyfriend at the time...Lol
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