Hi i'm a single mum to 2 children and
stepmum to 3 children.
I was raped 2 years ago and then found out
I was left pregnant by my rapist :(
i felt sick and knew straight away what I
needed to do.... Have a termination.
As a single mum of 2 this was a hard thing
to do. Half of the baby growing inside me
was mine and my childrens
brother/sister.
But I knew I would never love this child
like my other 2 so it wasn't fair to bring
a child into this world.
Even though I know it was the best thing
to do for myself I have been left feeling
part of myself was terminated too (if that
makes sense?)
the baby if I had kept would of been 1
this week and I feel so sad and
depressed.
No-one understands that just because I
terminated the pregnacy I can't feel
greif, pain, emptiness, forgivness.
For anyone who thinks abortion is easy
your so wrong!! Know matter how much you
think you can forget you can't.
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 01-18-06 16:17pm
Hi there! I am soo sorry that you had to
go through that! Rape is bad enough, I
hope that you tuned it in and they caught
the jerk and they hang him so that he
cannot hurt other women like he hurt you!
Going through an abortion is not an easy
choice for anyone but you probaably made
the right choice at the time. You never
forget but you can forgive yourself
because it is not your fault! You can
get help for something like this if you
need or want it, it is out their and we
are here for you too!
Please keep us posted!
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sadness
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 30 Location: london uk
Posted: 01-18-06 18:18pm
No I didn't turn him in. At the time I
didn't want to believe it had happened.
I wish now I had. :evil: it plays on my
head that he could do that to the next
women he meets.
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Tylanas
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Joined: 13 Jul 2005 Posts: 12985
Thanks: 3
Thanked:0
Posted: 01-18-06 18:54pm
I'm sorry those things happened to you.
Remember that the choices you've made in
the past make you who you are now, and
though you might have done differently if
you'd had the chance, there is no way to
go back and change things; so don't let
those thoughts drag you down!
You have two wonderful children who need
you to be loving and caring! Don't dwell
on the past; learn from it and be stronger
for your experiences! Can you go back and
change what you did? No, so move on and
be all that you can be as a mother!
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~*~Jillian~*~
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Feb 2005 Posts: 1759 Location: Tennessee, USA
Re: My Story of My Abortion Posted: 01-19-06 18:15pm
sadness
wrote:
hi i'm a single mum to 2
children and stepmum to 3 children.
I was raped 2 years ago and then found out
I was left pregnant by my rapist :(
i felt sick and knew straight away what I
needed to do.... Have a termination.
As a single mum of 2 this was a hard thing
to do. Half of the baby growing inside
me was mine and my childrens
brother/sister.
But I knew I would never love this child
like my other 2 so it wasn't fair to bring
a child into this world.
Even though I know it was the best thing
to do for myself I have been left feeling
part of myself was terminated too (if that
makes sense?)
the baby if I had kept would of been 1
this week and I feel so sad and
depressed.
No-one understands that just because I
terminated the pregnacy I can't feel
greif, pain, emptiness, forgivness.
For anyone who thinks abortion is easy
your so wrong!! Know matter how much you
think you can forget you
can't.
very sad to hear your story...The guy that
did that to you ..Deserves to go to
hell...I think abortion is wrong...But not
in your case ..You shouldnt feel bad at
all for your decision...Things happen in
life that sometimes we dont want to happen
...You just have to move on and I know its
hard ..But one day you'll be able to look
at yourself and understand that what you
did was only for yours and the babys well
being...
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sunshine424
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Nov 2005 Posts: 397 Location: New York
Posted: 01-19-06 21:27pm
I am very sorry you had to go through
this.
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jenn_smithson
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Nov 2004 Posts: 808 Location: Texas
Re: My Story of My Abortion Posted: 01-19-06 22:12pm
sadness
wrote:
hi i'm a single mum to 2
children and stepmum to 3 children.
I was raped 2 years ago and then found out
I was left pregnant by my rapist :(
i felt sick and knew straight away what I
needed to do.... Have a termination.
As a single mum of 2 this was a hard thing
to do. Half of the baby growing inside
me was mine and my childrens
brother/sister.
But I knew I would never love this child
like my other 2 so it wasn't fair to bring
a child into this world.
Even though I know it was the best thing
to do for myself I have been left feeling
part of myself was terminated too (if that
makes sense?)
you make perfect sense.
It is a common feeling that .Women who
have been raped go through. Have you
sought any counseling for the rape?
Quote:
the baby if I had
kept would of been 1 this week and I feel
so sad and depressed.
No-one understands that just because I
terminated the pregnacy I can't feel
greif, pain, emptiness,
forgivness.
this is unfortunately out
of my area of expertise so there is not
much help that I can offer. I can tell
you that .Women who have been raped
typically do go through these stages when
they are emotionally trying to heal. To
have to deal with a termination on top of
that could not have made any part of the
situation any easier. It is a hard
decision to make even when the pregnancy
did not result in rape. I am so sorry
that you had to go through it. If you
would like, I can look up counseling
information in your area. You do not
need to have money or health insurance to
get the help that you may need to cope
with the rape. There are usually
organizations available in your area who
can lend a hand. Just let me know.
Peace,
jenn
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sadness
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 30 Location: london uk
Re: My Story of My Abortion Posted: 01-25-06 08:17am
jenn_smithson
wrote:
sadness
wrote:
hi i'm a single mum to 2
children and stepmum to 3 children.
I was raped 2 years ago and then found out
I was left pregnant by my rapist :(
i felt sick and knew straight away what I
needed to do.... Have a termination.
As a single mum of 2 this was a hard thing
to do. Half of the baby growing inside
me was mine and my childrens
brother/sister.
But I knew I would never love this child
like my other 2 so it wasn't fair to bring
a child into this world.
Even though I know it was the best thing
to do for myself I have been left feeling
part of myself was terminated too (if that
makes sense?)
you make perfect sense.
It is a common feeling that .Women who
have been raped go through. Have you
sought any counseling for the rape?
Quote:
the baby if I had
kept would of been 1 this week and I feel
so sad and depressed.
No-one understands that just because I
terminated the pregnacy I can't feel
greif, pain, emptiness,
forgivness.
this is unfortunately out
of my area of expertise so there is not
much help that I can offer. I can tell
you that .Women who have been raped
typically do go through these stages when
they are emotionally trying to heal. To
have to deal with a termination on top of
that could not have made any part of the
situation any easier. It is a hard
decision to make even when the pregnancy
did not result in rape. I am so sorry
that you had to go through it. If you
would like, I can look up counseling
information in your area. You do not
need to have money or health insurance to
get the help that you may need to cope
with the rape. There are usually
organizations available in your area who
can lend a hand. Just let me know.
Peace,
jenn
i have not been able to find any support
in my area. I do really need some help so
if you can help I would be very greatful
x
peace
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 01-25-06 15:16pm
Hi there, me again, you can call mental
health in your area they can help you get
in contact with someone. Please do not
take me wrong, I am not saying that you
are crazy! We all need alittle help
sometime!
Bless you!
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jenn_smithson
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Nov 2004 Posts: 808 Location: Texas
Re: My Story of My Abortion Posted: 01-25-06 16:13pm
sadness
wrote:
i have not been able to find
any support in my area. I do really need
some help so if you can help I would be
very greatful x
peace
if you are in or near
london, check out this site.
Useful contacts
ashford hospital - london road - ashford -
01784 884488
st peter's hospital - guildford road -
chertsey - 01932 872000
family planning clinic - grove health
centre - church road - egham - 01784
477677
rape
crisis centre - 0171 837 1600 - or - 0171
916 5466
survivors (male rape) - 0171 833 3737
police domestic violence unit - 01932 846
823
police station - egham - 01932 845 544
egham well woman clinic - 01784 452 347
pregnancy advice centre - 0171 637 8962
brook advisory service - 0171 617 8000
national aids helpline - 0800 567 123
surrey & east hants aids link - 01483
300150
lesbian line - weekday evenings until
10.00 pm - 0181 992 5522
i'm assuming that those are phone numbers
so maybe that would be helpful in getting
you started. I'll keep looking in the
meantime and contact a friend of mine in
the uk for any other suggestions.
Peace and take care,
jenn
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sadness
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 30 Location: london uk
Posted: 01-25-06 16:49pm
Live in havering in london if helps.
Thanks to you both for your help xx
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NewB
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Aug 2006 Posts: 13 Location: Arizona
Dear Sad Lady Posted: 09-11-06 12:35pm
I found this website for rape victims and
there is another woman there with a very
similar story to you I would talk to her
if I were you.
