i have been seeing this guy for about 6
months now. Everything went well up until
a month ago. We didnt see each other much
since I work and go to school at the same
time and my schedule is very tight, but
when we did see each other it was always
nice and warm. We talk and text message
all the time. He is really sweet at
least he used to be. About a month ago
he started to get really rude and
disrespectful towards me. It hurts me
when he is like this. Also, it's like he
has mood swings or something like that. I
never know how hes going to react to my
phone calls or messages. I hate thinking
that I did something to piss him off. I
try to be extra nice to him when he is
having one of his bad days even if it
makes me feel sad. I am not the kind of
person that puts other people down and he
is. He puts me down and I put up with it
cuz I care about him a great deal. He
says he cares about me too, but deep down
I know he is bsing. Just last week I
told him that if I irritate him I want him
to let me know. He said I dont, but
yesterday he told me that I do, and that
he needs time to think. He said he cant
take too much of anyone. I mean we have
seen each other maybe once a week
throughout this whole time and he tells me
he needs time to think. Making me look
like im pushing for something. I dont
know, im very confused and I am starting
to feel remorse for him. We were really
good firneds before any of this happened.
I feel hurt and sad because I tried so
hard to satisfy him and then he comes up
with this. I am starting to think I gave
to freely. What should I do? How should
I approach this issue? Please
help!!!!!!!!!!!
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~baby~g~
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jul 2005 Posts: 221 Location: Ohio
Posted: 01-20-06 01:35am
Well, my bf used to be like this, we've
been together for a year now! He still
has his bad days & he likes to take it
out on me every once in awhile. He has
for the past two days now, I know it gets
very annoying. What I do is just comfort
him & let him know how much I love him
& how much i'll always be here for
him. Yes, it hurts my feelings and I do
yell back sometimes but we both always
realize what we're doing & apologize.
I mean I dunno if you're as close to your
man as I am to mine, but he's like one of
my best friends also, we tell each other
everything. I get so upset with him
sometimes that I tell him it's over but we
both know I don't mean it & it never
gets mentioned after that. My advice to
you is do you think he is really worth all
the pain? If so, then stay with him &
always be there for him to lean on, but if
not then break it off with him. Either
one, it's your choice!
<3
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hurt22
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2006 Posts: 8
Posted: 01-22-06 21:52pm
Thanks baby g. I see where you are
coming from. As of right now, im not
sure what to do. My schedule is full and
I try not to let this interfer with my
school and work, I will have to have a
talk with him and see whats going on.
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teach486
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Aug 2005 Posts: 276 Location: US
Posted: 01-29-06 10:36am
It could also be that there is someone new
in the picture, and he just doesn't want
to hurt you by telling you the truth. I
have done it, and have had it done to me.
I acted this same way, and they acted that
way, too.
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Lillyvan777
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Jan 2006 Posts: 6 Location: Superior wi
I'm So Sorry Your In Pain! Posted: 01-29-06 17:25pm
I know it sucks. But please try and
remember you only have six months invested
and if I knew what I know today, and if I
were you I would bolt. Run as fast as
you can. Try and fill your time with
your friends, or family. And if you
really think he's worth it, he will come
to you. I think it's a boundary think.
If you let him treat you this way now, he
will never, stop once the relationship
becomes more stable. Boundaries, I think
I needed them four years ago.
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Happiness03
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Jul 2005 Posts: 333
Posted: 01-29-06 17:37pm
teach486
wrote:
it could also be that there
is someone new in the picture, and he just
doesn't want to hurt you by telling you
the truth. I have done it, and have had
it done to me. I acted this same way,
and they acted that way,
too.
that was the first thing to pop into my
mind when I was reading about the way he
now all of the sudden seems to have little
interest and sometimes finds you annyoing.
I would confront him about the way he is
acting. Especially if you guys don't see
each other very much, he would have
sufficient time to find someone new.
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hurt22
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2006 Posts: 8
Thanks All Posted: 01-31-06 16:52pm
I appreciate everyones advice very much.
It has been hard on me. I am the kind of
person who doesn't like to deal with
unnecessary dramas. And that is all this
relationship was. It took a lot out of
me. I would come home and think of
things I might have done wrong to piss him
off. So I broke it off and even though I
am lonley I am better off. I have other
things to focus on (ie. My education
which is my #1 priority right now) and he
seemed to interfer with this quite a bit.
I think that there might be someone else
involved as well, he wasnt man enoguh to
admit, which shows how much character he's
got.
Thanks a bunch guys!
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Kittykatus
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Oct 2005 Posts: 89 Location: United Kingdom
Image of My Probs Hun... Posted: 01-31-06 17:12pm
I know how ya feel hun. My b/f suddenly
went off too- and do you know why?
If not check out dis book I found. I'm
not here to advertise it, but it has
helped me understand partially why men are
such losers at times.
'men are from mars, and women are from
venus'-john gray.
This guy has gone through problems himsefl
with love and treated people on the brink
of losing their love for another. Give it
a go-it's helped me out
kitty
xx
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hurt22
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2006 Posts: 8
Thanks Kitty Posted: 02-01-06 22:41pm
Heard of the book but did not read it.
Might check it out once I have more time.
Thanks!
