Joined: 12 Jun 2005 Posts: 171 Location: Chilliwack
Ttc Posted: 01-20-06 06:28am
I am ttc and have been actively trying for
about a month, well I have been trying for
over a year but I have had 2 miscarriages
since then so we took a little break but
we are ready to try again...I am really
anxiouse to become pg again....Some times
if feel like it is hopeless...Sorry there
is no really question here I just need to
vent I guess....The past mc's have just
really worried me alot.
Jen
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diamondsz
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Posted: 01-20-06 08:07am
Honestly just stop trying to concieve
instead just have sex and not look it as a
way of procreating, I dont want this to
pass of as harsh but sometimes when you
want something so bad it always flies back
and hits you. I never ttc we just said
if it happen it happen and christ I got
pregnant not even a month after both times
its not that im fertile its just I didnt
stress myself out.
Alot of people will respond saying im not
stressing out when you actually are stress
shows itself in different ways, such as
lowering ur immune system, having alot of
dream(even bad ones) or just not feeling
great(irritabilty etc.) just take things
easy and evetually you will have a child
unless u have a medical condition
prohibting u from having one!
Best of luck/baby dust ur way~!
Jess
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~*~Jillian~*~
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Joined: 01 Feb 2005 Posts: 1759 Location: Tennessee, USA
Posted: 01-20-06 17:57pm
Well I hope everything turns out good..And
you become pregnant and have you a lil
one..
Sorry about your past mc's..
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~rubmybuddahbelly~
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jan 2006 Posts: 752 Location: :( N.O. Evacuee now in TEXAS
Posted: 01-20-06 22:39pm
I really didnt think that worked... But I
was ttc and then I stopped and kinda didnt
want to have a baby any more because our
situation got really bad because of
hurricane katrina. Well I also wasnt
doing anything to provent it either and I
poped up pregnant.
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acoles70
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Nov 2005 Posts: 191 Location: KY
Posted: 01-21-06 10:00am
Not just everyone can pop up pregnant. It
really makes me mad when people give the
wonderful advice , "just calm down, it
will happen" or
"relax". This advice is coming from
people who get pregnant easily and don't
suffer through miscarriages. These are
not people who really understand that ttc
takes some people longer than 2 months.
I understand that ttc is stressful,
especially adding two miscarriages on top
of that. I really hope you get your
miracle soon!!! Just keep your faith it
will happen.
Ashlee
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tigresacanela24
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Joined: 11 Nov 2005 Posts: 5261 Location: Treat your children well, eventually they'll choose your nursing home.
Posted: 01-24-06 14:11pm
acoles70
wrote:
not just everyone can pop up
pregnant. It really makes me mad when
people give the wonderful advice , "just
calm down, it will happen" or
"relax". This advice is coming from
people who get pregnant easily and don't
suffer through miscarriages. These are
not people who really understand that ttc
takes some people longer than 2 months.
I understand that ttc is stressful,
especially adding two miscarriages on top
of that. I really hope you get your
miracle soon!!! Just keep your faith
it will happen.
Ashlee
i beg to differ with you acoles70. I
have the exact same advice. And let me
tell you my story. The one that I keep
to myself. I know what it's like to
believe that you are never going to have a
child. I was told by doctors that I
would never be able to have a child. I
was told that I had a tilted, incompetent
cervix not to mention a scarred uterus and
other reproductive issues that I don't
want to get into. I know exactly what
it's like to have a miscarriage. I had
not one, not two but three all within two
years. My husband and I were not ttc
but we didn't use bc either for the two
years after that. I didn't get pregnant
so I assumed the doctors were right. I
was depressed believing that it wouldn't
happen to me, that I would never be able
to have my own child. And then one day
I just didn't care anymore, I even decided
that I was better off w/o a baby because
my husband and I really weren't ready for
one any way. I didn't really want a
baby at all and I wound up pregnant. I
think telling someone to relax is good
advice. Look what happened to me when I
did. And I would have sworn (along with
the doctors that told me so) that it
wasn't possible. I'm not saying that
relaxation is the reason but it can't
hurt.
Look you don't know everyone's story and
that really offended me. Just cuz i'm
pregnant now doesn't mean it was easy.
Doesn't mean I didn't have any mc. It
darn sure doesn't mean that I didn't go
thru my share of grief.
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diamondsz
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Posted: 01-24-06 14:46pm
Well said tigres
like tigres I was told I couldnt have
kids because the meds I had taken when I
was a teenager would linger in my system
cause miscarriage or cause a deformity in
my child, I took meds till I was 17
(slowly coming off of them when I was near
18.) I was actually told not to have kids
until after 22 when the meds should be out
of my system and that was if I could have
them because the meds affected my liver
causing problems. At 19 I got pregnant
with my daughter and had a healthy girl no
problems but I was watched throughout my
pregnancy for problems and now im due in a
few days with #2 and I just turned 22 last
month although this pregnancy I had
complications.
I think having support and other ppl who
have been there helps alot without some of
the girls here I dont think I would have
made it through my pregnancy cause I kept
getting depressed I was going to loose or
give birth preterm.
Keep your head high and it will happen
good luck~!
Jess
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~rubmybuddahbelly~
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jan 2006 Posts: 752 Location: :( N.O. Evacuee now in TEXAS
Posted: 01-25-06 07:02am
acoles70
wrote:
not just everyone can pop up
pregnant. It really makes me mad when
people give the wonderful advice , "just
calm down, it will happen" or
"relax". This advice is coming from
people who get pregnant easily and don't
suffer through miscarriages. These are
not people who really understand that ttc
takes some people longer than 2 months.
I understand that ttc is stressful,
especially adding two miscarriages on top
of that. I really hope you get your
miracle soon!!! Just keep your faith it
will happen.
Ashlee
ok im not saying that she is just going to
mirraculously pop up pregnant within the
next 2 days. I was ttc for months almost
a year. Im just saying after I really
stopped trying with in that month I was
pregnant. Im not saying this happens to
eveyone im just giving my story about what
happend to me. I know its a sad and
horrible thing to go threw but it's also
not healthy to dwell on a misscarrige
cause that can stress you out and make it
harder to conceive. There are millions of
people who have misscarried and still end
up pregnant and dont have to wai that long
after ttc. I really hope you and ur
husband get your wish. And if you do try
longer then you can emotionaly change it.
See what your options are with fertility
drugs and all that. I mean alot is
possible. And I will keep u in my
prayers.
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justacanadiangirl
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Joined: 19 Nov 2004 Posts: 1803
Posted: 01-25-06 23:39pm
Well jenn, how long did it take before u
got pregnant with ur son? It might just
take longer than u thought. And stressing
about it will do u no good.
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mum2bubba
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Posted: 01-26-06 04:50am
diamondsz
wrote:
honestly just stop trying to
concieve instead just have sex and not
look it as a way of procreating, I dont
want this to pass of as harsh but
sometimes when you want something so bad
it always flies back and hits you. I
never ttc we just said if it happen it
happen and christ I got pregnant not even
a month after both times its not that im
fertile its just I didnt stress myself
out.
Alot of people will respond saying im not
stressing out when you actually are stress
shows itself in different ways, such as
lowering ur immune system, having alot of
dream(even bad ones) or just not feeling
great(irritabilty etc.) just take things
easy and evetually you will have a child
unless u have a medical condition
prohibting u from having one!
Best of luck/baby dust ur way~!
I agree, try not to think about it too
much and just have sex for the sake of
having sex (or coz you love each other)
and not just coz you're tryimg for a baby.
Our daughter hayley was planned but we
didn't mind whether we had her then or
later, basically I said to my fiance "do
you want to have a baby?" he said "ok" and
I said "alright, i'll stip taking the
pill" then about a month and a half 2
months later we were pregnant. When we
thought about having a baby we didn't go
into depth about it, I mean we didn't sit
down and discuss all the pros and cons we
just let it happen. Best of luck to you.
:)
jess
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mum2bubba
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Posted: 01-26-06 04:54am
tigresacanela24
wrote:
acoles70
wrote:
not just everyone can pop up
pregnant. It really makes me mad when
people give the wonderful advice , "just
calm down, it will happen" or
"relax". This advice is coming from
people who get pregnant easily and don't
suffer through miscarriages. These
are not people who really understand that
ttc takes some people longer than 2
months. I understand that ttc is
stressful, especially adding two
miscarriages on top of that. I really
hope you get your miracle soon!!!
Just keep your faith it will happen.
Ashlee
i beg to differ with you acoles70. I
have the exact same advice. And let me
tell you my story. The one that I keep
to myself. I know what it's like to
believe that you are never going to have a
child. I was told by doctors that I
would never be able to have a child. I
was told that I had a tilted, incompetent
cervix not to mention a scarred uterus and
other reproductive issues that I don't
want to get into. I know exactly what
it's like to have a miscarriage. I had
not one, not two but three all within two
years. My husband and I were not ttc
but we didn't use bc either for the two
years after that. I didn't get pregnant
so I assumed the doctors were right. I
was depressed believing that it wouldn't
happen to me, that I would never be able
to have my own child. And then one day
I just didn't care anymore, I even decided
that I was better off w/o a baby because
my husband and I really weren't ready for
one any way. I didn't really want a
baby at all and I wound up pregnant. I
think telling someone to relax is good
advice. Look what happened to me when
I did. And I would have sworn (along
with the doctors that told me so) that it
wasn't possible. I'm not saying that
relaxation is the reason but it can't
hurt.
Look you don't know everyone's story and
that really offended me. Just cuz i'm
pregnant now doesn't mean it was easy.
Doesn't mean I didn't have any mc. It
darn sure doesn't mean that I didn't go
thru my share of
grief.
my sister in law was told she could never
have kids coz she has endometriosis (i
have no idea how to spell that) but she
has 4 kids now, shes had about 10
miscarriages though, but she was never
really trying for a baby (but she wasn't
on bc either) so I think in some cases it
does help if you relax. :)
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acoles70
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Nov 2005 Posts: 191 Location: KY
Posted: 01-26-06 10:39am
I agree that in some cases relaxtion might
work. But there are some people that
doesn't work for. Advanced reproductive
therapy is the only thing that works for
some people. More people than you would
think. I just wouldn't want someone to
walk around "relaxing" when they could
have gotten pregnant with a little help.
I recommend seeing a good obgyn over
listening to advice on the internet.
They are more likely to get you
pregnant.
Ashlee
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tigresacanela24
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Joined: 11 Nov 2005 Posts: 5261 Location: Treat your children well, eventually they'll choose your nursing home.
Posted: 01-26-06 13:29pm
acoles70
wrote:
i agree that in some cases
relaxtion might work. But there are
some people that doesn't work for.
Advanced reproductive therapy is the only
thing that works for some people. More
people than you would think. I just
wouldn't want someone to walk around
"relaxing" when they could have gotten
pregnant with a little help. I
recommend seeing a good obgyn over
listening to advice on the internet.
They are more likely to get you
pregnant.
Ashlee
sound advice but don't you think that
people should at least try for a year and
a half before they get all worried about
it? Or do you think they should have
their fertility tested first?
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acoles70
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Nov 2005 Posts: 191 Location: KY
Posted: 01-26-06 15:41pm
Well I have pcos so I know I don't
ovulate, so my doc started us on fertility
meds right away. Although annovulation
is fairly common, my doc says to wait a
year before coming in, or if you have had
2 or more miscarriages. Miscarriages are
sometimes caused by auto-immune problems,
which are easily fixed. If you have had
more than one miscarriage he says that is
a red flag and to get the testing done.
Ashlee
