Honestly just stop trying to concieve instead just have sex and not look it as a way of procreating, I dont want this to pass of as harsh but sometimes when you want something so bad it always flies back and hits you. I never ttc we just said if it happen it happen and christ I got pregnant not even a month after both times its not that im fertile its just I didnt stress myself out.

Alot of people will respond saying im not stressing out when you actually are stress shows itself in different ways, such as lowering ur immune system, having alot of dream(even bad ones) or just not feeling great(irritabilty etc.) just take things easy and evetually you will have a child unless u have a medical condition prohibting u from having one!

Best of luck/baby dust ur way~!
Jess

Well I hope everything turns out good..And you become pregnant and have you a lil one..

Sorry about your past mc's..

I really didnt think that worked... But I was ttc and then I stopped and kinda didnt want to have a baby any more because our situation got really bad because of hurricane katrina. Well I also wasnt doing anything to provent it either and I poped up pregnant.

Not just everyone can pop up pregnant. It really makes me mad when people give the wonderful advice , "just calm down, it will happen" or
"relax". This advice is coming from people who get pregnant easily and don't suffer through miscarriages. These are not people who really understand that ttc takes some people longer than 2 months. I understand that ttc is stressful, especially adding two miscarriages on top of that. I really hope you get your miracle soon!!! Just keep your faith it will happen.
Ashlee

i beg to differ with you acoles70. I have the exact same advice. And let me tell you my story. The one that I keep to myself. I know what it's like to believe that you are never going to have a child. I was told by doctors that I would never be able to have a child. I was told that I had a tilted, incompetent cervix not to mention a scarred uterus and other reproductive issues that I don't want to get into. I know exactly what it's like to have a miscarriage. I had not one, not two but three all within two years. My husband and I were not ttc but we didn't use bc either for the two years after that. I didn't get pregnant so I assumed the doctors were right. I was depressed believing that it wouldn't happen to me, that I would never be able to have my own child. And then one day I just didn't care anymore, I even decided that I was better off w/o a baby because my husband and I really weren't ready for one any way. I didn't really want a baby at all and I wound up pregnant. I think telling someone to relax is good advice. Look what happened to me when I did. And I would have sworn (along with the doctors that told me so) that it wasn't possible. I'm not saying that relaxation is the reason but it can't hurt.

Look you don't know everyone's story and that really offended me. Just cuz i'm pregnant now doesn't mean it was easy. Doesn't mean I didn't have any mc. It darn sure doesn't mean that I didn't go thru my share of grief.

Well said tigres

like tigres I was told I couldnt have kids because the meds I had taken when I was a teenager would linger in my system cause miscarriage or cause a deformity in my child, I took meds till I was 17 (slowly coming off of them when I was near 18.) I was actually told not to have kids until after 22 when the meds should be out of my system and that was if I could have them because the meds affected my liver causing problems. At 19 I got pregnant with my daughter and had a healthy girl no problems but I was watched throughout my pregnancy for problems and now im due in a few days with #2 and I just turned 22 last month although this pregnancy I had complications.

I think having support and other ppl who have been there helps alot without some of the girls here I dont think I would have made it through my pregnancy cause I kept getting depressed I was going to loose or give birth preterm.

Keep your head high and it will happen
good luck~!
Jess

ok im not saying that she is just going to mirraculously pop up pregnant within the next 2 days. I was ttc for months almost a year. Im just saying after I really stopped trying with in that month I was pregnant. Im not saying this happens to eveyone im just giving my story about what happend to me. I know its a sad and horrible thing to go threw but it's also not healthy to dwell on a misscarrige cause that can stress you out and make it harder to conceive. There are millions of people who have misscarried and still end up pregnant and dont have to wai that long after ttc. I really hope you and ur husband get your wish. And if you do try longer then you can emotionaly change it. See what your options are with fertility drugs and all that. I mean alot is possible. And I will keep u in my prayers.

Well jenn, how long did it take before u got pregnant with ur son? It might just take longer than u thought. And stressing about it will do u no good.

my sister in law was told she could never have kids coz she has endometriosis (i have no idea how to spell that) but she has 4 kids now, shes had about 10 miscarriages though, but she was never really trying for a baby (but she wasn't on bc either) so I think in some cases it does help if you relax. :)

I agree that in some cases relaxtion might work. But there are some people that doesn't work for. Advanced reproductive therapy is the only thing that works for some people. More people than you would think. I just wouldn't want someone to walk around "relaxing" when they could have gotten pregnant with a little help. I recommend seeing a good obgyn over listening to advice on the internet. They are more likely to get you pregnant.
Ashlee

sound advice but don't you think that people should at least try for a year and a half before they get all worried about it? Or do you think they should have their fertility tested first?

Well I have pcos so I know I don't ovulate, so my doc started us on fertility meds right away. Although annovulation is fairly common, my doc says to wait a year before coming in, or if you have had 2 or more miscarriages. Miscarriages are sometimes caused by auto-immune problems, which are easily fixed. If you have had more than one miscarriage he says that is a red flag and to get the testing done.
Ashlee