Help Need Tips For Being On Top Posted: 01-21-06 14:45pm
My boyfriend loves it when i'm on top but
I feel really uncomfortable with it,
mainly because of lack of experience. I
tend to lose concentration quick and have
problems with rythm unless if he is moving
too.
Any have tips for being on top?
Half the time I feel lost while doing it.
Maybe its psychological because I feel
like I can't do it but I need to figure
this out, he gets too tired doing all the
work.
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babykitty23
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Nov 2005 Posts: 26 Location: Florida
Posted: 01-22-06 01:02am
I feel the same way. I've been having sex
for awhile, but I still hate being on top
in the reverse cowboy position. I get leg
cramps, it's harder to have an orgasm
because i'm concentrating so hard on
keeping up with the rythm my husband
wants, and the worst is when you go up too
high and the penis falls out, then you
land on it, kills the mood for the man
when that happens thats for sure!
Only advice I can give you is to try it on
a couch, or somewhere where he's sitting
in an upright position, and try it like
that. I never have problems like that and
can orgasm very easily too! If your man
really wants you to be on top in the
"reverse cowboy" position, then you should
lay on top of him instead of going up and
down. You get the stimulation you need,
and it's a lot less pressure on your legs.
And if you do want to do the whole up and
down thing, switch from doing it face to
face, to the opposite direction (trying to
explain these things the best I
can>.<) hope I helped ya a little!
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~*~Jillian~*~
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Joined: 01 Feb 2005 Posts: 1759 Location: Tennessee, USA
Re: Help Need Tips For Being On Top Posted: 01-22-06 21:27pm
munky23
wrote:
my boyfriend loves it when
i'm on top but I feel really uncomfortable
with it, mainly because of lack of
experience. I tend to lose concentration
quick and have problems with rythm unless
if he is moving too.
Any have tips for being on top?
Half the time I feel lost while doing it.
Maybe its psychological because I feel
like I can't do it but I need to figure
this out, he gets too tired doing all the
work.
well me and my fiance normally do it with
me on top..In missonary position..You just
need to not worry about keeping
rythm...The more you think about it the
more you will mess up...Because im sure
your boyfriend isnt paying much attention
to the rythm...Lol but im sure the more
you do it the easier it gets...When I
first got with my fiance I think out of
nervousness we both messed up on
things...But once you learn and get use to
someone things get much funner and much
pleasurable because you dont have to worry
about making mistakes and things like
that..Just laugh it off if you mess up
..Dont make a big deal of things :wink:
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Melissa_20
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Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 01-23-06 15:26pm
You know,think about when you dance.When
you dance you have rhythm (unless you suck
at dancing).Play a song (in your head or
on a cd)and get the rythm of it.Or get on
top and just go with it.When you get
something that feels good keep moving in
that way,thats what I do.I use to be
insecure about being on top,but after a
while of being with someone you aren't so
insecure anymore and are more open and
prone to do things! Give it time
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Loved By You
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Jan 2006 Posts: 19 Location: Naples, Fl
You're Not the Only One..... Posted: 01-24-06 09:28am
Its ok to feel weird on top, I do too. My
boyfriend loves it, but i've only had one
sex partner, him, and I have no idea how
it works to be on top. We've been having
sex for 2 years now and its still the same
thing. The only thing I can say is that
for me the up and down motion works real
well, at least for me. I had a friend
tell me once that being on top is like
being on a horse, you go up and down, back
and forth. But I didn't like it so much.
So what I did was try different ways. And
about loosing concentration, it helps if
you look at him while its going on.
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munky23
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Dec 2005 Posts: 130
Posted: 01-24-06 20:32pm
Thanks for the replies. I do think about
it too much and worry about rythm. I know
that def. Takes away from the experience
and thats probably why I like him in
control.
Guess I need some practicing!
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juicy
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Joined: 25 Jan 2006 Posts: 18 Location: birmingham
Posted: 01-25-06 08:07am
Well with my first partner I did it once
and it killed me so through out that 3yr
relationship I never did it again.Now i'm
with some one else and he's asking me to
do it.
I really didnt want to do it.I did try
though and I swear it was horrible.Maybe
it my height.I've heard that the position
for lil women.Im 5'11 and my boyfriend is
6'3. I also did it by crouching while he
lay down. I know this is horibble to say
but I dont think his penis is long
enough.I went up and down and he seemed to
be ok with it but I felt nothing.
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~*~Jillian~*~
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Joined: 01 Feb 2005 Posts: 1759 Location: Tennessee, USA
Posted: 01-25-06 17:04pm
juicy
wrote:
well with my first partner I
did it once and it killed me so through
out that 3yr relationship I never did it
again.Now i'm with some one else and he's
asking me to do it.
I really didnt want to do it.I did try
though and I swear it was horrible.Maybe
it my height.I've heard that the position
for lil women.Im 5'11 and my boyfriend is
6'3. I also did it by crouching while he
lay down. I know this is horibble to say
but I dont think his penis is long
enough.I went up and down and he seemed to
be ok with it but I felt
nothing.
your tall..Maybe thats why its hard for
you ..Like you said..Im 5'2 and I love
being on top its the best thing
ever...Maybe you guys should try it
sideways..Or doggy style ..
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juicy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jan 2006 Posts: 18 Location: birmingham
Posted: 01-27-06 05:42am
We've done those styles.I asked my m8
cause shes taller than me and she says is
got nothing to do with my height cause she
does it all the time and shes 6'2 and her
mans my height. Maybe its just me
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munky23
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Dec 2005 Posts: 130
Posted: 01-31-06 19:10pm
Hey juicy maybe its just me too lol
he used to have me be on top and I was
uncomfortable
now for the past month I haven't been on
top
usually its because I am tight, so he has
to start up on top, cause he's good at
being gentle and easing it in (which I
can't do on top lol)
or it hurts
the only time being on top was good was
when I drank 2 shots before that :(
