i'm 25 years old going on 26 in march.
Anyway i'm so confused as what to do with
my fiance. He and I are always (50%)
fighting, sometimes they get scary,
violent, but no hitting though, but other
times they are somewhat mild. He seems to
me to be very controlling and jealous yet
because he seems this way towards me I
notce I purposly stay out at for most of
the nights, sometimes even all night till
early morning. Now what respectable woman
stays out on the streets knowing her man's
at home waiting? That would be one of the
many questions my fiance would ask me when
I would get home. He drills me wanting to
know where I went with who and what times
and etc. Anyway I love him and I know I
need to see a shrink get on meds and try
to live a normal life. But see right now
i'm currently been in and out of jail and
no job and taking care of my grandfather
plus my drivers license has also been
suspended because of reckless driving.
But to the point of my question is does
any one think he has the right to do this
to me regardless i'm bipolar or not, which
I am, but isn't it wrong I wrong? Is
because he just doesn't understand my
conditions? Remember if anyone reading
this understands what an old skool,
veternano, sureno is well thats my fiance.
My mind is racing right now so if it
seems I rambled on with no point and you
no clue what I was talking about, let me
know.
Thank you,
christine :shock: :cry: :?
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brenlora
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Jan 2006 Posts: 1 Location: Southern Ontario Canada
Bipolar? Posted: 01-22-06 10:11am
I think you are just confused, worried
because you are arguing alot of the time,
taking care of your grandfather and have
some other issues that are rather
significant that need to be dealt with.
So do all of them 1 by 1 as you can. You
have to work this arguing thing out with
your boy friend. Do you want your whole
life to be that way? It will be if you
both don't sit down, talkabout what the
issues are being nice towards each other,
and just learn how to talk instead of
arguing and yelling. I think that is the
reason you stay out all night is because
you don't want to have to deal with the
nonscence of the arguments. You are
taking care of your grandfather, the care
giver (you) needs support in canada it is
the ccac that you call and you can get the
help you need so you can maintain some
balance. Do you want the jail, no job
life style only you can make that change
and it is a decision you have to make and
there are programs for you for that too.
25 years ago you are living my life except
for the jail life style the fighting I
realized would never end he enjoyed it too
much and if he has touched you once he
will touch you again. If you are right
by your cpu so am i. I hope this has
been a help. I am new to this too but
there must be a room to talk in. Good
luck.
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LeanneShaw
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Jan 2006 Posts: 7 Location: Lancs
Posted: 01-30-06 15:31pm
It sounds like ptsd (post traumatic stress
disorder) or personality disorder is
coupled with ur bi-polar. I to was in an
unhealthy relationship and the best thing
I did was leave and meet a new guy who
treats me like a princess. I no longer
wake up with that knot in my stomach and
surprisingly all my physical health
problems have cleared up. Its amazing
what effect stress has on the body. Why
not try this website to rule at least one
of the 2 out www.Personality100.Com.
Good luck
