Hi. I find myself in a place I never
thought i'd be.
I'm 35, very well educated, I make a good
living, i'm single, and I can't
understand why.
I had my fun in my 20's, traveled the
world, spend lots of time partying and I
had my pick of the men. But now that
i've decided to settle down I can't seem
to find my equal. All the men I date are
losers, they have less education than I do
and they make less than me. I think all
the good ones were taken while I wasn't
looking!
I was with my last boyfriend for 3 years
but he wouldn't commit.
I know that if I want to have a baby I
have to do it soon. I just can't imagine
going through life without becoming a
mother. In 5 years I will not have the
option.
Should I go it alone? I can afford it
(i'm a doctor and I make over
$100,000 a year) but going to a sperm bank
to select the father of my
children wasn't what I pictured growing
up. I'm scared and I know time
is running out.
Is it fair of me to bring a child into
this world (deliberately) with out a
father. Can I be both mother and father
to my baby, or should I just let it go?
I'm very emotional about this.
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bitsy690
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jan 2006 Posts: 43 Location: Illinois
Yes Posted: 01-27-06 17:09pm
I think you should do it. I'm actually
concidering doing the same thing. I want
a baby so badly but I can't find anyone to
have one with. In this day and age
children are born with out fathers all the
time. I think that if you do plan on
raising a chil without a father then it is
important that you bring strong male role
models into his or her life. For an
example, a close male friend, grandfather,
uncle, brother, etc. I could afford to
raise a baby on my own also. I'm only 22
and most people would probably rather wait
til they found a man but I feel ready and
capable. I've wanted a baby for a long
time and I just don't know how much longer
I can wait. If I were in your shoes I
would definately go for it. Do you have
a strong support system (family and
friends)? That would make it a lot
easier.
Before I go ahead and make a baby by
myself I have also been concidering foster
care. Just a thought. You do not have
to be married to be a foster parent.
I know that eventually I will want my own
child. I'm going to give myself about
another 8 months and see what
happens...Otherwise, i'm going to look in
to sperm donations!
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jennys11
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Feb 2006 Posts: 70 Location: miami
Posted: 02-12-06 14:36pm
Have you thought of adopting? You wrote
that you have the money and with so many
needy children. I think you should weigh
all your options. Don't let anxiety make
your path. Go talk to someone and take a
deep breath. The answers always come!!
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maggiek
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 May 2006 Posts: 40 Location: canada
Adoption Posted: 05-14-06 23:53pm
This may sound like a differnt subject to
which you were talking about, but maybe
adoption is the answer. An unwanted
child already born needs a loving
parent/parents. Maybe this could be an
option?
