Ok, I have been going out with my gf for
almost 4 months, and she is my first true
love, but the first month we were together
she was cheating on her ex who she didnt
even like... Well, while I was waiting
for her to break up with him, she kept on
telling me we were going to be together
and all of this stuff, and that just made
me fall in love with her... She invited
me everywhere she went, I went to her
house all the time, we spent all the time
together... Then I got tired of sharing
so I kept on asking her to break up with
him, cuz it broke my heart when she was
with me and him at the same time...
Well, around oct. She broke up with him
to be with me... At first it was going
perfect... Found out she was in love
with me, etc... Well, lately, we bearly
do anything, I only see her during school
and she never wants to spend time with me
outside of school, and she says that "she
dont want us to spend so much time
together cuz then we would get sick of
each other" well, the thing is that we
talk on the phone 24/7 and she is the one
that calls me, and that just makes me
wanna be around her even more... Well,
that is not even half of the story...
All I want her to do is for her to tell me
she loves me... Not every minute but
atleast once a day... I just wanna feel
loved cuz back when she was still with
that other guy she was always all over me,
holding my hand, squeezing me tight,
holding me like if there is no tommorow...
But now she bearly squeezes me like she
use to, she never says that she loves me,
I am always da one all over her... It
just aint the same... She says she loves
me but she just dont say it, but the way
she's been acting lately might as well not
love me at all, cuz I cant even tell...
All I want her to do is to love me like if
there were no tommorow again, cuz that
just makes me feel like i'm on top of the
world, I want more me and her time where
there is no one around so she can pay 100%
attention to me like she use to... To
comfort me like she use to cuz i've been
crying recently cuz it aint the same no
more... And to finally say "i love you
too"...
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RubyLei
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Dec 2005 Posts: 33 Location: UK
Hey Posted: 01-28-06 05:35am
The only thing you can do really...Is
confront her about it. Although it isn't
easy cause there is a possibility she will
turn round and tell you it isn't working
for her, but surely having closure and
being able to get over her is better than
all this that you are going through now.
Tell her how your feeling and if she
dismisses it you know that she doesn't
feel the same and in that case...You
deserve better. No one should have to
settle for second best and if you are you
should end it. When she was with the
other guy you were "new" and "exciting"
something untouchable because she shouldnt
have been with you. A lot of girls are
like that (not sexist am a girl myself)
what you've also got to see is she started
with you while in the process oflying to
someone else who she must hav thought
something of as she was in a relationship
with him...Just make sure she doesn't turn
around and do the same thing to you thats
all
take care
rue
xxxx
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Kittykatus
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Oct 2005 Posts: 89 Location: United Kingdom
Hugs Posted: 01-31-06 17:33pm
Please don't take this to offence my
friend, but you began badly from the
beginning. To be with someone whose
cheating on another partner is quite
hurtful. Have you ever have that happen
to you? It's very breaking; I know you
say you've fallen for her so I understand
that. But you've got to see that it was a
little rocky at the start. And the fact
that one minute whilst still attached to
this other partner she was very 'clingy'
with you, now she's almost distant from
you, suggests that maybe that extra
contact was almost like using you. I'm
sorry, but i've seen it, felt it, and
experienced. Your building high
expectations of this girl like I have done
with b/f's of my own. But at the end of
the day, if she did something liek that,
then really whose to say that she's not
with someone else now?
You deserve a lot better, cause you sounds
such a sweet guy. Play it cool; I know
it's nice to have someone say that 'i love
you', but unfortunately, words aren't as
powerful when they don't have a menaing
behind it.
