Hey jaime_elms
no matter what anyone says at the end of
the day its your choice.. You might be
surprised at how you would cope.. It
soundslike you are having a lot of doubts
about the abortion you shouldnt do it for
someone else because it will only make you
feel worse.. If you go through with it
then it should be your choice no one
elses.. At least when you look back then
you will no that it was your choice and no
one elses and that you did what was right
for you...
It doesnt hhelp when people make off the
cuff comments like that you are here for
advice and peoples points of view, at
least youve got the courage to come on
here and ask for help and are considering
all of the options.. I cant tell you what
you do, but I hope whatever you decide it
is the right decision for you....
Let us know what you decide x x
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AlliE_18
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Dec 2005 Posts: 2129 Location: uk
Posted: 04-17-06 14:13pm
Adoption is a good thing to do if you cant
cope with your baby, not that you've even
tried yet, so dont diss it! Abortion
isnt easy, but its the easy way out
compared to adoption. You could try
putting the baby first and give it the
life it deserves with a great couple who
can raise it if you cant. Its not a bad
thing!
And yeah you should feel guilty.
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QueenBee2_3
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Jan 2006 Posts: 194 Location: CT U.S.
Posted: 04-17-06 14:18pm
Wow ya know what? .I don't agree with
choosing abortion over adoption but .I
would .N.E.V.E.R presume to force my
opinion on this girl or anyone else. How
dare any judge her for her choice or her
ambivalence in making this choice? .I'm
100% pro-life but .I'm truly disgusted at
the photos being shown and the attacks
being made in this thread. She came here
for help, not to be bashed.
To the op... I'm going send you a couple
of links to a site that'll be truly
supportive of you no matter what you
decide. I'd post them here but .I don't
want to invite anyone to troll the links.
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jaime_elms
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 498 Location: newcastle
Posted: 04-17-06 14:23pm
Thanx all of you!!!! I was trying help
holiday, whos topic this is!!! Wasnt here
to get attacked cause allie no offence u
dont know me, at all, im against abortion
too. I have looked into adoption, I jus
feel I wont wanna give baby away... Thats
the truth, I dont wanna kill my baby okay,
but I dont wanna be attacked... I was
here to help holiday-cant belive nerve of
some of u. Espsh u allie. I wont be
using this again. To all u that helped
thanx. U dont know me,. And actually
really upset.
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jaime_elms
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 498 Location: newcastle
Posted: 04-17-06 14:24pm
I will feel guilty allie belive me....
Thanx pointing that out
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jaime_elms
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 498 Location: newcastle
Posted: 04-17-06 14:25pm
Thanx hun
queenbee2_3
wrote:
wow ya know what? .I
don't agree with choosing abortion over
adoption but .I would .N.E.V.E.R presume
to force my opinion on this girl or anyone
else. How dare any judge her for her
choice or her ambivalence in making this
choice? .I'm 100% pro-life but .I'm
truly disgusted at the photos being shown
and the attacks being made in this thread.
She came here for help, not to be
bashed.
To the op... I'm going send you a couple
of links to a site that'll be truly
supportive of you no matter what you
decide. I'd post them here but .I don't
want to invite anyone to troll the
links.
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AlliE_18
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Dec 2005 Posts: 2129 Location: uk
Posted: 04-17-06 14:27pm
jaime_elms
wrote:
i will feel guilty allie
belive me.... Thanx pointing that
out
your welcome!
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alone
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Mar 2006 Posts: 81 Location: england
Posted: 04-17-06 14:28pm
Thnakyou its nice to hear someone who want
to help her... I felt really bad for her
all of the people who were saying that...
I ve not long had a mc and those pictures
were really upsetting and I think they are
for anyone... I dont agree with abortion
but I think in some situations it is a
valid option.. X x
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jaime_elms
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 498 Location: newcastle
Posted: 04-17-06 14:34pm
I wasnt expecting that, but u wud think
some one wud ask, have u been through alot
,not jus judging me!! Its my baby and my
life, its me who will have to deal with
what I decide no one else.
sandralynn
wrote:
u cant expect everyone to
agree with what you
say.
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jaime_elms
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 498 Location: newcastle
Posted: 04-17-06 14:37pm
Also im getting confused beacuse
holidaycheer01 this is her topic!!!!! And
shes had abortion!! So im confussed...
Can we leave it about me now!!! I will do
what I want
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jaime_elms
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 498 Location: newcastle
Posted: 04-17-06 17:19pm
I didnt ask, this was convo between me and
holiday, its holidays topic., if you red
back I was talking to her!!!! I didnt ask
any1 oppinion.....
sandralynn
wrote:
jaime_elms
wrote:
i wasnt expecting that, but
u wud think some one wud ask, have u been
through alot ,not jus judging me!! Its
my baby and my life, its me who will have
to deal with what I decide no one else.
sandralynn
wrote:
u cant expect everyone to
agree with what you
say.
<
span class="postbody">
sweet .Jaime... If you dont want to hear
what everyone has to say, from both sides,
then dont ask. Im not trying to be mean,
but you cant expect everyone to say what
you want to
hear.
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jaime_elms
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 498 Location: newcastle
Posted: 04-17-06 17:22pm
Yeah I realise that!!! I jus wanted know
if she had, had abortion, I dont want no
trouble at all. Allie was having go
me.!!!! I dont want trouble at all. I
just want to end the convo... Thanx for
all opinions tho!!
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jaime_elms
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 498 Location: newcastle
Posted: 04-17-06 17:34pm
Well thats up to her, I jus dont get why u
have to be so anit abortion, and speak me
about it all. As im hurting alot as it
is, with bf that dosnt wanna be me if keep
baby, after 3years b alone, jus want my
life. To do things I want to do, pass my
uni degree and then think about children.
My parents always having ago, screamig.
I feel my self going into depression, and
I dont wanna feel worse okay. With
people here making me out be bad person.
Beacuse I wanna do right thing for baby
and me, I dont wanna put baby through life
hell. When it cant have everthing it
wants, I only work 20hours week. I cant
afford for baby, will all be crap stuff.
Baby have dad that dont wanna know, it,
deep down I wish things diff and my bf wud
be there, bt he wants travel world, and
finish his engenerring degree. And buy
house.... And I want same, aint the
right time for the baby as much as I wanna
keep it... Jus wish people wpuldnt judge
me, as this hasnt been easy. U aint in
this position... U cant judge. And
thos who have will understand. Thats the
end of it
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 04-17-06 19:17pm
If your boyfriend wants an abortion, let
him have on(only kidding), and I do
realize that abortiion is not anything to
be kidding around about, as I said before,
it is your body and it is your choice.
There is an abortion support forum on here
if you are interested. Every once in a
while their might be a pro-life that comes
on their and acts negatively about it,
just ignore them.
The best to you!
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holidaycheer01
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Dec 2005 Posts: 19 Location: Jackson, MI
Posted: 04-18-06 07:46am
I was 8 1/2 weeks along when I had the
abortion. Allie, I didnt just put my bf
before my baby.......Like I said I dont
regret it, so nothing you say will make me
feel bad and dont attack anyone else thats
considering it b/c its a tough decision
and some ppl do regret it.
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AlliE_18
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Dec 2005 Posts: 2129 Location: uk
Posted: 04-18-06 08:36am
jaime_elms
wrote:
well thats up to her, I jus
dont get why u have to be so anit
abortion, and speak me about it all. As
im hurting alot as it is, with bf that
dosnt wanna be me if keep baby, after
3years b alone, jus want my life. To do
things I want to do, pass my uni degree
and then think about children. My
parents always having ago, screamig. I
feel my self going into depression, and I
dont wanna feel worse okay. With people
here making me out be bad person.
Beacuse I wanna do right thing for baby
and me, I dont wanna put baby through life
hell. When it cant have everthing it
wants, I only work 20hours week. I cant
afford for baby, will all be crap stuff.
Baby have dad that dont wanna know, it,
deep down I wish things diff and my bf wud
be there, bt he wants travel world, and
finish his engenerring degree. And buy
house.... And I want same, aint the
right time for the baby as much as I wanna
keep it... Jus wish people wpuldnt
judge me, as this hasnt been easy. U
aint in this position... U cant judge.
And thos who have will understand.
Thats the end of
it
if thats true, then why dont you do whats
best for the baby? Give it a life with a
good family let them adopt him/her.
Theres not one point you can make to say
thats a bad idea, if you really want whats
best for the baby you'd choose that
option. Obviously you're set on killing
it, you dont want whats best for it so
quit lying to make yourself feel better,
get on with it and stop complaining about
people disagreeing with you. We all have
our own opinions and are free to type them
as much as we like!! .R.I.P. Baby =/
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jaime_elms
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 498 Location: newcastle
Posted: 04-18-06 09:25am
Right 1. I didnt ask for ur opinions on
anything, I dont want to go full term
okay, cause I will keep the baby, I know
my self more than you do..So shut up
moaning on about me and deal with your own
child....
allie_18
wrote:
jaime_elms
wrote:
well thats up to her, I jus
dont get why u have to be so anit
abortion, and speak me about it all.
As im hurting alot as it is, with bf that
dosnt wanna be me if keep baby, after
3years b alone, jus want my life. To
do things I want to do, pass my uni degree
and then think about children. My
parents always having ago, screamig. I
feel my self going into depression, and I
dont wanna feel worse okay. With
people here making me out be bad person.
Beacuse I wanna do right thing for baby
and me, I dont wanna put baby through life
hell. When it cant have everthing it
wants, I only work 20hours week. I
cant afford for baby, will all be crap
stuff. Baby have dad that dont wanna
know, it, deep down I wish things diff and
my bf wud be there, bt he wants travel
world, and finish his engenerring degree.
And buy house.... And I want same,
aint the right time for the baby as much
as I wanna keep it... Jus wish people
wpuldnt judge me, as this hasnt been easy.
U aint in this position... U cant
judge. And thos who have will
understand. Thats the end of
it
if thats true, then why dont you do whats
best for the baby? Give it a life with a
good family let them adopt him/her.
Theres not one point you can make to say
thats a bad idea, if you really want whats
best for the baby you'd choose that
option. Obviously you're set on killing
it, you dont want whats best for it so
quit lying to make yourself feel better,
get on with it and stop complaining about
people disagreeing with you. We all have
our own opinions and are free to type them
as much as we like!! .R.I.P. Baby
=/
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jaime_elms
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2006 Posts: 498 Location: newcastle
Posted: 04-18-06 09:50am
Right let me get all this straight
okay!!!! I aint 100% about abortion okay,
but the way I see it is, if I went full
term with the baby in the end I jus know
in my heart I would see my baby and keep
it for all the wrong reasons okay!!!! I
know I would make a great mum, and never
leave my baby with with sum1 I dont know,
at the end of the day allie u aint oen to
judge quite making me fell worse than I
already feel okay, cause u jus trying hurt
me, u right u have ya own oppinions but
when I didnt ask for em, u dont have right
to judge me.. At the end of the day u
chose keep ur baby n parm him off, at
weekends. Im still thinking what to do.
I dont need all ur crap tho.. Messing my
head up. Making me feel worse. I didnt
ask be judged I didnt say I wanted ur
advice. So back off
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 04-18-06 11:16am
Ok allie I think it's pretty much dead
now.You should really stop naging her.You
don't know her and you don't know her
life(non-b*tchy). Jamie,you should do
what you feel is right.I for one do not
believe in abortion except for a few
situations.You said if you went to full
term you would want to keep the baby for
all the wrong reasons.I don't see any
wrong reasons for wanting to keep a child
you have carried in your body for 9
months,but I do understand what you mean
about adoption,i wouldn't want to know for
the rest of my life that I had a child out
there living with someone else.Idk,i just
thought I would put in my 2cents.Ignore
all the negativity and do what you
want,not what other people
want(remember,you can get help from the
state/country if you can't fully support
it) : ) good luck
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 04-18-06 14:03pm
sandralynn
wrote:
oh come on, .Mel.. Shes
just expressing her feelings about her
love of children. I'm the same way.
But i've figured out that preaching about
it a.) makes me angry cuz I am so pro-life
and b.) just causes a rise in everyone and
ppl get ticked. These girls need to
start going to the abortion forum so no
crap starts. They need to be referred
there in the beginning, and everyone needs
to just ignore the posts after
that.
i know what you mean,but it's just the
same thing over and over.It's like clock
work,you know what is going to be said as
soon as the thread starts. . .Bah! I
love children too and I am more pro life
than anything but it;s her baby,her
situation and it't what she feels she
needs to do.I wouldn't personally but its
not me we're talking about
