Older people telling younger people
(18-25) to wait on having children. This
is about to drive me crazy. I understand
that 15 and 16 year olds don't need
children, but we are talking about adults.
When an adult comes on here asking for
advice, they don't want to hear, "you are
too young, wait till you are 30." age
doesn't make you a better mother. I am
better equipped to be a mother than most
30 year olds. My husband has a great
job, we don't rely on the government for
help. I am a stay at home mom. I have
a 3 year old son and preg with #2. And I
am 22 years old. I will go back to
college later after I have raised my
children. It is my life. Sorry to
rant, but I am tired of seeing younger
girls put down because they want to start
their families now.
Ashlee
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trishabunny
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jul 2005 Posts: 216 Location: manitoba
Reply Posted: 01-30-06 23:41pm
Yeah I totally agree with you
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gardenofeden
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Jan 2006 Posts: 18 Location: Texas
Posted: 02-11-06 08:38am
I agree, I started my family at 17...I
grew up with my children and it gave me
confidence when I was ready to get into
college and start a career.
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mongirl
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 93 Location: Michigan
Posted: 02-14-06 11:09am
I totally agree, I am 20 and I want to
graduate college (two more years) and
start a family soon after but I am really
worried because I have discharge from my
breast and have been referred to a
specialist so I hope if its hormonal that
it does not affect my chances of having
babies. With this problem it just makes
me want to have children sooner even more.
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Tamadrummer
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Oct 2004 Posts: 710 Location: Zephyrhills,Fl
Posted: 02-14-06 11:23am
You seem to be a very angry person all the
time. Take it easy and remember this is
the internet.
In a forum where you have the gammut of
ages, 10yrs to 110years old, your going to
get differeing opinions, none of them
means you need to follow them.
I am glad that I had my first and only
child at 33 and my wife turned 30 about 2
weeks after the baby was born.
It is not bad advice for those that are on
the fence about having children, for
whatever reason, 30 seems to be the magic
number for almost everything in life, the
next biggie is 50 from what I hear.
Just take it with a grain of salt and make
your own choices.
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acoles70
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Nov 2005 Posts: 191 Location: KY
Posted: 02-14-06 13:49pm
tamadrummer
wrote:
you seem to be a very angry
person all the time. Take it easy and
remember this is the internet.
In a forum where you have the gammut of
ages, 10yrs to 110years old, your going to
get differeing opinions, none of them
means you need to follow them.
I am glad that I had my first and only
child at 33 and my wife turned 30 about 2
weeks after the baby was born.
It is not bad advice for those that are on
the fence about having children, for
whatever reason, 30 seems to be the magic
number for almost everything in life, the
next biggie is 50 from what I hear.
Just take it with a grain of salt and make
your own
choices.
i'm not angry, i'm hormonal. :twisted:
lol. I just don't think anyone can offer
advice about when is a good time to have
children. Some people are glad that
they waited. I want to be a young moma.
I just wanted to stop the age
discrimination towards younger mothers.
It is far from the truth that age makes a
better parent.
Ashlee
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rasuyoung
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Jan 2006 Posts: 464 Location: Long Island, NY
Thanks: 0
Thanked:1
Posted: 02-14-06 14:26pm
I know how you feel - i've always wanted
to be a young mother. I'm 20 and don't
have any now, but i've never wanted to
wait till 30 to start having kids. I
think what makes most people advise
waiting till 30 is that more people feel
that they're at a better place in their
lives to start having children, both
personally and professionally. They feel
better equipped to raise babies. I've
definitely always felt that I would be at
least emotionally ready at a younger age,
though.
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PinupGirl
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Mar 2006 Posts: 54 Location: WI
Posted: 03-26-06 21:56pm
To me the right time to have children is
the time when both people..."mother and
father"of the child to be born are ready
...And if that happens when they are
16...Or 45 it doesnt matter. I also think
the right time is the one when you get
pregnant...Either by accident or because
you wanted to!
We never know what could happen
tomorrow...So that's why you should live
every day like your last...And if you
think that a child is what is missing in
your life...Go ahead. As long as you can
provide, love, a roof, support and
education for the new baby. If not, think
about how frustrated and unhappy your baby
will be if you do so???
Consider all the odds, and if you really
think you're ready to be responsible for
another being for the rest of yours and
his/her life...Go ahead and be happy! :)
good luck to all...
*muah*
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chantigeek
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Aug 2006 Posts: 83 Location: ontario, canada
Posted: 08-04-06 16:38pm
Hey I agree with you. I am 22 and me and
my bf of 7 years has finally decided to
start about 2 months ago. I told my
doctor because I never get a period on my
own and he replied with " well you are
kind of young, dont you want to wait a
couple of years, so maybe you should go
back on the pill so you can have a period
again". I dont go to him anymore, but
that made me so angry. My bf and I have
good jobs and lots of love to give.
Anywho yeah .....
Thanks
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 08-04-06 17:12pm
It is your choise when to have a child and
no one elses, I don't like to see it
happen when they are 12 and 13y/o as they
are just children themselves, after you
are 18, you should care less what people
say. Heck, their are some guys who start
out on their second family at 30-35y/o, it
may not be the best thing but it is still
their choice.
All the best to you and yours!
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littlebee
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Nov 2006 Posts: 29
I Agree Posted: 11-26-06 23:44pm
I agree with you acoles70. I personally
have waited to begin ttc until now (age
24), but truthfully, I really wanted to
start at age 19. I am grateful for the
things I have been able to experience due
to being childfree during this time, but I
think the negative stigma and attitudes
towards young mothers are really unfair.
I think its very unfortunate in our
society that it is nearly impossible for a
teen mother, especially a young teen
mother (16 or less), to make it on her
own, and on top of that, they get tons of
crap from friends, family, and strangers.
Speaking of this, I remember one time
when I was in high school, one of my
friends was 14 and had a brother that was
1.5yrs. One day she was at the mall with
her brother and mother. She and her
mother split up, and she took her brother
with her. At one point when she was
walking around with her brother, some lady
who was a complete stranger started
yelling at her, saying things like " that
what you get for having teen sex" and
something about her being a prostitute and
deserving the burden of having to raise a
child so young. Of course, my friend
told her off (wish I could have seen it),
but man, what a b***ch! Who is she to
judge anyone.
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shortygirl24
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Sep 2006 Posts: 17
Re: What Is Up With...(vent) Posted: 12-06-06 22:15pm
acoles70
wrote:
older people telling younger
people (18-25) to wait on having children.
This is about to drive me crazy. I
understand that 15 and 16 year olds don't
need children, but we are talking about
adults. When an adult comes on here
asking for advice, they don't want to
hear, "you are too young, wait till you
are 30." age doesn't make you a better
mother. I am better equipped to be a
mother than most 30 year olds. My
husband has a great job, we don't rely on
the government for help. I am a stay at
home mom. I have a 3 year old son and
preg with #2. And I am 22 years old.
I will go back to college later after I
have raised my children. It is my life.
Sorry to rant, but I am tired of seeing
younger girls put down because they want
to start their families now.
Ashlee
