So my girlfriend and I broke up yesterday
and ever since then I can't think
straight, eat, or stop from crying every
now and then. We had gone out for 6
months and we broke up because I was
confused about my feelings. Like the
first 4 months everything was awesome and
she meant so much to me. The last couple
of months I haven't been as good as a
boyfriend as I had before and have been
getting mad at stupid things and not
supporting her like I should. We told
each other we loved each other and I
totally felt it. Now we are at the point
where she gave me a couple of days to
think about what I want and i'm still
confused. I want to get back together
with her but if something happens down the
road, I don't want to break her heart. I
know it's a decision only I can make but
it would be nice for some advice. By the
way i'm 25.
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Kittykatus
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Oct 2005 Posts: 89 Location: United Kingdom
Posted: 01-31-06 17:27pm
It's sweet that you are thinking of her
and worried that you might break her
heart, but perhaps it's not necessarily
the end.
You said everything went well at
first-were you more relaxed then? My
relationships with my ex lasted 7 months
and in a way we started snapping at each
others heels and he said he needed space.
I feel much freer but now after two weeks
he's saying he misses me. In your case,
you sound like your very much attached to
this girl.
I've read that men tend to break away or
to put it in another term 'have a break'.
You said about you two talking of making a
choice of how you feel. A man tends to
have to break away to really know what he
feels; if he can't stop thinking about her
after a week or two, then it's defintitely
love. I know that it may be hard to
regain what you had, but becoming friends
and staying in touch, i'm sure you can
rekindle it all back.
So smile and try and get on with it; and
make sure you stay all healthy and fit for
her return; and that means eating and
drinking, so find a way to regain your
appetite!
Good luck,
kitty
:)
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~baby~g~
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jul 2005 Posts: 221 Location: Ohio
Posted: 02-01-06 01:53am
I agree with the last post! People
take breaks to realize what their true
feelings are for someone. If you're
able to be over it in a few days, then it
really isn't love, but if it takes forever
then it is.
I was in a relationship a few years ago,
the guy & I had been on & off for
6 months or so, it seemed like every few
weeks we were taking a day or two break.
We always ran back to each other. We
were very confused about our feelings.
Finally, we broke up for good. He more
less told me the same thing you said in
your post, he didn't want to break my
heart if something happened down the road.
I couldn't eat, sleep, move, nothing
for waay over a month! I talked to him
a few months later & he wanted me
back, I said no because I was with someone
else & I couldn't take the heartbreak
with him again. I didn't want to be
with anyone else, I wanted to bad just to
run back to him but I knew I couldn't.
One thing though, he still has a spot in
my heart and I will forever love him, but
we will never be back together!
What's happening with you is just testing
your relationship with the both of you.
If you love her or you don't. In the
end you will make the right choice for
her. More then likely if you can't get
her off your mind or function right, you
will end up back with her. Good luck,
I know it's tough but you will make it!
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