Joined: 01 Feb 2006 Posts: 9 Location: San Antonio, Texas
Bah...i'm Having My Own Problem. Posted: 02-02-06 15:24pm
I am currently in a relationship with a 25
year old man and I am 18. Everyone in my
family, even my friends, know about the
age gap and really dont find it strange.
Well, we have been together for 2 months
and everything is perfect when we are
alone together, but when i'm not around or
if he is with his friends, its like I dont
even exist! Especially whe he plays
dungeons and dragons (if you dont know
what that is, its a role playing
game..Bah!). Another thing, we never go
anywhere! I shouldnt be the one saying,
"hey thomas, lets go do something". Maybe
sometimes, but not all the time! Anyway,
unless I go over to his house or call him,
i'm pretty sure I never cross his mind
unless I dont call for an entire day. Oh
yeah, I still havent recieved my christmas
present from him.
I am pretty good at analyzing
relationships, even my own and I dont find
it hard for me to understand why people
tell me I should break up with him...But I
knooww he cares for me, I just dont think
he likes to show it when he is around
other people. You see, he is a very
intelligent, good looking guy and he is
very proud of being atheist too. He even
has his own atheist organization on campus
and its like all he talks about. He is
very opinionated and loooooves to debate.
Which brings me to another point about our
relationship: I am not even close to as
knowledgable about religion, atheism,
politics, whatever as he is and I dont
think he is proud of me as a girlfriend.
I know he cares about me and loves to have
me around, but not around his friends
because I have no opinion or input to add
to their conversations. I find whatever
they talk about interesting, but it's so
frustrating that I cant gain respect from
my own boyfriend because I cant relate to
anything they have to say.
Advice anyone???
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princessdiana7586
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Dec 2005 Posts: 49
Posted: 02-02-06 15:40pm
I think you should tell your boyfriend how
you feel. Communicating is the only way
you're going to figure things out about
how he feels. Age means next to nothing.
I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 25. We've been
happily together for 7 months. If you
don't like the way your boyfriend is
treating you, tell him, maybe he doesn't
even realize he's doing it.
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littlemisstery
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Dec 2005 Posts: 95
Posted: 02-16-06 04:45am
Communication is the best way to go. I'm
in the same age difference as princess,
and honestly my boyfriend and I seem to be
on the same maturity level. Seeing that
it's only been two months i'd bring how
you feel up to him and see what he says,
then evaluate it further. He should be
proud of you just because of the fact that
you're his girlfriend. So what if your
knowledge of atheism isn't the greatest it
could be? His love for you is (or at
least should be) based on what he feels
about you in general, not your knowledge
on religion/politics. Has he had a
girlfriend before you, and if so do you
know anything about their relationship?
That can tell you a lot of things too.
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 02-16-06 11:16am
Do what they said and if all else fails,
stop answering the phone if he calls and
don't answer the door if he comes
over.Maybe he will take you seriously
then. . .
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Tamadrummer
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Oct 2004 Posts: 710 Location: Zephyrhills,Fl
Posted: 02-16-06 11:35am
When d&d and his friends are more
important than you are, given the fact
that you have only just started to build
your relationship, you need to get out.
You have only been together 2 months, he
should be totally involved with you and
allow you to take presidence over his
friends and games.
It will only get worse if you are so
little to him now, go out and get a new
guy. If you are not into d&d or any
of the other rpgs out there then do not
get involved with someone who does, they
get hooked and can play for days on end
and not even know there is a real world
outside their home.
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