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aniNY
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Joined: 03 Feb 2006
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First Sexual Experiences
Posted: 02-03-06 22:13pm
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I lost my virginity last week. It was too
painful for us to have actual sex, I was
sore and bled quite a lot. We tried to
have sex after a couple of days, and even
though I was ready, it took quite a few
tries to get it in, because of the pain.
Eventually we had intercourse that night,
but ever since then i've been hurting too
much for him to enter me. (we've
tried).
Is this normal? Should it take over a
week to heal? I mentioned lube, but he
said I probably just need a few more days.
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ssparklers26
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First Time
Posted: 02-03-06 22:52pm
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First times can very depending on your
age, physical readiness etc. First of all
the thing that most jumped out at me was
that he wasn't willing to discuss
lubrication with you. Ignore him go buy
it yourself and tell him no sex if you
don't use it. Lube doesn't just help with
sensation, it helps to prevent tearing,
infection, dryness and of course makes
things easier over all. Also I hope our
using some sort of safe sex. After my
first time I bled for a few days, nothing
to heavy but still it was there. This was
because my partner at the time, didn't
take the time to arouse me enought to
make me ready. A first timer (or the
first few times) your partner needs to
take his time, arouse your body stretch
you slowly with fingers first and then
only when you say it's okay try for
penetration and if you say know he should
stop immediately! If he doesn't then his
concern is all abou his satisfaction and
not yours. I'm gussing that your young as
was I my best advice is this give your
body at least a week to heal. Only then
should you think about trying again and
then only if you feel up to it. If he
can't wait or gives you a story about how
his body can't handle waiting then maybe
you should think about who your with.
I don't want you to feel lectured just
wanted you to know from someone who's been
there how things should go. If he cares
about you he should be willing to do
whateve it takes to make you comfortable.
If you have any questions or just want to
talk please just drop me a private
messaage i'd be happy to help and I
promise not to udge.
Take care and be safe
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ssparklers26
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2006
Posts: 76
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First Time
Posted: 02-03-06 22:54pm
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First times can very depending on your
age, physical readiness etc. First of all
the thing that most jumped out at me was
that he wasn't willing to discuss
lubrication with you. Ignore him go buy
it yourself and tell him no sex if you
don't use it. Lube doesn't just help with
sensation, it helps to prevent tearing,
infection, dryness and of course makes
things easier over all. Also I hope our
using some sort of safe sex. After my
first time I bled for a few days, nothing
to heavy but still it was there. This was
because my partner at the time, didn't
take the time to arouse me enought to
make me ready. A first timer (or the
first few times) your partner needs to
take his time, arouse your body stretch
you slowly with fingers first and then
only when you say it's okay try for
penetration and if you say know he should
stop immediately! If he doesn't then his
concern is all abou his satisfaction and
not yours. I'm gussing that your young as
was I my best advice is this give your
body at least a week to heal. Only then
should you think about trying again and
then only if you feel up to it. If he
can't wait or gives you a story about how
his body can't handle waiting then maybe
you should think about who your with.
I don't want you to feel lectured just
wanted you to know from someone who's been
there how things should go. If he cares
about you he should be willing to do
whateve it takes to make you comfortable.
If you have any questions or just want to
talk please just drop me a private
messaage i'd be happy to help and I
promise not to udge.
Take care and be safe
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aniNY
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Feb 2006
Posts: 4
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Posted: 02-03-06 22:58pm
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He is actually very caring and we are not
too young (i am turning 25 soon) but I
appreciate your response. I'll have lube
ready next time, and hopefully it will go
well...
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Greeneyes23
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Posted: 02-10-06 09:15am
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Hey, just thought i'd mention that it hurt
for me for about a month before it stopped
hurting during. And it hurt when he first
entered for another month or two aswel.
Also, my best friend had very severe pain
and it didn't stop for about 6 months when
she had sex with her partner.
Don't give up, it will get better.
Good luck to you and your boyfriend.
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babe2005
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Joined: 09 Feb 2006
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Posted: 02-10-06 10:35am
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When I lost mine it hurt me real bad.
When he entered, first it pained like hell
.I almost fell someone pierced me with a
knife.But it reduced during later part of
sex act.I bled a little. Once if was over
and I reached home(i was staying with my
mom then and I was nearly 17 then) my mom
noticed the way I was walking she asked me
whether I was having menstrual cramps lol.
I could not walk properly for almost a
day coz of pain below my waist.We did not
have sex for a week.Next time we did it
after a week it was with lot of lube and
still I had a little pain. I had little
pain while having sex for almost first 15
times then it reduced .
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~baby~g~
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Joined: 08 Jul 2005
Posts: 221
Location: Ohio
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Posted: 02-10-06 11:02am
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My first time didn't really hurt at all, I
don't know why, and I didn't bleed either.
The only reason it hurt a little is
because I tensed up, I was scared it would
hurt. Just relax and use plenty of lube.
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pinklips05
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Joined: 17 Jan 2006
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Posted: 02-13-06 05:38am
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I lost my virginity when I was 17, the guy
was a friend and he was rough and
uncaring. I bled alot as well. And to
this day everytime my current boyfriend
puts it in the first time its still a
little sore (mind you I havent had alot of
sex since my first experience) but it does
get better with time, trust me :)
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aniNY
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Feb 2006
Posts: 4
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Posted: 02-14-06 04:48am
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I appreciate the replies. The only way it
works right now is with me on top...And it
still hurts a bit. I'll give it time.
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jesticle
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Joined: 12 May 2005
Posts: 152
Location: Australia
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Posted: 02-14-06 04:58am
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Hey I lost mine when I was 11 (not by
choice) then when I was 16 I bled the
first 16 times I did it with my partner,
no matter what I did nothing helped then
it slowly got better the bleeding slowed
and after 5 months it was fine everyone is
different so just take your time and try
things that you think will help, just take
it really slow.
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cortney jones
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Joined: 16 Feb 2006
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Location: Ft.Lauderdale, florida
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Posted: 02-16-06 17:53pm
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My first time I tried to act all hard like
it wasnt nothing like I was so ready but
on the inside I was screaming.It hurt so
bad while he was on top so he mad me get
on top and it actually eased the pain I
was feeling it turned into a feel good
kinda pain you know what im saying? I did
bleed but just the first night after that
the pain was gone the next day and the
bleeding stopped also.He may have been to
big for you.
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nightangel73
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Posted: 02-16-06 22:04pm
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Omg it was so painful and bled somuch
during my first and second time. But
after that no more problem. It was still
painful at first penetration after that
but not more blood. I think aftewards it
had to do with the anatomy of his organ
(too wide head) it will get better be sure
of so
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jgtc06
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Joined: 16 Jun 2006
Posts: 156
Location: Olympia,Washington
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Posted: 07-29-06 21:54pm
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| ~baby~g~
wrote: | | my first time didn't really
hurt at all, I don't know why, and I
didn't bleed either. The only reason it
hurt a little is because I tensed up, I
was scared it would hurt. Just relax
and use plenty of
lube. |
same with me I remember pressure, a pop
that hurt a little. But nothing too bad,
and I had no bleeding as well. I will
admit I was nervous and I was tense which
made penetration even harder for him. It
will get better though just be patient.
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Crazyness24
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Location: Jersey
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Posted: 08-10-06 13:06pm
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The first time and times is very strange.
I would use some lube next time it will
make it a lot easier and enjoyable for
both of you :) after a couple times you
will love sex!
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Tylanas
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Posted: 08-10-06 13:22pm
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I didn't bleed and it didn't hurt at all
my first time; we did it spoon style which
is the shallowest form of sex out there;
he aroused me plenty and i'm naturually
lubricated, and everything went smoothly
(we used a condm because I wasn't on the
pill yet).
My hymen didn't break until almost a year
later, during some shower sex. My hymen
was just a strip of skin in the middle of
my vaginal entrance, so it normally just
slid to the side when we had sex; but
occastionally it would get caught and of
course that hurt a lot! So i'd have to
pull it to the side. Then one time in the
shower I felt the pain that came from it
being caught, but then it went away. I
was like "okay, it slid to the side by
itseld, good." but afterwards, we were
standing around in the shower and he asked
me if I was getting my period and I said
"no!' and looked and there was quite an
amount of blood. I felt down there and
sure enough, the skin strip had finally
broken!
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soon2bgreene
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
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Location: NC
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Posted: 08-11-06 00:34am
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I waited till I was married to have sex.
I didnt bleed... The doctor said that my
hymen must have broken during childhood...
But sex was painful for the first six
months. When I told my ob-gyn it hurt she
said that some women never enjoy sex but
here I am two years later and it feels
good now. Make sure you use lube tho.
You just dont know what a difference it
makes.
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