Under Extreme Stress During Pregnancy Posted: 02-06-06 13:38pm
Hi,
i am now 18 weeks pregnant. Last week,
my boss hauled me into the office and
removed me from my afternoon shift at
work. I was told there was already
someone in place to takeover.
To say the least, I was deveastated. She
claimed I looked stressed, unhappy in my
job and that co workers were complaining
about me. Said that I failed to do
proper clean up, room set up etc.
I went home heartbroken and barely able to
cope. With suggesstions from family, I
went on sick leave from work, who could
stand to work in that without being
pregnant.
I am trying to get my record of
employment, to no answer. Trying to
recover property still there, no answer.
Its very upsetting to me as I had no idea
this was going on and felt everything was
fine.
Can this worry affect my baby? I am
quite anxious here.
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Eyes Wide Shut
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jan 2006 Posts: 7892 Location: *UPTOWN*NEW ORLEANS*, La
Stress Issues.... Posted: 02-06-06 14:02pm
I myself am going through a high amount of
stress. Granted, i've always raised my
voice and always acted like I do. When I
do get upset, my heart doesn't race and my
face doesn't turn red..Lol.
I do yell a lot though. My fiance' gets
mad when I yell because he says the baby's
gonna go def. I really hope that that
can't happen! Lol...So far, the things
i've read suggest that I wouldn't because
of the thick vernix in her ears and the
fluid muffling it.
For the past couple of days..My stress
level has risen. I've begun to cry while
being upset. Which I know the combination
isn't good.
When I say I yell a lot...It's not
everyday...It just a majority of
them..Lol..
I've heard that when a baby is stressed it
poops...Which isn't good at all either.
Normally they become stressed during
labor...Do you think that the factors that
cause it to become effect at labor are
yelling and screaming..Or just a stress
that the baby knows its about to go on a
journey and the uterus keeps pushing it
down?!?!?
Any same situation..But now my baby is
fine stories would be highly
appreciated!!Lol...
Sarah
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Sunflower_pie81
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Joined: 17 Jan 2006 Posts: 5041 Location: to hell with this crap
Posted: 02-06-06 16:37pm
I have been told that the stress on the
fetus is hard for them to take. No
matter how hard I try my stress level will
not go down.
First I lost my first baby to being
delivered too early to save my life and
that along is enough stress on me now.
Second my fridge caught on fire and burnt
up my kitchen.
Third I need to get my moving underway and
taking care of....Buying a home is
stressful regaurdless of being preggers
four my job as an claims examiner at an
insureance company is just stressful with
all the calls from the insured's.
I am trying so hard to just breath....But
before I would have a beer and cool down
after work but now that I can't do that
(not the worst thing that could happen) I
don't know how to cool down. Thank god
my hubby is supportive however I don't
even wish him to touch me right now.
(poor guy)
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Angelfanmom
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Oct 2005 Posts: 121
Posted: 02-06-06 17:18pm
Thats why my doctor put me on stress leave
because I was so stressed out about having
to go back to work.
I think mostly, my feelings are hurt. I
am not a strong person, I break down
emotinally very easy. Its been worse
since I have become pregnant. I just
wish I had been given the chance to
improve or the choice regarding time
off.
Now they won't return my phone calls and
they have a bunch of my personal items.
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neeko177
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Feb 2005 Posts: 427
Posted: 02-06-06 18:42pm
Id go down there witha friend or family
member and just get your stuff.. And if
while ur there u see who u need ur record
of employment from, ask about it.. They
cant keep things from you..
Ive heard that stress is bad for the baby,
that the more the mother is stressed out,
the more the baby will cry and be finicky
and maybe have problems when it is older..
I think everybodys stress level rises
when they are pregnant, we are just
dealing with things we normally would in
life which tends to be stressful enough,
and add a new baby coming, it can just
feel like too much to handle sometimes. I
know ive never been so stressed and
frustrated in my life lol
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sandyallen
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Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 02-06-06 19:27pm
Look at it this way, your hormones are
jumping around, out of control. True
stress is not good when you are pregnant
on the fetus and you it is not good even
when you are not pregnant we all have some
stress but if it is getting out of control
being pregnant or not you do need to see
your Dr. And just remind him you are
preggars, he can probably give you
something but you also have to learn some
self control, I realize where you are
coming from, you are not alone, if you
feel that they were wrong in laying you
off because you were pregnant, I would
think about putting in a complaint against
them but then again we all know their are
times that things happen for a reason and
maybe you weren't meant to be their at
that job anyway. Did they lay you off or
terminate you?
Good luck to you and the bunle of joy to
be!
Keep us updated
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Angelfanmom
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Oct 2005 Posts: 121
Posted: 02-08-06 12:54pm
I loved my job, working with children.
This came out of left field. My doctor
put me on sick leave and things have been
alot better since then.
I am looking into options because what she
did where I live is called constructive
dismissal. The removal of a portion of
my hours without written notice nor a
chance to improve.
Thanks
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fatfamily02
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 3050 Location: Georgia, USA
Posted: 02-08-06 13:10pm
Try checking with the better business
bureau. They might have to compensate
you---if they are in the wrong. Maybe
doing something---without having to
actually deal with those pple might make
you feel better instead of worse. The
.B.B.B deals with them--you just tell your
story.
