My boyfriend and I have been talking about
having a threesome for a very long time.
He says he doesn't mind what we do but he
would like to do something because he is a
little bored. We actually found a guy
who agreed to having a threesome with us.
He is straight but he would get turned on
by me being with another man. I'm not
sure about all of this. I would never
want him to be with another woman. He
has said that he would enjoy being with
another woman but only if I didn't have
any problem with it. I must admit it
does turn me on to think of being with
another man...But i'm not really sure
about it. I'm also afraid that if I go
ahead with it and do it that he would
expect me to bring a female home for him.
Also, the guy that we are going to do the
threesome with is someone that I cheated
on my boyfriend with. My boyfriend knows
about the affair and has forgiven me...But
the whole situation seems a little wierd
to me.
We have talked about having a threesome
for years...I'm not sure if I will ever be
ready for it... But, I also don't want
to bore him. He is afraid that I will
cheat on him...I think that's why he has
been talking about doing it so much.
Should I bring a female home for him?
Should I go along with a threesome (with a
male or female)? I know I will feel
jealous. And I know I will feel some
guilt if we a bring a guy home. I'm not
sure what to do. I want him to feel
excited and do different things and be
open to his desires.
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backhome22
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Nov 2005 Posts: 195 Location: MN
Posted: 02-07-06 15:21pm
I really don't think this is a good idea
considering the situation. Jealousy
causes all kinds of problems in
relationships. If you guys really wanna
do it though, i'd suggest at least setting
up guidelines before you do it.
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Sarah1978
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2005 Posts: 123 Location: NZ
Posted: 02-13-06 17:51pm
It all sounds a bit weird to me that he
would want to do this with someone you
have slept with and you don't sound like
you want to do it, so don't go through
with it just to please your boyfriend, i'm
sure he will understand if you aren't
comfortable with it. Jealousy can destroy
a relationship, I have never had a
threesome with my husband as I don't think
I could handle the emotional side of it
and I would be to afraid it would ruin our
marriage. This is a big decision don't
get pushed into anything and remember that
the fantasy is usually better than the
reality!
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jesticle
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 May 2005 Posts: 152 Location: Australia
Posted: 02-14-06 05:59am
Ok my bf and I have also spoke about it
for ages a friend of mine had just moved
in with us now I never really wanted him
to be with another woman but i'd be ok
with another guy(sounds unfair I know but
he agreed)so my bf's best friend to whom
i'd slept with a few times b4 my partner n
I got together he came over and all 4 of
us spoke about it and decided we would do
it I was ok about him with my friend coz
she didnt have caca on me I felt good
about that if it was someone better lookin
than me it wouldn't have happened, anyways
we did it but put a time limit on it 30
mins as soon as they alarm went off that
was it ok I really really enjoyed it well
we all did but I felt so low afterwards so
unfaithful the whole lot and so did my
partner he thought I enjoyed it more than
him and after that our sex life soared it
made us appreciatte each other and our
relationship more we dont regret doing it
but we wouldnt even consider it again
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Tamadrummer
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Oct 2004 Posts: 710 Location: Zephyrhills,Fl
Posted: 02-14-06 08:05am
I guess if it were me that were in the
situation I would not accept even the
thought of this being expressed in our
house.
There is no need to commit if you want to
be out fooling around with other people.
I have no problem with folks that choose
the single life and like being capable of
being with someone different each day or
week or whatever they need.
I have divorced 2 women for cheating on
me. The first had a miracle pregnancy
while I was on patrol in the persian gulf,
we were gone for 8 months and she was 6
months pregnant.
The second was able to cheat because I
worked alternating shifts 12 hours at a
time and so she would "go out with the
girls" and I guess pretend to be single
for that time.
There is no place in my home for more than
2 in the marriage.
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Jolie_3110
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Dec 2005 Posts: 1755 Location: Essex, England
Posted: 02-23-06 18:04pm
For starters why have a man that you
cheated with as the third party?! This
seems odd and if your not up for this 100%
then don't do it!
Alot of people fantasize about it then
find when they do it for real that it is
not what they wanted at all.
Your relationship has to be very strong to
withstand something like this, I am very
open minded and not against these things
but by what you have said I dont think
this is right for you. I think maybe your
partner still may have issues on you
cheating that still need to be resolved
