I am really depressed...But I have no reason to be. My husband is being a really great support system during this time however I keep pushing him away. I just can't be happy during this pregnancy because of loosing my first little skoot. I am going to my doc on friday 2/10/06 and I am going to ask her what are the affects on my skoot and how I can overcome this depression. I am just so scared that I am going to loose this one too....Even though everything is so different from the last one. I feel great and everything just not happy and in a slump. I just hope that it's not afficting my little skoot.

Sorry tig I dont' have a responce for ya....I'll let you know on friday though

Well i've got an appointment for these dizzy spells tomorrow so i'll ask her then. But definitely tell me what your doc says too. Seems like nowadays you can never have to much doc advice.

It makes me feel a little better that people go thru the same things I am going thru too.

I will let you know on friday.

I go to the doc in a couple of hours but I was looking it up online and I found these articles about the subject

http://www.Med.Umich.Edu/depression/pregna ncy.Htm
http://www.Babycenter.Com/refcap/pregnancy /prenatalhealth/9179.Html
http://www.Americanpregnancy.Org/pregnancy health/depressionduringpregnancy.Html

Good luck with your appointment. Thanks for the information

Okay, I talked to my doctor and oddly enough she thinks that the fatigue and the dizzy spells both are caused by stress & depression. :shock: so apparently it can have some immediate health effects, she also said that it can hurt the baby that all the hormone rushes that I get or the lack of them the baby feels. She said some other things to that pretty much agreed with the articles I posted. She doesn't want to medicate me though (thank .God because no matter what they say, I don't believe that anti-depressants wouldn't affect the baby). I'm just supposed to rest, relax a lot and con my family into helping out more. That'll actually be fun! I can get waited on hand and foot for the last trimester! 8)

I got the same responce that you did. They said that I need to rest and relax and let my husband or family to deal with all of my "problems" that may be helping with the stress. He wanted to maybe reduce my hours at work or have me stop working however I really need the money and can't afford to stop working. I want to take the full 12 weeks off of work after my baby is born and I can't if I quit working now. He told me as long as my blood preasure stays low and every thing is fine I can work.....But if I get too stressed out to stop or reduce my hours.

He didnt' want to give me anything either because the stress I have will not be eased until my baby is born becasue of loosing my first....

Oh my gosh, they told me the same thing about work. I told my doctor that if I don't work i'll be super stressed because I need the money so I can make sure I have somewhere to live (me and husband are separated right now, trying to work on reconciliation) but they think that if I get more stressed I shouldn't work either bcos they think that then it'd come to a choice between my job and my baby. :(

I am sorry to hear about you and your hubby...I hope everything works out for you and him if that is what you want.

Work is stressful for me if I am on the phones and my boss and I have worked out that I dont' have to answer the phones.

I can't afford not to work.....I won't have insurance either if I dont' work....Seeing as how I am the carrier for our family. I kinda need that right now.

I guess the stress doesn't go away.

It really doesn't. Because everyone everywhere is stressed about something.

I agree

Sunflower_pie81, I am sorry for your loss of your pregnancy! How far are you along in your pregnancy now? Just be positive, try not to stress as it does not help your pregnancy situation and try to remember that a lot of this is your hormones bouncing off the wall.
Are you all taking pre-natal vitamins? I am no Dr., but if the depresssion continues after the pregnancy, please get help most pregnant females always have the fear of miscarrying. Do take some me time and get your husband to help you so that you can relax after all he will have to help after the birth of the baby. I have always felt that men have always felt that men have always wanted to be the baby and wanted all the attention and when the pregnancy comes along it does not happen that way anymore and they get a little jealous or insecure or something about the situation but things change and then you get the attention or should be and then the baby gets the attention but my feelings are is that you should have someone to talk to about this before it gets worse. Remember that we are here to help, we understand and it is o.K. To vent.
It is always better out than to hold everything back.
Good luck to all!

I really may have used the wrong word...I am a little depressed....However I am feeling more stress and anxitiy right now more than anything. I think that the depression just comes from thinking about my little skoot that I lost and the stress comes from hoping and praying that my new little skoot come out after baking for a little bit longer than my last.

I have no fears that after my little skoot is born healthy and well....My depression and stress and anxity will fade.....I am 15 weeks and 1 day. I still have 25 more weeks and once I pass my 26th week I think that I will be able to calm down a little bit. I dont' think I really need professional help for this....I never had the fear of miscarring I lost my little skoot because they had to take the baby because if they didn't I wouldn't get better...I was close to dying.

I do understand what you are saying and I thank you for the support. I am taking prenatials and iron supplements to keep my blood count up. I have sever anemia. Every thing will be fine this time around but I cant help but see my little skoot layingthere and wishing I could hold him and make things better for him...But he couldn't hold on. It's something you never forget. I was to be his strenght and I couldnt' take care of him. It's hard to think that this may happen again.

It's easy to say be strong...But it's hard for me to be strong thinking that I may never hold this one either.