My Girlfriend Has Bi-polar Please Help I Need Advise! Posted: 02-08-06 05:53am
Dear ehealth
my girfriend has bi-polar disorder, im the
only one who knows she has this besides
her family. Resently her parents made her
change schools so I decided to change with
her I thought it would make it easier on
her. This seems to have caused alot of
stress and she seems to be pushing me
away, she says she just wants space and I
trust her but I dont know how to deal with
this.... How do I give her space and make
sure she knows im still in love with her?
She means everything to me. When we first
got together she would have big mood
swings but over time I helped her overcome
this, and she hadn't been sad in months.
Then we changed schools and the first day
she changed all of a sudden. She doesnt
tell me she loves me anymore she wont let
me hug or kiss her anymore and when I try
to do any of this she just says that im
being obsessive.... But the thing is we
used to allways obsess over eachother and
we both loved it! She has told me that
she just needs some room to breath....
But I dont understand why she would want
this if I was feeling stressed out or sad
about somthing id want to be with her more
often not less. She seems to be happy to
her parents but I think shes hiding from
them how she feels.
Please help me I just need somone to talk
to about this that has had expirenece I
try to talk to her about it but she just
gets angry with me
i just dont want to loose her.... Inside
I know I wont but its cutting me up still.
She told me she loves me last night but
she wouldnt tonight..... Im so confused
thankyou for taking time to read this :)
please help me
Please sombody help me I need advise
this is killing me and I dont know what to
do.
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diamondsz
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Posted: 02-16-06 12:45pm
I was diagnosed with mild seasonal bipolar
so I only get an episode every 90 days or
so and their usually not bad. Im 22 &
married and like u my husband doesnt
understand what im going through, somedays
things are exagerated and hubby could have
said something and ill take it offensively
and start to feel like he doesnt love me
anymore(when he does) so I will start to
push him away so if we fight I dont feel
as attached and will have an easier time
of leaving him if im somewhat dettached
from the relationship. Other days im
happy I want to cuddle and have everything
because I just feel happy after what felt
like being sick for a few days. Somedays
I just feel so overwhelmed and need my
space cause I feel like he in my face
every two minutes and I just want to relax
and be to myself. I tell my husband when
I feel like im getting an episode so he
knows that things are going to be rough
and when I get moody hes by my side and
honestly im so graced to have a husband
like this!!
What I would say is respect her wishes
giver her some space but when shes needs
you emotionally be at her side and tell
her what she needs to hear that you love
her because somedays u can become
extremely insecure. I dont know what
else to tell u but if have any other
questions ill try to help btw talk to her
parents bipolar usually is caused by
something (underlying issue or is just
heridtary) mine has something to do with
hormonal imbalnce which I need to see a dr
about cause I ddint get episodes either
pregnancy. Whatever you do make sure you
dont make her feel like she handicapped,
sick etc because were not we just have
issues lol!!
Take care
jess
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Ilovehersomuch
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Thankyou! :) Posted: 02-19-06 02:15am
Thankyou for your advise jess im so happy
that u have posted a reply to this :d
keep up the good work :p lol u've made me
feel alot better. I know she loves me but
its just hard because she doesnt seem she
wants to show it that often any more...
And inside I know shes the one for me ive
been with other girls that I thought I
loved but this is different... Lol I know
everyone says that but yeah I cant help it
its just how I feel. Just a few other
questions about how long did these mood
swings last for? And did you get them
when you were a kid?
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diamondsz
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Posted: 02-19-06 09:30am
For me the lasted anywhere from 2 days to
2 weeks so it depends ur girlfriend could
have it all the time where she would need
meds or something. I dont know if I got
them as a kid but my mom said I used to
get them when I was a teen aroun 11/12 is
when she noticed them!
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Ilovehersomuch Posted: 01-22-08 16:45pm
Hi there Ilovehersomuch, I read your post
and wondered how you have got on. I feel
so much empathy for you and your partner
as I have been through a similar
experience and know how hard it is to deal
with. My partner went through a serious
depressive episode and attempted suicide
on a couple of occasions.
The space, the not wanting to be physical
is all part of this and it can be heart
breaking for the partner, but your
girlfriend is clearly going through hell
as well. The only advice I can give is to
give your partner the space (physical and
mental) and emotional support to deal with
her illness. My girlfriend took medication
for around 6 months and this was another
roller coaster and I would say from my
experience not advisable. Professional
counselling and therapy is the best path
in my opinion.
The main thing I have realised is you
cannot solve the problem (as much as you
would do anything to), look out for your
own needs as well as your girlfriends,
respect yourself and don't feel bad for
offering help - it may not always be taken
but don't take offence if it isn't.
Give yourself space, stay healthy, eat
healthy and keep your mind active as you
too can sometimes start to feel depressed
if you are with someone who is having a
depressive episode. Also always remember
the way you see the world is not the way
someone with mental illness may see the
world, your mole hill can seem like Mount
Everest to someone else. Listen to people
but don't judge.
