:p
i'm a little happy to join this site
because I have a couple issues. But I
need some serious advice on something. I
am 18 and still living with my mom and her
husband. But last year I had an abortion
in october. And I feel terrible about.
But the thing thats getting to me is that
I broke up with my ex. We were together
for like two years. I see this dude like
now and then because we live in the same
neighborhood. But now I have a new
boyfriend that I think i'm in love with.
But everytime I see my ex-boyfriend I feel
so bad. And I just want to speak to him
or just touch him so bad. Because I just
miss him so much. We was always on the
phone or i'd always be over his house.
And plus he really loved me. The only
thing that got me so mad about him was his
drinking problem so did I do a good thing.
I'm just confused. And I broke up with
him after I got the abortion done like two
weeks after.
Please help me
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Posted: 02-14-06 16:45pm
So the reason you broke up with him is b/c
of his drinking problem?Have you ever
tried to get him to get help? Maybe you
should talk to him and see what he says
about getting help and if you still love
each other it will all work out. . .
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penelope67
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Jan 2006 Posts: 114 Location: NH
Posted: 02-28-06 15:36pm
Yeah-definitely what she said. I had an
abortion too, and I have been dating my
boyfriend for 3 years! We are still
together, but sometimes you just arent
ready to give a baby the life it truly
deserves, and when I have a baby-i want to
give it the world. Having an abortion is
not wrong, and there are no reasons for
you to feel bad about it. Maybe you broke
up with your boyfriend for the right
reason and you wish you had a baby, so you
could still be in touch with him. Dont
think like that. If things are meant to
work out-they will. You will be sad for a
long time, but think about everything.
Maybe write and honest list of the pros
and cons of breaking up with him. If the
pros list is longer, then talk to him
about it.
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Penelope67 Posted: 02-28-06 15:50pm
I do not really believe in abortion unless
you were raped but I definetly don't hold
it against you b/c it was your choice and
you had your reasons for doing it.Didn't
you feel different after the abortion? I
mean did it mess with you emotionally or
anything?
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penelope67
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Jan 2006 Posts: 114 Location: NH
Posted: 02-28-06 16:39pm
Yeah, I mean I was sad and everything, but
my best friends and boyfriend and everyone
was really really supportive and my best
friend gave me something to read about why
I shouldnt feel bad about it and I knew it
was something I needed to do, and I am so
glad I did it. Now I am going to do so
many things that I couldnt have otherwise.
I hope I am not sounding selfish to
others who believe differently, but that
is just how I feel.
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Melissa_20
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 6806 Location: Florida
Penelope67 Posted: 03-01-06 08:49am
Oh,i can definetly understand that.I don't
believe in abortion but when I thought I
was preg. I definetly thought about what
it would do to my relationship with my b/f
which to me is still very new,all the
stress. . .I also like you thought about
everything I could no longer do and also
the body changes I would have to go
through,i am not reaady for that yet and
neither is my bf.So I guess you could say
I am a hypocrit but I guess you have to be
on bothe sides of the fence to make that
type of decision.
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gprettylady1
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Apr 2006 Posts: 15 Location: ms
Are We This Screwed Up Really? Posted: 04-05-06 01:32am
We all make mistakes, some "seem" greater
than others. I don't have a problem with
people making mistakes and feeling bad
afterwards and asking for forgiveness,
however what does bother me is when people
do bad things and try to justify them
(like cheating) and instead of warning
others, they lead them to the same trough
to drink of. Unless you are totally evil
how can you kill yes kill your child and
say its okay because the baby inconvienced
you. (huh talk about an inconvience to
your flesh and blood) I know sometimes we
get scared and make stupid stupid
decisions that we have to live with
forever, but dont encouarge another cause
you can live "happily" (yea right) and
unregretfully after you have murdered your
child. I'm sorry but I must tell the
truth. God have mercy on us all.
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