If my Girlfriend Forgets to Take her Birth Control During he

This is a bit complicated, so Ill do my best to provide all the information I can and keep it simple.

I had sex with my girlfriend three times in the days around New Years. She is on birth control (she has it to control her irregular period, so shes been on it for years) and we use a condom every time, without question. On New Years Eve she was 5-6 hours late taking her pill, but we did not have intercourse until at least 3-4 hours later.

None of the condoms broke visibly, so any breakage at all would have been a pinpoint hole. Neither of us ever noticed any drainage during disposal, though in hindsight I did not inspect the latex as closely as I would have liked to.

There was some manual intercourse/masturbation during that time period as well, and though I dont remember as well as she does, she says that we never performed any such acts where I would have finished first (ie, not to be gross... nothing could have gotten on our hands before they penetrated her).

Now this is where the fun begins. RIGHT around the time (between one and two weeks later) that she was, coincidentally, both due to have her period and due to implant (if she were pregnant)... she missed two days of birth control pills. Her thinking is that she was dreaming she took them.

So she started bleeding a week before her period was due, and the blood was dark at first. As we discussed the possibility that it might be implantation bleeding (as it was about that time), she thought more about it and remembered that the blood had been more of a pure red a few mornings into the bleeding. She bled for 4-5 days, which is shorter than her normal period, but she claims she was having to use tissues to hold the bleeding at work, and it was more than just spotting (the tissues werent soaked, but they were full). She also released a blood clot, as she usually does, but she worried because it was abnormally crescent-shaped.

The next week, she was expecting her normal period and even got some cramps, but never actually started bleeding. She was having breast tenderness and I noticed some unusually intense food cravings (but she IS in the habit of snacking regularly anyway). She concluded a few days later that, due to her birth control mishap, what had happened the previous week had been her period and the present irregularities were the result of the birth control confusing her body. It was a mixture of that confidence and probably fear that led her to resist taking a pregnancy test.

After that time, she got less emotional and if she was in any kind of pain in her chest or stomach, she didnt tell me as she usually does (yes, shes very open about her cycle with me... can you tell?).

Now its February and shes due for period #2. Over the past week she has definitely been cramping off and on (right on schedule), and theyve gotten severe at at least one point over the past few days (she was due to switch to placebos and start bleeding today). Shes definitely gotten a lot more emotional again, and Im noticing food cravings. Last night she mentioned breast sensitivity as well.

But she hasnt said anything to me today yet about whether she started bleeding, and Ive read in several places that some women may have menstrual pain or even periods, but still be very pregnant. So the anxiety is back...

In a nutshell: These unfortunate coincidences, combined with the ambiguity of symptoms between pregnancy and periods/birth control changes, has got us very worried. For myself, Im more worried than Im admitting to her, for her sake (if you cant tell by what Im doing here). We do what we can to be safe, and though we have a period of uncertainty (no pun intended) during most every month... all of these signs this time around are just too stressful to deal with.

Question: All events considered before the possible conception and since, what is the likelihood that she is pregnant?

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