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Jennie25
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acoles70
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Posted: 02-14-06 17:37pm
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This is one side of the story. Children
that sleep with their parents are actually
more bonded and it is a heck of alot
easier to breastfeed. My son is 3 and
has just started to sleep in his own bed.
As long as both parents are careful, I
don't see a problem with it. I plan to
co sleep with #2 as well. It is a
personal choice. My hubby and I practice
attached parenting.
Ashlee
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Jennie25
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Posted: 02-14-06 17:50pm
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Ya thats what my cuz said too, but i'd
rather walk the couple feet down the hall
to feed during the nite and have an alive
baby. And how careful can u be when ur
sleeping? You are not conciously moving
around or not moving. Ijust never want to
see this happen again. Not only did they
lose their baby, but they both blamed
eachother and it ruuined their marriage..I
just think its to big a thing to risk it
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michelle1981
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Posted: 02-14-06 17:53pm
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That's what makes a bassinet perfect.
You can have them right beside you at
night.
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Posted: 02-14-06 18:09pm
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You'd be surprised how many mothers roll
over on their babys and smother them
instead of bonding with them....
Not only is it dangerous..It takes 100
percent away from you and your partner's
love life...
Like jennie said..I'd rather walk down the
hall to see my baby as apposed to driving
to the cemetery to bring flowers!!
Do not let your baby sleep with you...If
breastfeeding isn't enough bonding for
you..Than you need to seek counseling to
improve these thoughts....
Great post....I wish people didn't even
consider it!!!
Sarah
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AlliE_18
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Posted: 02-14-06 18:21pm
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My baby will sleep in the bed with me for
the first year, maybe 2 years because like
acoles said, its great for bonding, and so
much easier if you are breastfeedin, which
im going to do. One side of the bed is
against the wall so he cant fall out when
he sleeps that side, and i'll put blankets
so he cant hurt himself on the wall. The
other side ive attatched one of those bed
guards, usually used on toddlers beds so
he cant fall out when sleeping on that
side either. Made both sides safe because
with breastfeeding I will need to move him
to each side during the night.
To make sure I dont roll on him, im
rolling up a baby blanket or 2, and
putting it inbetween me and the baby. So
we arent actually touching or close enough
for me to smother him or roll on him. Its
just me and him going to be in the bed as
im single...I dont know how it would work
with a man in the bed aswell.
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yellow ribbon
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Posted: 02-14-06 19:27pm
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My daughter has always slept w/ me and my
husband and shes 1 year old now I love it
she cuddles right next to me and wants me
to let her hold my hand. I love sleeping
with her and she even slept in my hospital
bed after she was born and since I had a
c-section I slept kind upright with her on
the boppy around my waste for the first
couple days she uses her crib only for
naps
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hunterjumper
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Posted: 02-14-06 19:43pm
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Sids happens when a baby is in a crib,
alone.
Sids death kills about 5000 babies a year
in the usa.
Only between 49 and 64 infants a year die
from cosleeping.
Most of those are parental error, such as
the parent(s) being drunk or high on drugs
or other medication and rolling over and
smothering. Or a parent trying to cosleep
on an unsafe surface (such as a waterbed).
Cosleeping is actually safer then crib
sleeping if you do it properly. It has
been shown to help regulate your newborn's
breathing and limit the amount of apnea
spells. The mother's body also naturally
does not go in to the same deep sleep as
it would when she's alone so the risk of
rolling over is quite slim unless you are
on medication or a very heavy sleeper in
which case no, you shouldn't cosleep.
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acoles70
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Posted: 02-14-06 23:10pm
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| hunterjumper
wrote: | sids happens when a baby is
in a crib, alone.
Sids death kills about 5000 babies a year
in the usa.
Only between 49 and 64 infants a year die
from cosleeping.
Most of those are parental error, such as
the parent(s) being drunk or high on drugs
or other medication and rolling over and
smothering. Or a parent trying to
cosleep on an unsafe surface (such as a
waterbed).
Cosleeping is actually safer then crib
sleeping if you do it properly. It has
been shown to help regulate your newborn's
breathing and limit the amount of apnea
spells. The mother's body also naturally
does not go in to the same deep sleep as
it would when she's alone so the risk of
rolling over is quite slim unless you are
on medication or a very heavy sleeper in
which case no, you shouldn't
cosleep. |
i agree completely. I have the right to
choose what is best for my children.
Sids is less likely to occur with co
sleeping children, that is a fact. It
isn't about me being lazy or having some
psychological problem. (i bond with my
children, I don't need input from the
peanut gallery.) we each do what we think
is best for our children. My hubby is
gone alot, so it was just me and my son.
I am such a light sleeper, I wake up when
I touch him. It is the parents choice,
no one elses.
Ashlee
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Surrender
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Posted: 02-15-06 08:08am
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| hunterjumper
wrote: | sids happens when a baby is
in a crib, alone.
Sids death kills about 5000 babies a year
in the usa.
Only between 49 and 64 infants a year die
from cosleeping.
Most of those are parental error, such as
the parent(s) being drunk or high on drugs
or other medication and rolling over and
smothering. Or a parent trying to
cosleep on an unsafe surface (such as a
waterbed).
Cosleeping is actually safer then crib
sleeping if you do it properly. It has
been shown to help regulate your newborn's
breathing and limit the amount of apnea
spells. The mother's body also naturally
does not go in to the same deep sleep as
it would when she's alone so the risk of
rolling over is quite slim unless you are
on medication or a very heavy sleeper in
which case no, you shouldn't
cosleep. |
sid is just as likely to happen in a
parents bed. God, you have no doing it
idea about anything! You just push and
push and don't shut your doing it mouth
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Roxiefox
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Posted: 02-15-06 08:44am
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Well I am expecting twins so, I am going
to have 2 cots in my room. Ma bf is away
at college so I am the only person, I
might think about sharing my bed with
them, I just don't want to hurt them both
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Jennie25
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Location: Ontario
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Posted: 02-15-06 09:00am
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| michelle1981
wrote: | | that's what makes a bassinet
perfect. You can have them right beside
you at night. |
exactly! Then the baby/ies are right
beside you, but you're not going to smush
then, and i've seen lots that the one side
can be lowered so you can easily get at
your baby to nurse.... I just wish ppl
didn't even consider sleeping w/ their
baby. I mean sure, lots of ppl do it and
nothing happens, but what if something
does...Its different when the baby is like
a year old or so...But newborns...Its just
way to much of a risk. Its not only that
you can roll on them, but your blankets
are always being moved around-tossing the
baby onto its front, baby falling between
the bed and the wall....Its just too huge!
I will def. Use a basinet for my baby at
first, but under no conditions will he/she
sleep in my bed. Breastfeeding is boding
enough, plus being her mom and all.. I
never slept in my mom and we are so
incredibly close...So I just don't think
'bonding' is reason enough to risk it...
...I'm just trying to tell you gals the
facts, so don't get all pissy saying this
isn't true and that its 'better' to sleep
w/ ur baby...Just don't--you haven't lived
it, I have, i've seen what can happen--its
not nice going to a funeral for a 4 month
old.Trust me!
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Roxiefox
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Location: England
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Posted: 02-15-06 09:02am
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Thaks for the info
i am still unsure about wat to do with my
twins
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diamondsz
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Posted: 02-15-06 09:06am
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Sids can happen anytime whether they be in
a crib or co sleeping, cosleeping isnt a
great thing to get ur kids used to unless
u decide ur not having sex for awhile.
Alot of woman prefer co sleeping but did
you know that men dont and they actually
try to fight, as for light sleeping during
co sleeping hunter its not true I slept
like a bloody horse last night while I was
trying to burp my son lol!!
Its true ur decision whatever u want but
ppl are better to be informed
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Jennie25
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Location: Ontario
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Posted: 02-15-06 09:12am
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Roxie, its ultimately up to you, but
espially with two babies, I would say
you'd be best not to cosleep...It would be
even a higher risk. If you get a play pen
you can usually raise the bottom up and
put it next to your bed, so the babies are
stilll close to you for night time
feeding---but you'll probably have to feed
formula too anyways, so you'lll have to
get up. As nice as it would be to be able
to snuggle w/ the babies everynight--is it
really worth the risk? I just want u to
know the risks, and that there are other
options out there that are so much safer
and no less convenient.. I'm sure you'll
make the right choice for whats best for
your babies.
Ps: just a ? Do you know what yur having?
Boys?Girls? Both? J/w
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Jennie25
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Posted: 02-15-06 09:12am
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Roxie, its ultimately up to you, but
espially with two babies, I would say
you'd be best not to cosleep...It would be
even a higher risk. If you get a play pen
you can usually raise the bottom up and
put it next to your bed, so the babies are
stilll close to you for night time
feeding---but you'll probably have to feed
formula too anyways, so you'lll have to
get up. As nice as it would be to be able
to snuggle w/ the babies everynight--is it
really worth the risk? I just want u to
know the risks, and that there are other
options out there that are so much safer
and no less convenient.. I'm sure you'll
make the right choice for whats best for
your babies.
Ps: just a ? Do you know what yur having?
Boys?Girls? Both? J/w
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Roxiefox
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Posted: 02-15-06 09:22am
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Yes it was confirmed yesterday
a boy and a girl due june 1st
mia and charlie
thanks for the advise, I might get two
cots either side of the bed
one pink one blue hehe
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Jennie25
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Posted: 02-15-06 09:49am
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Awww... That would be darling! Lol
congrats on the wee ones, and I love the
names ;)
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Roxiefox
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Posted: 02-15-06 09:51am
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Thanks
can't wait until they come
but I cant sllep at night, they are very
active
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acoles70
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Posted: 02-15-06 11:07am
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| surrender
wrote: | | hunterjumper
wrote: | sids happens when a baby is
in a crib, alone.
Sids death kills about 5000 babies a year
in the usa.
Only between 49 and 64 infants a year die
from cosleeping.
Most of those are parental error, such as
the parent(s) being drunk or high on drugs
or other medication and rolling over and
smothering. Or a parent trying to
cosleep on an unsafe surface (such as a
waterbed).
Cosleeping is actually safer then crib
sleeping if you do it properly. It has
been shown to help regulate your newborn's
breathing and limit the amount of apnea
spells. The mother's body also
naturally does not go in to the same deep
sleep as it would when she's alone so the
risk of rolling over is quite slim unless
you are on medication or a very heavy
sleeper in which case no, you shouldn't
cosleep. |
sid is just as likely to happen in a
parents bed. God, you have no doing it
idea about anything! You just push and
push and don't shut your !@#^ing
mouth |
actually this was published in the
magazine "parenting". So maybe you don't
know what you are talking about. The one
pushing is the original poster (jennie?).
She is trying to scare women into a
decision she thinks is best. Do you even
have children? I am sorry that happened
to your cousin. But you won't sway my
decision.
Ashlee
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