the Babys Daddy Is Not Takin It So Well

Jessica:

how old is he? If he is in his teens...Yes he will freak out! If he is in his early 20's, he might be alittle bit more reliable and responsible.

I think he is just having a little doubts about this whole situation. Everybody does. Becoz now he has to think about the baby's expenses, raising a family and all that, and if he is a traditional guy, that's alot on him especially if he is still young.

The best way is to communicate with him, I mean really talk to him about how he feels. Tell him u need honest answers. Most likely he is just scared of the responsibilties that come witha child and a possible wife!

The part where u said he is acting like he owns you, girl, u need to be careful on that, if a man feels that u are his property, he will start to control you, and then comes the rage if you resist him or reject him, then that can easily turn into violence.

Not that I know him or anything, but there are alot of cases like that.

The question is that do you want the child if he chickens out?! If you do, you need to think about alot of things. If you dont, then act fast, think fast about abortion coz u r 8 weeks....They dont do abortion for up to 12 weeks. So...

Good luck..

Hes 25 and I have been with him for 3 years and he did ask me to merry him and than wanted to start havin kids, so we tryed and here I am, and no hes wigin out, actin like I never seen him act, its not kool, he talks about how he wants to beat the caca out of me, I know he never would its all just talk but I dunno what I should do, this is not somethin I want to bring a child in to, u know,

Okay I dont know if what I wrote was posted. What I was tying to say was. How long have you 2 been together? Becasue some boys try to get toy pregnant so they can have you to themselves. take my friend for example her boyfriend and her decided to get pregnant. After she became pregnant he tried to tell her what to do, where to go, what to wear. And he started cheating. Not trying to stress you out but be careful and pay close attenion to his changes.

Exactly what tweetie said also. I think our main concern here is that he is trying to own you becoz in men's minds, they think if they got ur pregnant, you wont go anywhere because we are the natual nurturer and will stay with the kids and the baby's dad.

And he is 25???!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That's a bit too old to be freaking out at this point. I mean not to scare u or anything, guys like that do really have control problems, u did not see it before this becoz there were any responsibilites yet, but now....

Ok, u might think he would never act on beating you, but if a guy could say it, he can do it. Trust me, that's how alot of domestic violence starts. Not that we are suggesting breaking up, but really if his attitudes changed like 180 degrees after having ur child is born, leave him.