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cortney jones
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Baby Mamma Drama
Posted: 02-16-06 12:36pm
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Hey ladies this is strictly for you. How
do you get rid of baby mama drama?? If
you are in a situation dealing with ya man
and his baby mamma I know you feel me when
I say im tired of baby mamma drama. Im
not gonna leave my man just cause this
trick got his first child, his baby
period. She try to get back with him but
it aint gonna happen. Im bout to beat
this hoe down. If you were me in my
situation where the baby mamma wont back
off what you do? Ya let me know. The
chick has so much to say about me like she
knows me I aint lettin no chick below me
disrespect me. Talk to me
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Posted: 02-16-06 12:41pm
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Well talk to him about it definitely. Try
and see the baby with him as much as
possible so they don't have much time of
the 3 of them together where she could
minipulate him into guilt of not having a
"happy family". I'm not sure exactly girl
i've never really had to deal with this,
just don't act too defensive or you'll be
the one looking insecure.
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cortney jones
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Thanks
Posted: 02-16-06 12:54pm
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I understand everything your saying it
makes alot of since.Its so complicated
thought because she and I have never
gotten along since highschool so I feel at
times she may not want me round her baby
and I dont want it to get the point where
she use his being with against him and
wont let him see his you get where im
coming from?
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 02-16-06 13:10pm
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I think you should just lay down the law
to her.Let her know she ain't breaking you
guys and all it's going to cause is a good
a$$ kicking. . .
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tigresacanela24
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Posted: 02-16-06 13:11pm
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Well, the first thing that you should do
is stop disrespecting her by calling her
names. It looks childish and insecure,
plus if you are in situations with him and
his child you don't want to let the child
hear you say things like that about its
mother. It could make the child hate you
which wouldn't be good for a relationship
between you and its father. Besides, if
the situation were reversed would you want
the other girl saying things like that
about you? What about in front of your
child? Honestly you should tell him how
you feel about it, but if you trust him
why is it upsetting you? If you trust
him then it shouldn't matter how many
women throw themselves at him you know
that he wants to be with you and isn't
going to leave you for someone else...
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cortney jones
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Comment
Posted: 02-16-06 16:03pm
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Tigresacamela its not like that at all you
are misunderstanding me. I knew this
girl before she dated him or even had a
child from him we've always been enemies
so me calling her name s is nothing new.
And if I call her a trick and a hoe its
because thats what she is its not about
being immature. But I will not let ,like
I said this trick/ hoe get slick out her
mouth and me not defend myself its about
respect not acting like a child and I feel
like she disrespects me everytime my name
comes out her mouth she dont has no right
to do what she is doing.Oh yeah I have a
million kids in my family I know what to
say around a child I never said anything
about me trying the mother around the kid.
Melissa_20 I feel you gurl she one step
away from me kickin her ass the only thing
stopping me is me he dont care if I lay
the smack down to her ass. Im feeling u
girl.
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Melissa_20
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Re: Comment
Posted: 02-16-06 16:18pm
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| cortney jones
wrote: | | . . .Melissa_20 I feel you
gurl she one step away from me kickin her
ass the only thing stopping me is me he
dont care if I lay the smack down to her
ass. Im feeling u
girl. |
thats what i'm talkin about! I would be
the same way as you, I am not a
fighter,but if some 'trick/hoe' was doin
me like that and I was already bad with
her,she would need to have eyes on the
back of her head.So your man odn't want
you to do anything or what?
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cortney jones
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Hey
Posted: 02-16-06 16:54pm
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To tell you the truth he cant stand her
and wouldnt mind if anybody fight her. Im
not a fighter either but I will do what I
have to. She put him through alot and it
stresses him alot so I have to deal with
his stress because im with him all the
time he doesnt try to take it out on me.So
he dont care if I go off on her its
because of me that his life is happier.The
story is deeper than this but I cant put
it all on here.But its a mess. She still
want him he let her know its nothing but
she keep trying so that tells me that she
has no respect for me, him or our
relationship.Ya feel me?She talks bad
about me to him call me all kinds of
things but he defends me all the time.
You see how the other girl was trying me
askin me why im mad lol? Im not insecure
trust me im conceited im mad about the
disrespect.
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Posted: 02-17-06 09:04am
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I would be too. I would probably talk mad
caca about that girl.But you know what
would piss her off? It will be a little
hard for you to do bc she makes you mad
but when you are around her be nice as
hell,and that caca will piss her off even
more.I never thought that would work until
I tried it. And you know she will
continue to talk caca so if you do decide
to do smoething about it,stay nice and
then. . .Get her a$$! Hehehe I don't
think that would do anything but make you
feel better.Why did they break up in the
first place?How long you and your man been
together?
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cortney jones
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Hey
Posted: 02-17-06 10:50am
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Well you do have a point on the killem
with kindness. But lets see it started
like three years ago I dated him but I was
still in highschool and didnt have much
freedom so he broke up with me and met her
they hooked up.I 've loved him since then
but id moved on and went off to college he
was still with her but wanted to be with
me because he knew I loved him for him and
I made him happy.While she was stressin
him he was trying to get away but if he
couldnt come back to me he would stay with
her.Its like we both were loving each
other from a disstance cause he was with
her and I was with someone else.Well
anyway they were fallen apart and my
relationship was too. And he couldnt take
it anymore with drama and stress and
unhappiness so he ended it with her same
as me in my relationship so I ended mine
and he and I found our way back to each
other and we are as happy as we can be.
But thats how it all started I was dating
him first then he broke my heart and was
with her.Now he realizes what he did and
regrets it and he makes up for the pain he
brought me then. But now she hatin but
its cool he's my man and he's not going
anywhere we r too deep inlove .
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Melissa_20
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Posted: 02-17-06 16:00pm
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How old are the both of you? So is that
why she hates you,b/c he left her for
you?She should look at it from your point
of view cause he was yours first.
"if you set something free and
it comes back its yours!"
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Posted: 02-19-06 15:23pm
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Im 21 and he is 22 girl yes I dated him
first he told her when they were together
he still loved me she didnt care she
thought she could change him. But yes
what you said is exactly right its not
even about him not wanting her to her she
just dont want him to be with me cause she
ask him dumb stuff like why he came back
to me anybody but me she just be hating on
me
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Posted: 02-19-06 18:58pm
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Well I was in your situation ...I was the
baby mamma and the girlfriend(rebound)
that my *now fiance* was dating..Always
had to be a little health forum to me when
I called so therefore I was totally
against my babys father wouldnt let him
see our son ..Mainly because her and her
problems with me..I didnt want her taking
her hate out on my child...So I know that
you and other people arent going to agree
with me but it seems like you need to stop
worrying so much about the baby mamma
taking your man away...(if your not
worried about her taking him away then why
talk about it)..And learn to be mature and
have feelings for you man ...And leave his
baby mama alone and stop fighting with
her...Come to a compromise ..Its his baby
and he needs a part in the babys life...If
you cant deal with that then you really
dont need to be with him...Even if he has
to spend time with her and the baby
without you ...If you have no trust then
you have no relationship...
Its a part of life and alot of people are
in the same situation ...Eventhough you
might not like the girl...You have to grow
up and learn to be nice...For the babys
sake..And not trying to be mean but thats
his babys mamma..Weather you or him can
admit it ..He loves her and will always
weather she is a health forum or not...My
fiance broke it off with his girlfriend
the moment I called and told him I thought
we could work things out..And not to
mention he was with her way before me and
him were...But he still had that bond with
me(our son)and thats the most precious
thing....Now our family is complete and
together and we are as happy as can be
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Posted: 02-20-06 11:19am
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| ~*~jillian~*~
wrote: | | . . .It seems like you
need to stop worrying so much about the
baby mamma taking your man away...(if your
not worried about her taking him away then
why talk about it)..And learn to be mature
and have feelings for you man ...And leave
his baby mama alone and stop fighting with
her...Come to a compromise ..Its his baby
and he needs a part in the babys life...If
you cant deal with that then you really
dont need to be with him...Even if he has
to spend time with her and the baby
without you ...If you have no trust then
you have no
relationship... |
if you were paying attention to the actual
problem you could not be talkin. She did
not say she was worried about him going
back to her.In this case, the baby mama
.I.S. The problem.She was talking caca
first and she just wants to get back with
that babys daddy. Courtney wants to show
her she needs to cut the crap cause she
ain't gettin him back.Your experience is
not like everyone elses and its not always
the other woman who is crazy. . .
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~*~Jillian~*~
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Posted: 02-20-06 15:06pm
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| melissa_20
wrote: | | ~*~jillian~*~
wrote: | | . . .It seems like you
need to stop worrying so much about the
baby mamma taking your man away...(if your
not worried about her taking him away then
why talk about it)..And learn to be mature
and have feelings for you man ...And leave
his baby mama alone and stop fighting with
her...Come to a compromise ..Its his baby
and he needs a part in the babys life...If
you cant deal with that then you really
dont need to be with him...Even if he has
to spend time with her and the baby
without you ...If you have no trust then
you have no
relationship... |
if you were paying attention to the actual
problem you could not be talkin. She did
not say she was worried about him going
back to her.In this case, the baby mama
.I.S. The problem.She was talking health
question first and she just wants to get
back with that babys daddy. Courtney
wants to show her she needs to cut the
crap cause she ain't gettin him back.Your
experience is not like everyone elses and
its not always the other woman who is
crazy. . . |
sorry sweetheart I did read...And yeah the
girlfriend might be the problem but she
should still be the mature one about the
whole deal even if the girlfriend
isnt....And I can understand why his baby
mamma's wants him back ...Duh she has his
baby...She will probably want him back for
a long time..Until she finds someone else
to have a family with...But my whole post
was telling her that if she couldnt get
use to the girlfriend being immature and
causing problems then she didnt need to be
in the relationship in the first place
because he is the one that has to step up
and take half responsibility for that
child..Even if it means taking time out of
his day to go to his "baby mamma's
house"...So im just saying if she doesnt
like the fact of him and his baby mamma
being alone together with the child then
maybe the relationship isnt worth it
..Because without trust you cant have a
relationship...Her post made her seem
untrusting to him...So thats why I posted
the post...Thanks hun :wink:
and I said I had been in same situation
not meaning that everything was exactly
the same ...So do take everything so
literal..
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tigresacanela24
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Hey Jillian!
Posted: 02-21-06 08:30am
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What's up? How's that cute little baby
of yours?
I totally and completely agree with you
jillian but I think that we were raised
differently than most people so we really
understand what's actually important in
life and what accurately constitutes
maturity. There's no point arguing about
it with them sweetie, they're never going
to understand, they come from a completely
different world than we do....
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Melissa_20
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~*~jillian~*~
Posted: 02-21-06 14:37pm
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| ~*~jillian~*~
wrote: |
sorry sweetheart I did read...And yeah the
girlfriend might be the problem but she
should still be the mature one about the
whole deal even if the girlfriend
isnt....And I can understand why his baby
mamma's wants him back ...Duh she has his
baby...She will probably want him back for
a long time..Until she finds someone else
to have a family with...But my whole post
was telling her that if she couldnt get
use to the girlfriend being immature and
causing problems then she didnt need to be
in the relationship in the first place
because he is the one that has to step up
and take half responsibility for that
child..Even if it means taking time out of
his day to go to his "baby mamma's
house"...So im just saying if she doesnt
like the fact of him and his baby mamma
being alone together with the child then
maybe the relationship isnt worth it
..Because without trust you cant have a
relationship...Her post made her seem
untrusting to him...So thats why I posted
the post...Thanks hun :wink:
and I said I had been in same situation
not meaning that everything was exactly
the same ...So do take everything so
literal.. |
you have no idea bc obviously you have not
been on both sides of the situation.Her
fighting with the baby mama has nothing to
do with her relationship.I think the baby
mama just needs to back off even though
they have ababy together.She needs to
realize its over,let it sink in and get a
life! She is not insecure about her
relationship,she just simply does not like
the baby mama harassing him but his kid is
important to him.I would be the same way!
I think you need to look at it from
another point of view besides your own.
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Re: ~*~jillian~*~
Posted: 02-21-06 16:10pm
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| melissa_20
wrote: | | ~*~jillian~*~
wrote: |
sorry sweetheart I did read...And yeah the
girlfriend might be the problem but she
should still be the mature one about the
whole deal even if the girlfriend
isnt....And I can understand why his baby
mamma's wants him back ...Duh she has his
baby...She will probably want him back for
a long time..Until she finds someone else
to have a family with...But my whole post
was telling her that if she couldnt get
use to the girlfriend being immature and
causing problems then she didnt need to be
in the relationship in the first place
because he is the one that has to step up
and take half responsibility for that
child..Even if it means taking time out of
his day to go to his "baby mamma's
house"...So im just saying if she doesnt
like the fact of him and his baby mamma
being alone together with the child then
maybe the relationship isnt worth it
..Because without trust you cant have a
relationship...Her post made her seem
untrusting to him...So thats why I posted
the post...Thanks hun :wink:
and I said I had been in same situation
not meaning that everything was exactly
the same ...So do take everything so
literal.. |
you have no idea bc obviously you have not
been on both sides of the situation.Her
fighting with the baby mama has nothing to
do with her relationship.I think the baby
mama just needs to back off even though
they have ababy together.She needs to
realize its over,let it sink in and get a
life! She is not insecure about her
relationship,she just simply does not like
the baby mama harassing him but his kid is
important to him.I would be the same way!
I think you need to look at it from
another point of view besides your
own. |
well considering that I posted how I
felt..Thats exactly how I feel and as for
the baby mamma backing off and leaving
them alone..Um lets see here she has a
reason to bug him from day to day
..Because she has his baby...Sorry to
point this out but when you have a baby
with someone ...You will have to be
connected to that person for 18 years
weather or not you or the person you are
with wants to or not..Unless he wants to
spend some money(child support)...But im
pretty sure he wants part in his childs
life and if not he isnt worth nothing in
the first place...And no maybe I havent
been on both sides...Because seriously I
wouldnt be dating a guy with a baby
..Because im not a "family wrecker" I know
from the experience I was in to feel how
it felt for some other girl to be with my
babys father..Its not the best feeling
when you are taking care of a child by
yourself ...And paying all the bills..So
maybe sweetheart you need to look at it
from another view but your own :wink:
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Re: Hey Jillian!
Posted: 02-21-06 16:12pm
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| tigresacanela24
wrote: | what's up? How's that
cute little baby of yours?
I totally and completely agree with you
jillian but I think that we were raised
differently than most people so we really
understand what's actually important in
life and what accurately constitutes
maturity. There's no point arguing
about it with them sweetie, they're never
going to understand, they come from a
completely different world than we
do.... |
he is doing great...He said his first word
the other day..Its ouch...And its so
adorable when he says it :wink: yeah and
true about what you said...I know arguing
gets you no where ....So thats why I try
to prove my point and shut up ..But
sometimes its just tempting to make a fool
out of someone that has no idea what they
are talking about.. But anyways he is
great...And getting big !...How are you!?
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Re: ~*~jillian~*~
Posted: 02-22-06 09:15am
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| ~*~jillian~*~
wrote: |
well considering that I posted how I
felt..Thats exactly how I feel and as for
the baby mamma backing off and leaving
them alone..Um lets see here she has a
reason to bug him from day to day
..Because she has his baby...Sorry to
point this out but when you have a baby
with someone ...You will have to be
connected to that person for 18 years
weather or not you or the person you are
with wants to or not..Unless he wants to
spend some money(child support)...But im
pretty sure he wants part in his childs
life and if not he isnt worth nothing in
the first place...And no maybe I havent
been on both sides...Because seriously I
wouldnt be dating a guy with a baby
..Because im not a "family wrecker" I know
from the experience I was in to feel how
it felt for some other girl to be with my
babys father..Its not the best feeling
when you are taking care of a child by
yourself ...And paying all the bills..So
maybe sweetheart you need to look at it
from another view but your own
:wink: |
just bc she has his baby does not mean she
has the right to "bug him".Obviously he
has a life and she is just pissed bc she
is no longer in it, yet another woman she
does not like is.She does have a
connection with him but that is the only
connection and if he wanted her to bug him
more maybe he would be with her.Actually
thats probably the reason he don't like
being around her,hence the word .B.U.G!
"duh!" he wants part in his kids life but
not his baby mamas.He .C.H.O.S.E not to be
with her,which does not make cortney a
homewrecker.He simply chooses to be with
who he wants to be and it happens .N.O.T
to be his babys mama!
I think you are a nut!
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