Just That: Pospartum Depression, Husband And Wife Posted: 02-17-06 02:17am
I just need to share this and get it off
my chest. My wife and I just had a baby a
couple weeks ago. We have been
overwhelmed and surprised by the stress it
has caused.
I know the first months are the hardest
and it will get easier, but this is
insane. Our baby is quiet and gorgeous
during the day, but a screaming terror all
night long, every night. My wife is also
trying to breastfeed, with mixed results.
It is extremely painful and her nipples
are bleeding (yes, we've had
demonstrations, midwives). We are both
sleep deprived zombies, irritated and
bickering constantly.
She is normally a strong and optimistic
woman, but is now crying constantly and
frustrated. Because of the breastfeeding
difficulty she feels inadequate. She is
also locked in the house, her eyes are
dark and baggy. She is the one who gets
up in the middle of the night to feed and
really has had no sleep. I hate seeing
her go through this.
We just try to acknowledge and accept that
this is normal during this time, and it
will pass.
I am also experiencing a lack of sexual
attraction to her as well. I hope that
improves. It seems the baby so far has
turned our lives upside down.
I'm sick of hearing about cheery moms with
babies that "gee, I don't know, he just
goes to sleep all night! Everything's
great!"
i know this is temporary, the baby is
wonderful, but can anyone relate to the
magnitude of this whole experience? The
difficulty?
