Do you think i should have gone with my initial instinct?
Yes
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No
23%
[ 3 ]
Total Votes : 13
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Missmousy86
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Feb 2006 Posts: 3 Location: Australia
I Had An Abortion Yesterday Posted: 02-24-06 02:53am
Hi I am 19 years old and in my second year
of my apprenticeship. 2 weeks ago I found
out I was pregnant, I was so shocked but
also in a way excited as i've always
wanted a baby, and my initial instinct was
to keep it. I have a boyfriend who I have
been with for 2 years and very supportive
parents. When I told my mum she didnt
make a big deal out of it she was more
supportive than anything but my dad and my
boyfriend on the other hand were really
shocked and almost angry at me. Every
since I can remember ive always been
against having an abortion and if the
conversation came up I would always say I
would never do it. But as the days went
on everyone kept telling me that it was
only "cells" and it wasnt a baby and
having it terminated would be the best
thing for me and the baby. I didnt agree
from day one but in the end after changing
my mind 100 times I decided I would get
the abortion to make everyone happy and so
my bf n I could get on with our lives. My
biggest fear was losing him so I made the
appointment and went into the clinic
yesterday morning. I was so scared and
upset I barely spoke. I watched the
screen when I had the ultra sound and
immediately felt sick but I was too scared
to change my mind. I ended up going
through with the whole thing and yesterday
I was almost relieved. But this morning I
woke up feeling numb and instantly feeling
guilty and angry at myself.
Its still too early for me to decide if it
was the right thing to do or not but right
now in my head im finding it really really
difficult to come to terms with what I had
done. I really hope this feeling goes
away but I can say one thing for sure if I
found out I was pregnant again I would not
be even considering an abortion whether it
means I lose everyone and anything,
because I think if I did it again I
couldnt live with myself.
Thanks for reading probably turns out as
just a bunch of words that dont make sense
but I needed to get it off my chest thanks
:)
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Moo
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Joined: 20 Feb 2006 Posts: 1045 Location: London
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Posted: 02-24-06 07:17am
It makes sense. The feeling wont last
forever.
I've sent you a private message
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Tazzy D
Advanced Support Team
Joined: 30 Oct 2004 Posts: 3717 Location: , va
Posted: 02-24-06 10:14am
It def. Makes sense... We are here for
you.. Making a decision like that is very
hard and you felt that you where making
the best decision for your life.. If you
need to vent or talk about it please do
so....
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Tylanas
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Joined: 13 Jul 2005 Posts: 12985
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Posted: 02-24-06 10:52am
An abortion is an extremely hard choice to
make, and now, after the fact, t doesn't
matter if it was the "right" thing or thr
"wrong" thing. You did it, so now you
should do your best to make sure that it
was the right desicion :) finish your
apprenticeship, love your boyfriend, etc.
Another consideration is preventing future
pregnancy until you are ready again. Are
you on any form of birth control besides
the "pull out", "prayer", or "body rhythm"
methods? The pills work great, as do
iud's.
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acoles70
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Nov 2005 Posts: 191 Location: KY
Posted: 02-24-06 14:35pm
There is nothing you can do about it know,
but a word of advice: never let anyone
else make decisions for you.
Ashlee
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Missmousy86
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Feb 2006 Posts: 3 Location: Australia
Posted: 02-24-06 21:58pm
Thanks so much for your support guys. The
thing that really scared me was that I was
actually taking the pill and I didnt miss
a day at all and I took it pretty much at
the same time everyday so im thinking I
might try something else lol.
Thanks again :)
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Moo
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Joined: 20 Feb 2006 Posts: 1045 Location: London
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Posted: 02-25-06 08:17am
I got pregnant when taking the pill
correctly too and it is a shock to the
system. I'd definately look into getting
something different, I have a mirena ius
at the moment and it's a very good
contraceptive if you can use it (i've had
probelms with alot of methods).
Good luck, I hope you start to feel better
soon. Don't beat yourself up about it
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Missmousy86 Posted: 02-25-06 20:29pm
What is done is done, you must forgive
yourself and move on. I too was on b/c
and lost mine, so we never know, we cannot
live by what would have, could have,
should have. When the time is right you
will both know it. We are here for you!
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UndeservingOfAnotherLife
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Apr 2006 Posts: 3
Posted: 04-04-06 14:22pm
I can't live with myself for the one I
got. I hope you can come to terms with
it, I haven't been able to. I think you
should always go with your first intinct,
but I didn't go with mine either. And if
your bf would leave you for not getting
the abortion then he's not worth having as
your bf.
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babulal
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Jun 2006 Posts: 3 Location: china
Posted: 06-07-06 11:17am
The thing that u did was to make everyoen
happy but not urself. Teh abortion , I
think, was a good decision at last cause
if u hadnt done that then theer could
have been some problems in between ur
boyfriend and also within ur family,
especially with ur dad. Well, what I
wanna say is that abortion isnt a solution
of that problem. Nomatter what, I dont
think u can ever be teh same now. Be
careful with teh further relationship and
use soem safety measure so that no new
life is wasted again. U said that if u
become pregnant again then u will go with
ur initial instinct but what I suggest u
in that never let urself in such
dilema.Thsi is a matter where u and ur
boyfriend both will have to think, never
bring urself in such condition where u
have to choose someones life and death.
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