I need some help, I have a big problem. I
am a married man and have been for 10
years. For the last 3-4 years I have been
falling farther and farther out of love
for her. We are still very good friends
but I dont feel like I am in love with her
any more. Ok, now what I need your help
with. I met some one else. This person
is so great I have been seeing her for
about 5 months now and I really feel like
I am in love with her. She makes me feel
like im a kid again. I really see this
woman in every thoght I have about me
futare. I have 30 of my life I will need
to leave behind to be with her and of all
the material things to leave, I could care
less, my only concern is hurting my wife
and leaving her by herself. Please help
me and give me some advice. Thank you.
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ironmantaylors
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Nov 2005 Posts: 38 Location: montana
My Advice Posted: 02-25-06 00:18am
I will say, having been divorced now for 5
months, that seems like it will be easier
to "work things out" in a marriage, than
to start over.
You may have shut that door by having an
affair. Consider this, if you will
cheat on your wife, will your mistress
ever be able to fully trust you?
Also, quilt is a main cause of
unhappiness, or lack of inner peace, so if
you stay with you wife without telling
her, will you ever be happy? And if you
do tell her, can she ever trust you?
Sorry to be so negative, but just want to
keep it real for you.
Advice:..............Tell wife, see what
happens............If she is willing to
work on it...........You have a good
woman..........And that is worth keeping.
If she can not forgive
you.............Good luck........My
advice.
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ronnienicho1
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Feb 2006 Posts: 3
There Are Typically No Happy Endings... Posted: 02-25-06 07:29am
In affairs. The newness will wear and if
it's truly love if she's in a relationship
it that much harder, i'm dealing now.
Leaving a marriage is harder than you
think. I didn't have the guts myself.
I wish you the best!
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Jennifer23
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Oct 2005 Posts: 76 Location: Texas
Posted: 02-25-06 15:45pm
You should have communicated a long time
ago with your wife before you just went
out and fell in love with another woman!
You've broken the trust in your marriage
and it could also effect the relationship
that you're in with the other woman, if
that's the route you choose to go.
There are several things that ya'll could
have done to reconcile this marriage and
it seems to me like you didn't even give
that a chance. Of course, i'm not there
and I don't know what all you've done or
not done. You need to tell your wife
about your infidelity and truly have a
heart to heart talk. You also need to
really decide what you want out of life
and where you see yourself in 10 years.
Listen to your heart and be true to
yourself! This relationship you're in
with your mistress is new, so of course
it's gonna make you feel young and
refreshed because it's different from the
same ol' same ol'.
Communicate with your wife and figure out
what both of ya'll really want.
Someone's gonna get hurt ... It's a part
of life. You have to deal with it.
Good luck!
